Drag queen at wedding

[wedding2021]

I'm considering having a drag queen sing at my wedding. What would you think if you were at a wedding and a drag queen had been booked to perform? Obviously they'd tone it down a bit with swearing etc.

why? why would i refer to a man as a woman? A man wearing a dress is not a woman?

It is very difficult for me to abandon my common sense.

@grumpyorange not "absurd" views at all. I was very surprised to find one of my friends lacked the thinking capacity to understand what the issue may be. She also felt I was being "absurd" and said as much to our friendship group. Turned out they agree with me.

Why do you want me to call a man "she"

That's absurd

@crustycrab I pity your friend then to have such a bad friendship group.

Luckily all my friends and most people I know actually agree that there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and people should be embraced however they choose to live (as long as it's within the law!)

Calling a man in a dress she is what gives men entitlement to think they can frequent the ladies, where girls, some as young as 8 and women change their sanitary towels ffs.

@Mummyoflittledragon don't see what changing sanitary towels has to do with it?

I loathe everything about drag queens. They are misogynistic, coarse, bitchy, vulgar, tacky and I hate seeing women represented that way. Nothing funny about the whole scene. I find them and the concept offensive. I would leave if a wedding had a drag act. If I knew beforehand I would not accept the invitation (although, tbh, I don't like weddings at the best of times ). I am not a misery, just loathe drag acts.

I would leave.

It’s too divisive to consider booking one.

@grumpyorange don't pity her. She was just ignorant to the wider issues. Not any more, her innocence is gone.

"don't see what changing sanitary towels has to do with it?" No, because you're either ignorant or innocent. Or both.

Calling a man in a dress she is what gives men entitlement to think they can frequent the ladies, where girls, some as young as 8 and women change their sanitary towels ffs.

Bloody hell, this thread just jumped the shark.

OP - I'm not a massive fan of drag myself so while I'd probably try to enjoy it for your sake, it'd put me off a bit. Plus, I am a either going to get up and dance or I am not. I'm not sure the drag element is going to change that.

"Luckily all my friends and most people I know actually agree that there is absolutely nothing wrong with it and people should be embraced however they choose to live (as long as it's within the law!)"

I bet you'd be shocked to find that they don't. Why on earth would you and most people you know embrace your little girl being danced to by pup play fetishists at pride or as pp. said, changing her sanitary towel or into her swimsuit less than a metre away from a strange man?

Now that is absurd.

@crustycrab why can't they dance with them. What are you afraid will happen. They say that was a nice person and move on?
Again see no relevance with changing a sanitary towel next to a man (in a locked cubical) than a strange woman who they've never met before.

Bet you'll be shocked to know that lots of schools now have unisex toilets

I think it would be fabulous! Do what you want, it's your wedding ❤️

Drag is misogyny dressed up as ‘fun’. I’d be going home, and letting you know why I was going home.

I don't know about you, but I generally change my sanitary towel behind the locked door of a toilet cubicle... .
Not the communal area near the sinks.

Of course I'm not shocked. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I'm acutely aware.

Look into it if you want to know. Clue: They aren't just dancing for them despite how it appears to the parents scrambling to be "inclusive" at all costs.

I'm not even going there with the "what difference does it make if it's a man".

True @Greysparkles. And then there's the gaps above and below, not to mention the sounds.

And then you go into the swimming baths where the showers are communal, and to m&s for your child's first bra fitting. Where the changing rooms are communal and they haven't yet gotten round to fitting lockable doors, just curtains......

@grumpyorange
With my sanitary wear post, I was responding to your comment on calling drag queens she. Drag queens are woman face, a persona at best. They should not in any way be “treated as” women. They should not attempt to enter areas specifically designated for women.

As for unisex loos, I have no issues with unisex loos in schools as long as they are a third space.

@crustycrab so what you're suggesting is that anyone who has a fetish or is a drag queen is unable to 'control themselves' around children??

Do you not go into a locked cubical to go to the toilet or change a sanitary towel? I thought that was standard practice?

Presumably you will hire a black and white minstrel show for the encore?

I'd be offended at the anti- women act and leave.

I wouldn't.

No. I'm not even remotely suggesting that

I'd be sat there cringing, haven't seen many of these acts but they've been average at best. They rarely look like women, or sound much like women. Just an awful parody of what they think a women is.
Just hire a DJ and play some fab tunes to get everyone dancing.

@grumpyorange
It doesn’t matter how wholesome this one particular drag queen is. The whole industry is full of seedy people with inappropriate behaviour. For this reason alone, I would not be happy with encouraging one.

Have you see the horror that is drag queen story hour op? This is drag queens stripping and putting on lurid acts for children, breaking down their defences and boundaries. I do not have a YouTube account and don’t want to sign in. I’ve take a photo of something, which should be easy to find. Perhaps have a google and take a look at the video in the photo.

@crustycrab Clue: They aren't just dancing for them despite how it appears to the parents scrambling to be "inclusive" at all costs.

^sure sounds like it!

you refer to them as a she when she is in drag... it's not difficult

grumpyorange Don’t be silly. He is a he regardless of whether or not he’s decided to play dress up.