Drag queen at wedding

[wedding2021]

I'm considering having a drag queen sing at my wedding. What would you think if you were at a wedding and a drag queen had been booked to perform? Obviously they'd tone it down a bit with swearing etc.

Apart from the fact that it's misogynistic and totally try hard (look how cool I am with my love of drag), it's also tacky as fuck. Fine for a night out in your local town centre if that's your thing, but why would you want any of that at your wedding?

Luckily all my friends and most people I know actually agree that there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and people should be embraced however they choose to live (as long as it's within the law!)

Er, no I don't have to 'embrace' anything or anyone I don't want to thanks. And neither do children.

Yes, everyone should be able to live as they want as long as they are not harming anyone else. But that doesn't mean that I, or anyone else, has to join in with it.

And no, I am not going to call a bloke 'she' just because he tells me I should.

I have never been comfortable with drag, but only really found the way to express that after spending some time on Mumsnet. Womenface sums it up for me.

I’m fine with a man wearing a dress. In fact I think I’d be fine with a male guest or performing artist wearing a Nice dress as long as he wasn’t doing it for attention (because the attention should be on the bride) just as I’d be fine with a women wearing a pants suit to a wedding - there just clothes. Someone making fun of women for comedy entertainment value, not good.

If you want some cheesy Songs and a big personality I’m sure there are many people that can be hired to fulfill that - sounds like to it after a butlins redcoat - without also taking the piss out of the female half of your guests at the same time.

Why have a man dressed like Diana Ross making smutty jokes and being a cow, taking the piss out of guests hats/partners etc?

Why not get a woman to sing? Aren’t they’re any wan entertainers out there?

@grumpyorange
Whether or not there are children at the wedding is not the point. That is ops decision and nothing to do with any of us.

You say they should be referred to as “she”. I disagree. I offer information about why I don’t like the concept of drag queens and give examples of my reasoning eg them getting exposure in front of children, expectations to be treated as women etc. You say not all of them are bad at all. I then ask you to look at a video. Instead you go off at a tangent about me speculating that there are children at the wedding. This I did not do.

Did you even bother to search for and watch the video?

I've yet to meet a drag queen who is anything other than respectful of children etc.

Why on earth are drag queens even mixing with kids?! Drag is an adult entertainment act, and is usually full of sexual content and often offensive to women (fishy etc).

And the drag queen isn’t trying to convince anyone she’s a woman. She’s a character and a caricature.

Im not black, nor am I trying to convince anyone I am. Can I paint my face, put on a wig, wear loads of gold jewellery, play hip hop music or and become a 'character or caricature'? If not, why is OK to do the same thing to women?

@Mummyoflittledragon so have you spoken to all drag queens personally/seen every single drag queen in order to determine that this video/videos are the same for all?

The videos speak of specific queens not every single one. As I said I could link hundreds of videos about politicians but people still vote tory or labour etc

@JoeExoticsEyebrowRing examples were used at pride events etc. Children attend those events therefore will mix with children.

@grumpyorange
No and I haven’t spoken to every minor attracted person either. Or every politician. Or every murderer. Some of them can be good people too.

Stop NAMALTing. It’s tedious.

This is adult entertainment, often perverse and is being targeted at children. Why the fuck would I be ok with being anywhere near anyone involved in that scene? They are actively choosing to be part of that group and 100% know what is involved as the video illustrated.

Im not black, nor am I trying to convince anyone I am. Can I paint my face, put on a wig, wear loads of gold jewellery, play hip hop music or and become a 'character or caricature'? If not, why is OK to do the same thing to women?

Well if Sasha Baron Cohen can...
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Borat
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@mummyoflittledragon

What is tedious is your attitude. You have taken one video and decided all drag queens must be the same! Get a bloody grip. Drag queens aren’t out to steal your children’s innocence and the fact you think that basically if you are a drag queen you are attracted to children is horrific.

I’m more worried you’re bringing up children to be nasty to others!

@Mummyoflittledragon I'm done arguing with you. You have an appealing attitude and as @Livingonachair said your views on drag queens are terrible!

What is disgusting is these men’s attitudes to women as they do woman face.

What is woman face exactly?

Livingonachair
I most certainly did not say every drag queen is attracted to children ffs. However as has already been explained by several people, they have no business being around children. This is an adult fetish. I’m fine with them having their fetish. But do not put it in my face or the face of children.

GreySparkles
That has been answered by others already.

Oh and I’m not talking about the person in my last comment. Just the drag persona.

@Greysparkles google it

That has been answered by others already

No it hasnt

Google it

Trying to. But it doesn't come up with a clear definition, just coming up with articles about how it's not the same/or is the same as blackface.

So what is woman face? Because it kinda sounds made up from where I'm standing

@greysparkles what do you mean by ‘made up’

Nonsense.

That no one seems willing to define to me

I'd just like to say that nobody will be as invested in your wedding as you.

People want nice food that they have not had to wait ages for, cheap bar or good table drinks, somewhere quite to talk to relatives they haven't seen for ages and then a good DJ to boogy to when tipsy.

Go for it! It's your day and you should do what you want!!!

I'm all for doing bridal your way. Bugger what you should and shouldn't do at weddings.

I bet your guests would love it

I find drag a little like I find clowns. Slightly other-worldly and unpredictable. The humour can range from whip-fast to very spiteful.

If you wanted a child free wedding it would be the perfect excuse so as not to upset their parents. I wouldn't think it's an appropriate act for watching with your granny tbh.
I wouldn't want it. The other problem is that you are hiring your neighbour - if they are terrible and ruin your reception, you live next door to them. Risky in my view.

OP I wouldn't have a drag queen. There are other forms of entertainment which are fun. I had to organise a function at work and hired a magician who was absolutely fantastic - very good tricks and also very, very funny. He did a couple of tricks in front of everyone and some close-up magic at individual tables during the meal.

We also had a brilliant band - they were a function band and all great musicians. They played a whole sting of crowd pleasing hits and the dance floor was packed from the moment they started until the moment they finished.

I also wouldn't necessarily dismiss a ceilidh or a band with a caller - it means that self-conscious guests don't have to think about dancing because they're told what steps to do. I went to one at Christmas and I haven't laughed that much in months it was really good fun.