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Lollypop lady doesn't like me

86 replies

Namechange6005 · 20/08/2020 23:21

I moved to the area 4 years ago. There are a few lollypop folk on the way to school but this one lives on my street and works just at the end of our road. I am quite friendly and when I moved here I spoke to the lollypop people but this one whenever I crossed the road never spoke to me and still hasn't 4 years later. I say thank you when I cross the road but she never says a word to me but she will talk to dc and she talks to other people a lot! She has always just watched me with beady eyes. There was a short time before lockdown she would give me a strained smile when I crossed the road but that's it. I feel awkward in a way when I pass because I never know if I should say thank you or just ignore her altogether because she is clearly being rude to me. 4 years crossing the road with her! Confused😂

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Quirrelsotherface · 21/08/2020 06:43

You see it all the time on here, 'have you ever disliked someone you don't know' and the like. She just doesn't like you and it's all to do with her. Don't take it personally. Let it goooo...

WhoWouldHaveThoughtThat · 21/08/2020 07:15

Can you not just buy your lollipops somewhere else?

clearedfortakeoff · 21/08/2020 07:17

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myusernamewastakenbyme · 21/08/2020 07:22

Ahhh my kids are all grown up now but they used to call the lollipop lady the 'cross light lady'....they were about 4 and 5 at the time.

daisypond · 21/08/2020 07:28

I’ve never seen a lollipop person in my entire life. Perhaps they were around when I was a small child but I certainly don’t remember any. I’m in my 50s. I’m astounded that they actually exist, and am equally astounded by all the posters who have them near them.

foamrolling · 21/08/2020 07:37

I'm with bereft, why the heck would you ring the school office to report a missing lollipop person?? And then report your conversation with their colleague? Very odd. I wonder whether that's the issue or whether you've done some other odd stuff...

CaptainMyCaptain · 21/08/2020 07:39

@EltonJohnsSunglasses

I want to know what area you are in to have a few of them on the way to school. Haven’t seen a lollipop lady or man round here for years. Wish they were still common, a great idea.
Plenty where I live.
BlueJava · 21/08/2020 07:47

Just ignore her or give her a brief "thanks" and move quickly on. I think you are overthinking it a bit! She's providing a service nothing more.

legalseagull · 21/08/2020 07:48

I don't really expect, or desire, any relationship above "morning" and "thanks". This is bizarre Grin

CaptainMyCaptain · 21/08/2020 07:53

@lollipopwoman

It pissed me right off when you called the school about Martin. I got a telling off.
It appears the OP has her answer.
AlwaysLatte · 21/08/2020 08:04

Haha! Beady eyed lollipop lady not liking you is more funny than worrying!

WaltzfortheMars · 21/08/2020 08:17

"I have spoken to her once when a lollypop man stationed with her didn't turn up to work quite unexpectedly and I asked if he was OK and she said she didn't know because noone tells her anything! I then called the school office and they said the lollypop lady shouldn't have said that to me so"

Why did you call the school office and told them what she said? That's very weird thing to do. Almost like you are trying to get her into trouble.

kursaalflyer · 21/08/2020 08:18

Can I ask why you phoned the school about the missing lollipop man? What about if an assistant was missing from the newsagent's? A teacher was absent? Librarian? Postman? I'm intrigued. And to repeat what the other lollipop person had said? Shock

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Namechange6005 · 21/08/2020 08:23

@AlwaysLatte

Haha! Beady eyed lollipop lady not liking you is more funny than worrying!
I had intended for the thread to be funny and not taken seriously! Some people are just so strange and seems like some other people on the thread have some equally weird experiences with random people. To everyone wondering why I phoned the school about the lollypop man I was genuinely concerned something had happened to him. Maybe I am over invested in the lollypop guides 😂
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CaptainMyCaptain · 21/08/2020 08:28

The lollipop people aren't employed directly by the school anyway. At least not in my county, they are employed by the Local Authority.

Notredamn · 21/08/2020 08:29

😂
we used to have one near us and I always really wanted to cross the road much further up than her spot but I'd go out of my way to cross with her doing her lolly pop thing as I didn't want to cause imaginary offence.

OntheWaves40 · 21/08/2020 09:48

We have three in our village, in prominent spots and when you have no kids it’s always a bit awkward.
I once said to one, it’s ok thanks I’ll cross myself and she insisted on crossing me every though I was the only person. I wonder if all the parents on their way back home feel equally awkward

taybert · 21/08/2020 10:10

My driving instructor once told me that lollipop people are kept in a cupboard and they just get them out at school time and home time then put them away again when they’ve done their job. Perhaps use this concept as a basis for starting a discussion?

ClinkyMonkey · 21/08/2020 10:21

I was totally with you until you said you rang the school to ask about the lollipop man. I mean there's caring about a fellow human being and then there's weird! I talk to our lollipop man every day (well, pre Covid - have now forgotten where the school is). I've bumped into him and his wife out shopping and had a good old yarn. I know where he's from - foreigner, ie EnglishGrin living in NI, I know what football team he supports, the names of his grandchildren. All volunteered to me by the way - I'm not nosey, or even particularly sociable! And STILL I would not ring the school to find out to find out why he was off. I would most definitely ask him if he was ok when I saw him again - if he'd been gone a while, a week or two maybe.

On the subject of the lollipop lady, though, I would find that really annoying. People can be as grumpy as they like - I know I am at times - but when they're ok with everyone else, it can make you a bit paranoid. There used to be a woman whose twins were in the same class as my eldest and I saw her every day. I said hello a couple of times and she blanked me. Fine. Maybe she was shy, couldn't be bothered with people, whatever. But she talked to everyone else! And was very animated. So it really must have been me she had a problem with. My DS got along well enough with her twins - not bosom buddies but certainly never any issues between them. When I was passing her I would pretend I'd spotted something up a tree or I'd look at my phone, or rummage in my bag. It made me uncomfortable twice a day, every school day, for five years until her children started to walk to school by themselves.

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Namechange6005 · 21/08/2020 10:44

Haha I can't believe I did phone the school now after people pointing out how odd it seems lol but the truth is I was genuinely concerned that he was lying facing down on his kitchen floor undiscovered and hurt. I don't know why I was thinking that. Seems really silly now!

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ClinkyMonkey · 21/08/2020 10:52

To be fair, OP, you sound like a lovely, caring person.

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Namechange6005 · 21/08/2020 11:21

Thanks that was a nice thing to say @ClinkyMonkey

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LivingDeadGirlUK · 21/08/2020 11:24

I have a similar issue with a lollypop man XD

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Namechange6005 · 21/08/2020 11:26

Lol

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LivingDeadGirlUK · 21/08/2020 11:27

TBF I think mine is grumpy with everyone.

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