Men driving their female partners car when both travel in it

[HelenUrth]

On my road there are two couples where both the man and woman have their own car, but if they both go out in the woman's car, the man always drives it, also the woman never drives the man's car. One couple is 50s, the other 60s. Does anyone here do the same and would you mind sharing why?

[Hoggleludo]

We're the same. Though if we go out as a family. We take dh car. His is bigger.

I had a really horrific car accident many years ago. I ended up on my roof and it took them over 7 hrs to cut me out. I had to be lifted to hospital by helicopter. I had to have over a years driving lessons after to regain my confidence.

So when we go out. I like dh to drive. My car is automatic. But his is manual. I find his clutch way too heavy. The accident left me with weaker left leg.

However if I'm doing school runs. Or short journeys. I don't mind taking my car.

[BeingATwatItsABingThing]

We’re the opposite. If we’re both in the car (either car), I drive. I’m a really anxious passenger and just feel much better when I’m driving myself. My DH doesn’t care and knows how much it bothers me. I’m also the better driver.

My Dad drives regardless of whether they go in his car or my Mum’s car. She will avoid driving at all costs because she really hates it. My dad enjoys driving.

[camelsandcaramel]

I'll gladly let my husband drive anytime, any place anywhere! I don't care who's car we're in, just let me play on my phone and be chauffeured! Yes please!!

[WowLucky]

We don't have our own cars, we each drive which ever one we get into/is best for the trip and number of passengers.

If we go out together he will usually drive. I'm happy for the time off.

[Tiktokcringeydance]

I am a foot shorter than DH and he sometimes uses my car if he goes out on his own. Its not a problem to change the seat...? (well he huffs and puffs for effect if he gets in to drive when we're all going out, but I don't have a problem pulling the seat forward and adjusting the mirror!)

[Thisdressneedspockets]

I don't think I've ever been a passenger in my own car. Maybe if we've been somewhere and I've decided to have a drink.

[Yankathebear]

We both drive both cars equally.
Dd also drives and will drive us in her car or we drive her car sometimes.
The only time that I ask DH or Dd to drive is on long journeys because I don’t enjoy motorways. They do.

Nowt to do with gender or age in our house.

[MrsPinkCock]

DH drives my car because he’s a really shit passenger and I honestly can’t be arsed to argue with him every two minutes. I chucked him out on a dual carriageway once because he pissed me off that much and that was the last time I drove with him as a passenger.

And we go in my car because it’s a sporty convertible and his isn’t!

The irony is he’s a far worse driver than me

[SimonJT]

I do all the driving as my boyfriend can’t drive, even when he passes his test there is no way I’ll ever let him drive my car. I’m more than happy to be a passenger in someone elses car, but no one is allowed to drive mine.

[Hoggleludo]

Though I love driving with my father. He was a police officer and has a class 1a driving licence. (I could of got that wrong. But he was a police drive at one point. It takes a while to get to the top for that).

He's a phenomenal driver. We had w guy guy is up. I was about 11. At the next roundabout the guy got out with a massive metal pole and ran for us. We were stuck at a roundabout. Lots of traffic. My father somehow got us through and then we got a police escort. After the guy ran after us. It was frightening yet cool!! Ha.

[TeenPlusTwenties]

DH's car is bigger than I would like to drive, with a weird handbrake.

DH will generally drive if he and I go in my car as he enjoys driving whereas I'm more neutral about it.

[thatcarolebaskinbitch]

Opposite way for us too, I'm an anxious passenger and prefer driving most of the time, DP will drive if I ask him too though. I never drive his car as I'm not insured on it cos it's crap but he's insured on mine.

[Velvian]

I hate this, op. I knocked it on the head very early with DH. His whole family were aghast that we shared driving equally, they've got over now though.

[BraveGoldie]

Yup DP always drives when we are together. I get to relax! Way less stressful - I am so grateful. I sit, gaze out the window and chat instead of stressing with a task.

For me, it is a crappy job like taking out the bins, and ironing, which he also does! 😄

[Costacoffeeplease]

My husband does all the driving whichever car we’re in, I’m more than happy with that as he’s a better driver and I’m disabled. I can drive but l only do it when I absolutely have to

[BraveGoldie]

Why are we so keen for men to pull their weight around the house? (In fact making them take responsibility for things is a feminist imperative) but not this one?

Of course if you LIKE driving then no reason to let the man do it, but otherwise.....

[june2007]

My husband is a more confident driver then me so tends to drive. He doesn't drive my car as he doesn't like it but otherwise he probably would. I prefer him to drive then be aback seat driver as well.

[SiaPR]

I like a glass of wine so I am the eternal passenger. I also prefer my car, so frequently choose to take that.

[Allnamesaregone]

Nope- we drive our own cars, unless it’s a long journey then we share the driving. My car’s bigger so we use it for that.
DH would happily give up driving and take the bus, so we use my car more often. We plan to drop to one medium sized car once the kids have left home.

[MaggieMay1972]

My dh drives/rides an ancient motorbike so we always take my car and I drive. He’s totally cool with that.

[Cambionome]

I honestly think this happens a lot although hopefully not as much with younger couples.

I know several middle aged/older couples where the man always drives on longer journeys when they are both in the car together. The problem with this is that the person who drives less will obviously be a less experienced driver and can gradually become less confident. My sil was like this; she and bil drive abroad quite a lot but she wasn't confident with this so now he always does it. Then she started to be worried about driving on motorways so stopped, next she started to lose confidence about driving at night. The latest thing is that she is becoming reluctant to drive in the rain.

The truth is that she hardly drives at all anymore and the less she drives the less confident she becomes. She doesn't suffer from any ill health or eyesight problems and is exactly the same age as me. I have gone the other way since divorce and now happily drive abroad, drive onto ferries etc.

Keep your skill sets up - you can't always rely on someone else to do stuff for you and driving skills/confidence are easily lost.

[newbienewbie20]

I do all the driving regardless which car we take, I love driving, husband hates it. Never gave it much more thought than that...

[ZigZagIntoTheBlue]

I always drive unless I specifically request not to, I hate being the passenger and DH is better away turning round and dealing with the kids, it makes me feel sick to do so.

[SummerHouse]

DP likes driving and I like being a passenger. I don't like driving and DP doesn't like being a passenger. We are like Jack Sprat and his wife.

[WiryTail]

We have a car each. In my car I always drive.
In his we just see who feels like it.