Men driving their female partners car when both travel in it

[HelenUrth]

On my road there are two couples where both the man and woman have their own car, but if they both go out in the woman's car, the man always drives it, also the woman never drives the man's car. One couple is 50s, the other 60s. Does anyone here do the same and would you mind sharing why?

[Orangesox]

Ha no, this doesn't happen in our house! I detest DH driving my car, he seems to need to move everything, whereas if I drive his Car I only seem to need to move the seat forward by about 2 inches. Strange.

My next car is going to have electrically adjustable seats with memory so that DH can drive me around in my car after I have my next spinal surgery and can share some of the driving when we travel long distance. His car is a silly low thing that I almost need a crane to get in and out of, so we're usually in my car, with me driving.

[CheshireCats]

Because I hate driving, and given the chance would prefer to be chauffeured!

[DefinatelyAWeeGobshite]

We do this. If we go out in the car he’ll drive the majority of the time. He works from from home and I commute so he likes to drive places while I’m happy to take a seat and just chill. Sometimes my travel sickness is really bad though so we’ll switch or if we travelled a long distance we’d switch.

He has his own car that I’d never drive because I just don’t want to, plus my car is more spacious and a good family car, his was a do upper that he’s been tinkering with for over a year.

We’re in our 30s

[Jazzled]

We're the opposite.

I've refused to insure DH for my car because he's an awful drive and has points so it would cost more. I'm insured on his and will drive whenever possible.

[Shakirasma]

If we go out together I always drive. That's because I cant stand his driving as I feel he drives to close to the car in front and it makes me nervous.

We have argued more than once about him trying to tell me how to drive though, like I need his advice! I've been driving for 25 years without so much as a bump. He certainly
cant say the same.

[tuxedobeauty]

I'm surprised at the amount of women who use the journey with the man at the wheel for relaxation or reading. I've only ever asked my partner to drive my car when we've either shared a 7 hour drive or on an occasion I was ill. I know he'd consider it undermining to presume to be the driver.

[fairlyplump]

My hubby always drives when we are together, no matter who's car. I love it cause I prefer to be a passenger.

[Tiktokcringeydance]

DH nearly always drives when we go somewhere regardless who's car we use. He thinks hes a better driver (he isn't but he is slightly better at parking)
He's always fine with my (supposedly inferior) driving when he's had a beer or 2. He starts off giving patronising instructions but I ignore him and if the journeys long enough hopefully he'll fall asleep anyway. Its much more relaxing driving with my DC!

[CampDragon]

We like to buck the trend in our house. I am definitely the better, safer driver of the two of us. If we're both in the car then I'll be driving. Unless we've been to MIL and FIL's house for a meal, in which case I drive there and he drives back. Because he doesn't really drink, and FIL always gives me lots of lovely wine.

Find it a bit sad that in so many couples the man seems to feel the need to be in control. Having a penis does not automatically make you a better driver. It's especially confusing when the woman arguably has the best driving record yet always lets the man drive, even if it's her car: I can think of at least two couples who are an example of this! FIL will even insist on driving after a glass of wine, when MIL hasn't had any alcohol. I find that utterly nonsensical.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

He drives his, I drive mine. We usually go places in his as I prefer to use his diesel than mine :o

[CatFaceCats]

I always preferred my ex to drive. I like to sit back, relax, maybe have a nap!

[Ughmaybenot]

We have a few vehicles, a pick up truck (mainly mine), a couple of work vans (DH mainly uses one of these but they’re kind of ‘pool’ cars for the guys who work for us) and a car which is shared.
If we go out together he generally drives because he loves driving. I have chronic health issues (v painful joints and bad back etc) so take any chance I can to not drive as it exacerbates my issues.

[Boringnamechanging]

I usually drive but that's because dh drives a lot for work and my car is the one with the car seats. Occasionally he'll 'help' with my driving but this is meet with a glare and he stops.

[EatsShootsAndRuns]

This is because ..... he's the head of our family?

What makes him head of the family? You are PARTNERS not Head Honcho and underling fgs! Do you also walk behind him? Jeez cop onto yourself.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

That said.....

ExDH didnt drive so I did all the driving and learned to drive while with first husband so drove everywhere as practise. As 1stH had to drive for work we fell into the habit of me doing all the driving which suited us both.

If me and BF lived together I could see him assuming that he was the driver, but then again his ex didnt drive so he is in the habit as I am.....could be a power struggle :o

[BogRollBOGOF]

We tend to stick to our own cars. DH is nearly a foot taller so changing position is a PITA. His car just was not designed for a short woman and my leg is cramped into an awkward position at a tight angle in order to be able to reach the pedal and see over the steering wheel.

Both our cars are 7 seaters, DH's being marginally bigger, but mine is far more comfortable.

DH tends to drive. He's happy to, and I'm happy to let him as I do enough domestic stuff. I'm happy to drive though, just cam't be bothered to be competitive about it.

My friend always drives because she gets car sick.

[Ughmaybenot]

Head of the family? That’s a joke... surely... hopefully... please?

[BogRollBOGOF]

I drove more when we had one 0+ car seat.

[Tiktokcringeydance]

On long journeys when the DC were little, I'm sure DH just offered to drive so he didn't have to deal with Dc arguing,answering their questions, handing out 58 billion snacks, adjudicating whos turn it was to choose a mind numbingly boring story cd, positioning a water bottle so someone could wee, hoiking out a towel or plastic bag so someone could vomit and confirm all directions despite the fact we had the bloody sat nav on!

[AliasGrape]

We both have our own cars. If we’re going anywhere individually we’d use our own cars as no reason not to really. Unless there’s an issue with one of them.

Usually if we go out together, in either car, he drives. I just don’t particularly enjoy driving and he likes it. I used to get really anxious about driving, I’m much better now and it doesn’t bother me really, but I don’t get any real enjoyment from it either.

Yesterday I was giving him a lift somewhere but I made him drive there then I drove back, I did drive both ways when I collected him though! I’m pregnant so not drinking, so pre lockdown if he wanted a drink I’d still get him to do the outward sober journey then I’d drive back.

I do drive his car occasionally but I much prefer to drive my own. I think we’ll use his more regularly once the baby is here though as it has more room for pram and is 4 door whereas mine is 2. There’s talk of swapping whilst I’m on mat leave or possibly permanently.

[FatBottomedGurl]

I much prefer going out in OH car, with him driving because then I'm not using all my fuel

[Fluffiest]

We do this. DH enjoys driving, I don't. His car is twice as big as mine so is more awkward for me to park.

[Thesaltandthesea]

We drive each other's cars equally and take turns in who drinks on a night out etc. I think we are in the minority though.

[Monsterjam]

I don’t particularly enjoy driving, I find it a chore so if I get the chance to let anyone else drive I will.

[PyongyangKipperbang]

BF did once try to "help" with my driving. Him with points and various dings and me with NONE. I stopped, asked him if he preferred to walk and he apologised and tries hard not to do it anymore (doesnt always manage it but does say sorry if I raise my eyebrows!).