Men driving their female partners car when both travel in it

[HelenUrth]

On my road there are two couples where both the man and woman have their own car, but if they both go out in the woman's car, the man always drives it, also the woman never drives the man's car. One couple is 50s, the other 60s. Does anyone here do the same and would you mind sharing why?

[ShowOfHands]

Thinking about it further, DH does short trips and I do long ones. So, going to see MIL 20 minutes away, he drives. Norfolk to Devon on holiday, we get up at 2am and DH and the dc sleep while I drive all the way apart from wee and tea breaks and I wake them up as we get there in time for breakfast.

[mencken]

if navigation needed he drives, works better that way. :-) In fact I quite like being driven, can admire the scenery, we have a lot of scenery round here.

[FedUpofLockdown123]

My mum hates driving so always makes my step dad drive when they go out in her car together. He's a much more laid back driver/parker. She wouldn't even attempt to drive his car as it's so much bigger. They rarely go out in his car together it's always my mum's car for some reason but he still ends up being made to drive majority of the time.

[FizzyPink]

DP always drives when we go out except if I’m picking him up after he’s had a drink. I am frankly a terrible driver and have no spacial awareness and he thinks we get places quicker if he drives. Also for him it’s not a big deal whereas I have to really think about it and concentrate harder

[CoodleMoodle]

Also, when we were at uni he sold his car as he was unwell and didn't feel confident driving. I did ALL of the driving for six or seven years, including 8 hours to Scotland from London, the day after our wedding.

So now I make him drive because I did enough of it then!

[Nquartz]

DH always drives regardless of which car we're in because he's mega tall & if he has the passenger seat back far enough to be comfortable DD doesnt have enough leg room (I always have small cars, his is the main 'family' car, he does way more miles than me)

[IwishIhadaMargarita]

Dh likes driving and I hate and I hate him telling me how to drive, ‘oh speed up here!’ ‘You’re moving too soon through the gears!’

[LightStars]

DP enjoys driving & I hate it, it feels like a real chore to me so I only drive if I absolutely have to or if DP is having a drink.

[ifoundthebread]

My parents do this. Reasons being is my mother prefers to be I her car as my fathers is too low and my father drives because my mother simply prefers to be a passenger when possible.

[moreofthegreenstuff]

I'm better at both driving and navigating

DH has a van so whenever we go out together, we use my car. I usually drive both ways, but occasionally he will drive one way and I'll drive the other. On very long journeys we tend to swap over at motorway service stations and take turns.

[Aurorie11]

I drive most if not all of the time. I get travel sick so helps driving, DH can read in the car, I'd be v v sick if I did that. He's also a bit of an impatient driver, so less stressful if I drive!

[mimifroufrou]

We only have one car that I commute to work and back in everyday. It's nice to be driven around socially.

[TARSCOUT]

DP drives as.I generally don't enjoy it.

[woodhill]

I'm the same, I hate driving with my dh in the car

[Chasingsquirrels]

I don't particularly enjoy driving, certainly wouldn't do it for pleasure.

Mostly I'll drive my car, but sometimes I'll ask my bloke to.
Same with both my ex and late husband.

[lyralalala]

We do it for two reasons. Firstly the height issue. He's over a foot taller than me and we have car seats in the back. Secondly he enjoys driving and I find it stressful. He doesn't drive much when he's away with work whereas I do all the school runs and the likes so when he's home it's his turn imo.

[Skyliner001]

My partner prefers driving to me, I'm not that keen on driving, i am completely indifferent to it. He loves driving so he would probably always drive. It's great!

[Grasspigeons]

The OP desribes us. One reason is my DH is a terrible passenger and another is he is really heavy and i have a small car and i dont actually like how it handles with all his weight on the passenger side.

Another is i am a less confident driver which is due to female socialisation i think.

[Flixsfoilball]

If we go out together the driver mostly depends on which car we take - we take mine, I drive, we take his, he drives.

The default driver is me though as I have been driving longer so am more confident (and I have a nicer car!)

[Oblomov20]

Dh nearly always drives when we go out, him and me, or as a family. In his car obviously. And actually in mine. This is because ..... he's the head of our family? Because he's an expert, taken all the top drivers qualifications?
And is a much better driver than me?

[ShinyFootball]

I like driving.

He is not so keen.

He drives for a living (TFL, support).

We have 2 cars and they are just ours.

So I always drive when we go out as a family or a couple. He gets enough in his day job. And he's not as good a driver as me

A lot of people seem surprised when we roll up- there's definitely a gender aspect to this.

[Mimx]

I have a long driving commute, so prefer to not be driving when we’re out together as a break from it.

[ShinyFootball]

How do you get to the the head of the family, oblomov?

[TerribleCustomerCervix]

DH are exactly as you describe in your op.

He drives 95% of the time when we’re using my car as I can’t be bothered. There’s usually a quarrel about who has to drive before I hop into the passenger seat.

I never drive his car because it’s a basic Dacia and I’d rather use my Polo.