Anti dementors not (second) waving but flouting

[Waleshasgonecompletelycrazy]

Welcome one and all. Bad days, good days...we're here for you all

Hello mooChops and welcome.

I could be right where your dh is right now, but every day I put my first foot forward for the sake of my dh . Neither of us chose this life, so I’m doing the best I can for him.
I made him some bread yesterday. Gluten and dairy free buckwheat bread..I’m not enamoured of it, but bless him he’ll chomp his way through it.
Here’s hoping when the baby arrives he’ll step up to the plate.

I do a lot of faking till I make it.

Maybe Ferguson is pissed off they kicked him off Sage so has no need to keep in with them.

Anxious elephant I rebooked our much changed holiday flights - seriously thank you Easyjet for that facility- to Majorca first week of August. Again based on Scottish phasing 3 week plan it seemed like it might be doable and had convinced DSs friends family to come along as well. But if we're only opening Scottish accommodation on 15th July there is zero chance we'll be going abroad on 1st August.

Hoping that Easyjet release summer 2021 soon as that's all I can really bet on now.

I do not understand why the media are still taking notice of this odious little creep

He is isnt he?

My motto in all of this..trust no one.

[quote Bellesavage]@Nihiloxica you're right. I don't mean to pit sahm against workers, I think we've all been shafted.[/quote]
I don't think anyone was trying to do that.

I feel my options to work being taken away from me and I am RAGING about it.

But I'm not being pushed (back) into a SAHM role.

That's not what I want to do, but if I had to (like many women do), I could make that work.

But what is on offer - permanent domestic incarceration with children excluded from society - is not being a SAHM.

It does my head in when people insist that SAHMs must "return to work" when their kids are all at school. So many of my SAHM friends feel enormous pressure to do so.

They say to me "oh, I suppose I need to get a job now that the kids are at school."
And I say "why? What do you want to do in this new phase of your life?"
Like the second they get a tiny ease up in drudgery, they need to saddle themselves with more, even if it doesn't improve their financial situation or quality of life.

Which is not to say women shouldn't do paid work. I do.

But maybe that's why they say it to me, because they think maybe I think they are lazy.

This Morning has a feature on “support bubbles.” FFS just see who want to see! I’ve stayed over at my parents and my MiL’s.

I am really confused why people are wailing over only seeing one set of family.

@Teateaandmoretea I fear you are right.

A few years ago when we both worked at home, DH was between cars and decided he was going to share mine for a bit . Because we both had meetings sometimes I instigated a car booking system so we wouldn't double book it.

Could he do it? No, he could not. He expected to just have it any way. Got sarky once when the car was double booked and I insisted I was having it. He said "oh well, I suppose it IS yours so you'd better have it'. I said 'No, I'm not having it because it's mine, I'm having it because I fucking booked it'. We nearly got divorced over that one.

@Cattermole

Ah - I wasn't very clear with my irritation there *@BarkandCheese* No, where I live it seems to be becoming a cottage industry and it pisses me off a bit. One of our local food shops sells them as a sideline - £2 each, "raising money for the NHS" of course. Making your own for yourself seems a reasonable and pro-active thing. Knocking boxfulls out and leaving them on the counter for everybody to paw over "but it's all for charidee" seems, I dunno, a public display rather than any actual use. The three layers is Welsh guidance: not sure how they'd know without unpicking them, but... Me, I just wear a scarf, but then I don't get out much!

No worries. I’m just feeling so sodding useless at the moment I’m a bit over sensitive.

If anyone does want to make a really simple mask with a pocket this is how I do it. Cut a 25cm by 25cm square of fabric, hem the top and bottom but leave the sides. Fold it in half so the hemmed sides meet, fold the other sides in by about 2.5cm and sew vertically throughout all four layers to create a channel for the elastic. I use three pieces of shirring elastic for each ear loop, it’s much softer and more comfortable than one thick piece of elastic.

I am really confused why people are wailing over only seeing one set of family.

No me, if you don’t agree sensibly do what you like. If you want to follow the rules then follow them, they will change again in a few weeks anyway. It’s all the over other people being treated ‘better’ that gets my goat.

Thank you for saying that. I was starting to think that my predominantly SAHM status made me appear a dullard to everyone else

Absolutely not! I mean, it's not for me but I have a lot of respect for SAHMs. And all the things you list sound interesting and quote obviously so many things have stopped for you too.

The only reason this is easier for sahms is because they don't have the worry of sorting childcare (though they obviously do have the worry of losing the household wage which is just as bad thinking about it! Plus exactly the same worries about children, education, freedom!)

Things are obviously very different for SAHMs in normal times. They've had the rug pulled out from under them too.

Sorry @AnxiousElephant77, I’m just feeling fragile today. Probably why I should stay away from here for a bit!

The bubbles fancying and moaning is really annoying. It's supposed to help people on their own ffs.

And if people want to do more, they can surely make their own risk assessment. 🤷‍♀️

Just checking in

Orange blossom
Not wearing a mask here just if ever have to take a bus or train will out a scarf round me or something.The whole things stresses me out too much.

Not a lot of mask wearing where I live
Haven’t been out proper for 5 days so things may have changed..I hope not.

Fannying, not fancying 😳

It does my head in when people insist that SAHMs must "return to work" when their kids are all at school. So many of my SAHM friends feel enormous pressure to do so.

It reminds me of when SIL went back to work school hours while her dc were at school. MIL trilling on about how ‘lucky’ she was. I just replied ‘so basically she does everything with the kids, all of the wife work and has no time to herself it sounds horrendous to me’. Unsurprisingly her mental health which is generally fragile didn’t cope for long

I've been a SAHM for many years and, prior to this, would have said that I'm actually quite self-sufficient and don't 'need' many people in my life to feel fulfilled.

What I hadn't realised was just how much that small social circle, and its activities, enriched my life.

I don't need concerts, I don't need football games or other large gatherings. I just need my sport, my friend to be able to come and stay, the cafe where we have breakfast sometimes, and of course DP to be able to come round whenever.

Small things, by some people's standards, but so precious to me.

On the subject of careers and jobs- the business I was in the process of setting up (following my -nearly-done-now divorce) will be one of the very last things to be 'allowed' again, as it involves close contact with other people. The chances of me getting a job were slim before, due to my age, but I'd guess they're virtually non-existent now.

But hey. At least I'm alive, right?

Funnily enough, I was going to do a mental health round up this morning.

So how is everyone doing?

Mentally..not brilliant, but I’ve been worse.
Weather miserable, never helps. Going to have a nice bath and contemplate my hair now that hairdresser is not going back to work.

Grandson coming to sort out provisional driving licence and we are getting a new mattress delivered.
As we haven’t seen anyone but ourselves since Sunday when dd popped in, it’s a better day.

I think

How are you all and what are your coping strategies?

@rookie Are EasyJet allowing you to change flights? I wonder if I can do that despite the holiday being with On The Beach. I still feel like it's too soon to cancel or postpone but frankly who the fuck knows.

@Drivingdownthe101 Don't apologise, we're all on the bloody edge, eh?

Usual morning anxious feeling. I need to get a grip so going on a wholesome outing but murderous as over five miles away and with DP (created our own bubble ages ago).

Im annoyed with myself as letting my physical health go too. But pleased that I'm making a small impact on rl people re the schools.

Hope everyone is doing ok? And nice idea @Dowser.

P. S, the masks freak me too and won't be wearing one unless absolutely have to.

Don’t stay away driving
Have a good old rant and moan
That’s what this thread is for.

Sho Dan, I’m so sorry about your business opportunity.
I bet my osteopath will be the last to open.
You can’t get any closer than a masseuse can you?

I’ve been needing this since end of March.
But yes still alive but not living..right?

I feel a bit low level anxious today. But generally ok. Fed up, but ok.

I've booked for someone to come and do mine and dd's nails on 9th July, and dp and I have an appointment to look at wedding rings on 11th July. I've promised to take dd to Primark a week on Saturday.

Ds just wants to be on his xbox.

I feel a little better now I have a couple of very mundane things to look forward to.

Anxious elephant Easyjet will let you change flights with no extra fees, but unfortunately you have to have a direct booking.

Dowser I'm feeling quite chipper.

Main win for me was finally getting a response from DSs private school to say that next term they intend to have them in full time with 50% teaching and 50% supervised study. I realise how grossly unfair it is that this is not the case for state schools and it's interesting how our school has found a solution because they are reliant on fees continuing to be paid. Also when numbers go down to zero then it means if all pupils in school we might be able to escape from this dystopian nightmare a bit quicker.

Also the confirmation on Scottish holiday dates has cheered me up. It should be earlier, but at least - unlike Wales - we have a confirmed date, subject to the numbers of course - lest we get too excited about something in the future.

Oh and I met my boss for an actual not a sodding virtual coffee. I heard she had to go into the office for something so we hung out at the free benches of a closed pub nearby. Amazing how good it felt to actually see her in person. As soon as restrictions are lifted a bit more we're going to get as many of the team as is allowed there. I really miss seeing my work colleagues although we've a reasonably good online rapport.

The lovely mr Dowser has just brought me my breakfast.
He’s such an even keeper
I quite envy him