Do you need to give your parents notice before you visit or can you just turn up?

[LizzieBlackwell]

Inspired by another thread.

Could you just drop in for a quick hello or even stay the night or would you have to plan ahead.

I have keys to my grannies house ( she raised me) and through out my life many times I’ve just turned up and she never batted an eye lid. If she was going bingo she’s still go and see me when she got back There wasn’t food in I’d pop to the shop or order a take away.

Do you ‘visit’ or do you just see it as going back home?

Would you need your adult children to give you notice or are you/would you be happy for them to just turn up and even sieve the night?

Notice, though not much. Usually message them the morning we intend to visit.

So do you turn up unannounced to those who don't like it @madroid?

I would think nothing of turning up unannounced and informing them i am there for a week.
In practice I speak to my mother most days so I would say if I was visiting. But I never gave my key back and have plenty of stuff there.

I still have a key. They have a key to our house. We always ring ahead, it's just polite surely. I want to make sure they're in before I turn up and I don't want to catch them up to anything!

MIL used to turn up at our house unannounced all of the time until one day we had gone out. She phoned DH complaining that we weren't in!

They're rarely free so we always arrange a suitable time. If we we're passing, which we rarely do we'd always be welcome to visit if they were in.

Both my DDs now live relatively close ( 15 and 20 mins away ) have keys and sometimes just turn up but more often message first to check if it is convenient or if we are there at all. They have both taken to ringing on the doorbell rather than just walking in - not sure why, they haven’t walked in on anything embarrassing ! I’m always pleased to see them.

Equally, I would not just turn up at their respective flats- I’d check if it was convenient first.

@ineedaholidaynow my youngest lives a couple of hours drive away. No, it doesn't bother me. We speak almost daily and she has her own key to come and go as she pleases. Her bedroom is still viewed as her bedroom as is my other child's.
She will be calling in today to collect my dog to look after it for a week while I'm away.
There is no set time, she will be here when she's here.
Normally, like the others she just uses her key to let herself in if there's no one home and proceeds to put the kettle on before chomping her way through the biscuits or making a sandwich.
You have to let go of them at some point when they reach adulthood.
@LizzieBlackwell no, we're not, just still see it as home probably. Yes, it's still ' your bedroom ' . We've probably never really moved out in their eyes 😂