Drag queen at wedding

[wedding2021]

I'm considering having a drag queen sing at my wedding. What would you think if you were at a wedding and a drag queen had been booked to perform? Obviously they'd tone it down a bit with swearing etc.

I'd escape to the bar or some other location while the performance was on. I couldn't stand it.

There is no way my guests would welcome a square dance or a ceilidh

The drag queen is my next door neighbour and is a very good singer. I might try and think of something else. Like others have said, weddings are boring. I was trying to bring a bit of fun to the day.

Tacky

@EinsteinaGogo
Think you might be missing the point of drag 🤣

Maybe @Samtsirch - what is it?

Incredibly tacky.

Ugh, tacky and offensive. I'd walk out of a wedding reception if a drag queen appeared.

I really hope impersonating a woman via a negative caricature becomes as unwelcome as other past 'acceptable' acts sometime very soon.

^^This

Have you ever been to a ceilidh?
Be more welcome than a tacky drag act

Ok, so you do have a personal connection to her. So why worry, then?

You really do not need to 'bring a bit of fun to the day'. Relax. You (presumably) like your spouse-to-be. You presumably like your guests.

If those things are the case, then just having a nice wedding will be enough. Seriously. The nicest weddings I've been to have just been about enjoying the actual wedding, not about the gimmicks.

I can totally see how, if this is a much-loved neighbour who is part of your life, this could work. It could be really fun and charming and touching.

But if it's 'I shoehorned a drag queen into my wedding because I am so Different and Fun and Exciting,' it will feel painful.

@SarahAndQuack
Who says presumptuousness is dead?

Grim

Okay. Whys that? Just for a bit of fun?

I’d be cringing with embarrassment . And worried the next act would be the Black and White Minstrels.

I'd love it, especially as you've a connection with the queen. You could put it on the invites (as a kind of 'highlight') if you are worried about sourpusses. If people choose to be offended and not attend then that's their right.

I don't think I have heard of anything as tacky at a wedding as a drag singer.

@EinsteinaGogo
Maybe google it?
Also while you are there google hook line and sinker?
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I'd suddenly need to get back home.

Being expected to laugh at 'jokes' about what a slapper the bride is and how the groom must have had a change of heart since last Friday night - the sort of shite people I know do as an act (seen them when working, thought they were awful, can't see how they get flown round the world to do that) - ugh.

Who says presumptuousness is dead?

I'm sorry, I don't follow?

Having said that, I don't think I'd have a drag queen instead of a band. If you found a suitably poppy sounding band you could ask the queen to perform a number or two. It'd be too much to do the whole night.

No don’t do it....

I really don't get why it's ok for a man to dress as a parody of a woman, but not to dress up s as a Native American or other ethnic minority.

Shawn Vestal any one?

No, I'd find it embarrassing for multiple reasons.

If you are arranging a party where you think guests would enjoy - fine - but IMO this is nothing to do with a marriage.

Ah, bless you, @Samtsirch - are you having a good Saturday evening 😂😂😂?

Back to the sherry, dear...