Men driving their female partners car when both travel in it

[HelenUrth]

On my road there are two couples where both the man and woman have their own car, but if they both go out in the woman's car, the man always drives it, also the woman never drives the man's car. One couple is 50s, the other 60s. Does anyone here do the same and would you mind sharing why?

Oh & I avoid driving his car if I can because it’s a manual & I prefer my automatic (probably because I hate driving anyway) whereas he doesn’t mind driving either car.

My friend is married to an Indian man and they live in India. He will always drive if she is there. But when they moved to the UK, he was so happy to have her drive because 'here no one will judge him for it'. Whereas in India, he felt he would be very judged if he was a passenger and a woman was driving! Although it was fine for her to drive alone there.

It's seem Tre' was right when she said there are girl jobs and boy jobs...

I drive for short journeys because I like driving and don’t like DH’s driving (he’s hesitant, doesn’t anticipate the road and not great at manoeuvres). He does more on longer journeys as he’s got more stamina than me and I can be a bit of a daydreamer

We don't necessarily do this all the time, but dh does drive more often than me when we go out together even if it's in my car. It's because I'm lazy and like being chauffeured about. Nothing more sinister than that. He quite often reaches the keys to me quite hopefully and says 'do you want to drive?'. I take my turn on long journeys but for the every day stuff I usually just let him do it.

I prefer him to drive 💁‍♀️

My DH always drives cause I hate driving. We have generally been using my car cause his was a lease so only get so many miles whereas I own mine. However, no he owns his we'll probably split the cars.

Usually I’m happy for DH to drive if we are going out in my car, just because it saves me driving ( and I potentially get to have a drink if it’s a social occasion, he’s very generous like that.). It’s genuinely not an issue between us, if I want to drive I do.

Usually because I can't be arsed or want to have a drink if we're out for food. He's also a fair bit taller than me and finds the drivers seat more comfortable as the baby seat behind the passenger side means it doesn't go back as far.

I do have a friend who insists her dh drives (amongst many other things) because 'it's a mans job' despite her being a fairly self sufficient person before she met him she now won't drive anywhere and is completely dependent on the dh. It's painful to see, and infuriating as a feminist!

I was amazed once when a colleague said that when she sees a couple where the woman is driving, she assumes that the man has had his driving license removed due to drink driving or speeding or whatever.

We do this, my husbands car is a lot fancier than mine and I don’t drive it but he’ll happily drive mine when we go out together. Didn’t realise people actually noticed this and feel it’s worth posting online about. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I get really tired out by driving long distances. He doesn’t, so if we’re going out together, we tend to go in his car and he drives.

I use the biggest of our two cars, DH has a little run around as he has a very short commute.

He usually drives if we go out as a family, he likes driving, I'm not fussed about driving.

FWIW I always pick the car. He has very little say!

@simonisnotme

if local i drive my car, if going camping he drives my car although im sure he would rather me drive everywhere as he claims he cant see very well early mornings

Is that you Mrs Cummings???

was amazed once when a colleague said that when she sees a couple where the woman is driving, she assumes that the man has had his driving license removed due to drink driving or speeding or whatever

Really? My DGM always drove GD didn’t have a licence. SIL always drives because DB never had lessons. That’s an odd assumption she has.

DH always drives us because I’m lazy & he parallel parks better.

Other way around here. I drive 90% of the time when we go out together. We only have one car. I love driving and much prefer it to being a passenger.

Why have you decided to create an issue out of this? So much so that you’ve actually noticed it?

I always drive whether in our larger family car or the smaller car!

We have one car that technically is mine. If we both go in it, he drives. The reason being that I find driving painful. I drive it quite a bit for work in normal times so when not working, I’d rather not.

@Sparklingbrook is spot on for me. He can't keep his mouth shut 🙄 he moans occasionally but he was warned!
I don't enjoy driving any more - it serves a purpose so I drive to work etc, but I prefer not to drive.

My DH and I each have a car but drive both. When we're both in the car though he usually drives. He is a better navigator although we're equally good drivers. He is a terrible passenger though and the constant chatter, fidgeting and fiddling with the radio or music drives me a bit nuts. He's more occupied when he's driving

This always makes me cringe actually. I used to notice when I was a child because my parents would share the driving but I used to see other families where the man would always drive. It irritated me as child and still does today.

I usually drive when we go somewhere because my dh says I moan too much if he drives. I think I'm a better driver...he would disagree! I also get dreadful travel sickness if I'm a passenger.

I just dont like driving

Habit? Before we had DD, I used to do the majority of the driving. I’m definitely the better driver. But DD likes company in the back of the car, so I often sit with her, especially if it’s a long journey (she’s 3, so it’s much easier if she has someone to read to her, pass her snacks etc). She always preferred me to sit with her, so now my DH drives most of the time. I don’t think it’ll become habit in our case long term (because DH is a bad driver!) but I can see how it does for some couples.

I usually drive and DH is the passenger. He would prefer to drive but I get motion sick when a passenger.