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Anti dementors not (second) waving but flouting

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Waleshasgonecompletelycrazy · 09/06/2020 21:04

Welcome one and all. Bad days, good days...we're here for you all

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enjoyingSun · 11/06/2020 09:51

I thought the rules were just a "face covering"?

Wales is different went from there's no point to any coverings to want three layer masks like WHO is now advocating.

My home made masks are entirely up to scratch, they’re two layers with a pocket to add a third if you want.

We need to add a pocket to ours - then they'll be three layers.

Drivingdownthe101 · 11/06/2020 09:51

@Nihiloxica

I hate having no money of my own, no pension and people assuming I must be a bit boring / lazy / thick.

Angry

I'm sure you are all sick of my rants, but I'm still going to (apologies).

Women who are not in paid work run this fucking country - they volunteer in schools, they run playgroups, advice centres, NT properties, raise funds for all kinds of things, look after children for each other.

They have incredible skills and resourcefulness and they use them to the benefit of society all the time.

It's not just paid work that has been stopped. SAHMs don't just sit at home looking after children and doing housework.

They have also been pushed out of their roles that are just as important to society as paid roles.

Not allowing children to go to school is not only a problem for working women.

Thank you for saying that. I was starting to think that my predominantly SAHM status made me appear a dullard to everyone else. Actually I do a lot of things that contribute to society (in normal times). And my brain doesn’t turn to mush either, as I don’t allow it to. I read, I campaign, I offer my marketing and translation skills voluntarily, I help at school, I’m a governor, I learn about things I’m interested in, I learn languages (I speak fluent french and Spanish and am now improving my intermediate Italian).
Orangeblossom78 · 11/06/2020 09:51

he's feeling rejected and I'm just trying to survive. Its hard to get on the same page emotionally right now

Sounds pretty similar. Mine seems to veer from denial to grumpiness (at least is not a dementor though) we both need more time apart as well and less just managing the day to day situation.

AnxiousElephant77 · 11/06/2020 09:53

It wasn't intended as an insult, I made that clearing my second post. But I do go to work every day under normal circumstances, and I worked hard for my career, which is all going to shit.

Drivingdownthe101 · 11/06/2020 09:54

But aside from feeling defensive I do get it, which is why I’m trying to gradually rebuild my career now after having to take a few years out due having children/PND/some other issues and will be gutted if I have to give it all up again.

Bellesavage · 11/06/2020 09:54

@Nihiloxica you're right. I don't mean to pit sahm against workers, I think we've all been shafted.

Mascotte · 11/06/2020 09:54

Ah, thanks @enjoyingSun- I'm in Scotland so can probably expect similar soon.

AnxiousElephant77 · 11/06/2020 09:55

It's about what's 'normal' for all of us, just being taken away from us like this. Please let's not argue on here. I honestly didn't mean what I said to be derogatory.

Drivingdownthe101 · 11/06/2020 09:55

@AnxiousElephant77

It wasn't intended as an insult, I made that clearing my second post. But I do go to work every day under normal circumstances, and I worked hard for my career, which is all going to shit.
I know, I’m just defensive as you see a lot on MN generally about it being ‘ok for SAHM’s’... but actually it isn’t. Its shit for them too (well all the ones I know). A large part of what they do has been taken away.
Mascotte · 11/06/2020 09:57

@Drivingdownthe101 don't leave! It will be worse without anti dementor chat.

I'm wondering where to go when freed in July..! Any suggestions? I'm in Scotland but prepared to travel. Can't decide whether to stay local ish or venture further afield. Just me and DP do not child friendly 😃

AnxiousElephant77 · 11/06/2020 09:57

I certainly don't subscribe to that. I agreed with the pp who said SAHM run the country. It's just not my normality.

Which I really would like back at some point.

CruCru · 11/06/2020 09:57

I'd like to get rid of the whole 'happy children safe with their parents, playing, baking and learning as a family, like it should be'.

God yes! A while ago, a load of people on FB were sharing some terrible video called something like "We remember" - basically showing loads of children colouring in rainbows and doing Joe Wicks. It was bloody awful.

AnxiousElephant77 · 11/06/2020 09:59

I keep checking the weather in Majorca. Pipe dream at this stage. Although I agreed that dd (13) could go to Spain with her friend and the parents on 21st August and I won't necessarily be too upset if that gets cancelled Confused

KaronAVyrus · 11/06/2020 10:00

I was a SAHM for 8 yrs and I feel very sorry for SAHMs at the moment. They’ve had their entire support systems removed - no play groups, mother and toddler sessions, no play parks. It’s extremely hard being at home all day with children with no breaks in between.

MooChops89 · 11/06/2020 10:01

Morning you murderous bunch - I've been lurking since the beginning and thought I'd come out of the shadows!
I'm particularly fed up with the conflicting messages and propaganda, the briefing yesterday was so negative it really pissed me off - all the crap from Whitty about still being in the middle of the pandemic and rates coming down but not low enough. I never thought we'd still be here 14 weeks later, it's madness!
Local rag on FB reporting around 3 deaths a day in the whole county hut the main headline is always the total deaths (about 650) making it look much worse, with dementors 'sad emojis' all over it.
I'm very pregnant, due in 3 weeks and have a 2 year old who's sleep has gone to shit and a DH who's been locked in our spare room WFH since the beginning, slowly sinking into depression.
I've had no motivation to do anything, my friends and I have video called about 3 times in total.
I've taken to killing a few grannies by visiting my mum and letting her look after my DD a few times as she's going to be having her when I'm in labour - old Bozza has given this the ok now anyway.
Anyway just wanted to say thanks to you all for keeping me sane!

Orangeblossom78 · 11/06/2020 10:01

Poor teen DS has a lot of mad stuff to deal with next week as expected in for all of 2 hrs 'therapy sessions' as he calls it. Says they might have a current affairs quiz (what joy) they are not allowed to wait for friends and have to line up on 2m intervals etc - he says will just hang about outside the gates for half an hour in the home of meeting someone and going to McDonalds afterwards

Orangeblossom78 · 11/06/2020 10:01

In school I mean

BarkandCheese · 11/06/2020 10:02

The only person I know doing Joe Wicks is my 65 year old mum. She’s a bit obsessed with it, she’s even bought one of his P.E with Joe T-shirts Grin .

Dowser · 11/06/2020 10:02

My home educating daughter never ever did formal lessons in the early days.
Still doesn’t.
They just played and played. I think we forget the value of play.
Please don’t beat yourselves up with the fact that you aren’t going to be teacher of the yeaR, in your children’s eyes mum or dad of the year is far more rewarding.

The almost 16 year old taught himself to read and he’s taught himself to play the guitar. He has 5 now and he started with a ukulele.
The almost 13 year old would’ve had a tough time in school. He’s a very self contained child. Home bird. Sociable but loves his own company. He came to reading in his own time when he was 9. Now teaching himself Japanese . Has violin lessons.

My ten year old granddaughter. Bright as a button. Was reading at 5 long before her elder brother. Will craft all day long. Has tried lots of things brownies, aerial, stagecraft, now does Spanish lessons.

Thing is they’ve always been encouraged not forced.

These are difficult times. You are all doing well just providing Maslow s basic triangle of needs. Food, warmth and shelter with a huge dollop of love.

Really, do we need any more than that in the home right now.
One thing my dd did do was got them out as much as possible. She met with parents and children all over the north eaSt
For years they met in the botanic gardens in durham. All through the winter, well wrapped up mostly outside. They are very hardy kids. They’ve done lots of camping and meet ups .
They went a lot of forest schools

They are also very bright, polite caring and sharing children...and none of them will take no bullshit

I love them dearly, as you can tell..

Cattermole · 11/06/2020 10:03

Ah - I wasn't very clear with my irritation there @BarkandCheese No, where I live it seems to be becoming a cottage industry and it pisses me off a bit. One of our local food shops sells them as a sideline - £2 each, "raising money for the NHS" of course. Making your own for yourself seems a reasonable and pro-active thing. Knocking boxfulls out and leaving them on the counter for everybody to paw over "but it's all for charidee" seems, I dunno, a public display rather than any actual use.
The three layers is Welsh guidance: not sure how they'd know without unpicking them, but... Me, I just wear a scarf, but then I don't get out much!

Orangeblossom78 · 11/06/2020 10:05

Have been a SAHM for years but also health issues so I get some PIP for that which helps a bit. It's not easy at all and all this just makes it much worse. The things like play groups used to be a life saver, and social contact. there is a strange loneliness from being alone with small children for too long I think it is the way you can't switch off and are ever present, but also your mind can wander too (to bad places, I also had PND) I would not have coped had mine been younger than they are.

Allflightscancelled · 11/06/2020 10:06

I see the idiot Ferguson is spouting rot in the papers again today, trying to salvage his reputation and stay relevant.

Teateaandmoretea · 11/06/2020 10:06

I think in terms of SAHMs the poster who said ‘DH now takes the car to work’ gives me a nasty chill about how this ‘new normal’ is going to be for a lot of women.

Orangeblossom78 · 11/06/2020 10:07

Not wearing a mask here just if ever have to take a bus or train will out a scarf round me or something.The whole things stresses me out too much.

Teateaandmoretea · 11/06/2020 10:07

I see the idiot Ferguson is spouting rot in the papers again today, trying to salvage his reputation and stay relevant.

I do not understand why the media are still taking notice of this odious little creep