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Would you go to a bbq this weekend?

297 replies

Munkeyface · 22/05/2020 11:53

Friends have invited us over. We have early teen children who know all about 2 metre rule.
Friends have a large garden and a outdoor loo so no need to go into their house at all.

Also live in a rural position with no close neighbours.

OP posts:
Janaih · 22/05/2020 23:32

@StealthPolarBear you can be fined for meeting people in a public place. There is no law against being in someone's house. The law is very different to the guidelines presented as such. I would urge people to read up.

ScreamingKid · 22/05/2020 23:34

Maybe because they think the rules are a load of nonsense? They dont make sense. You can go out to meet one person and stay 2 metres away in a park full of a load of other people. You can get on a packed train to go to work to sit in an office 2m from colleagues

JudyGemstone · 22/05/2020 23:38

Well if Dominic Cummings can break the rules why should they expect everyone else to have to stick to them?

Mumof3cherubs · 22/05/2020 23:41

No

Michaelschofield · 22/05/2020 23:57

Yes I would go without hesitation as I’m not brainwashed by the government.

borntohula · 23/05/2020 00:15

Yup and lol at anyone saying they wouldn't because it's 'not permitted.' Why are ppl so happy to follow so-called 'rules' no questions asked?

borntohula · 23/05/2020 00:19

People will have become so conditioned after this, that they will choose to continue not seeing family and friends because they're too scared or they feel like they're committing a crime or whatever. It's sad.

highmarkingsnowbile · 23/05/2020 00:33

I wonder the exact same thing, born.

Givenupno · 23/05/2020 00:40

I would even if i lives in the UK.

However I don’t, and we are allowed social gatherings of up to ten in the garden now and two “guests” in the house at any one time so toilet use etc isn’t an issue.

So he’ll yeah. We will be bbqing until sundown with various people coming and going through the day.

Virus is as good as gone here and no one from off island (isle of Man) is allowed in so at least until the borders open again and travel from Uk resumes we are returning to normal. It’s been such a relief this last week to meet up with friends here at home and travel to their houses or meet for days out.

I am fully aware that since many other countries are still struggling and we will at some point have to resume travel that another lockdown is likely inevitable

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 23/05/2020 00:49

Yes I would go without hesitation as I’m not brainwashed by the government

Hmm Biscuit
PopandFizz · 23/05/2020 00:54

I'm appalled by the number of people saying yes to this!
No, it's not permitted for a reason.
The outdoor loo makes no difference, you're all using it it's exactly the same as using the indoor loo except probably less hygienic.
How are you all going to stay 2m apart in a garden? What about collecting food from the bbq.

Wonder if any of you saying yes are also saying you wont send your kids back to school because of the same reasons you shouldnt be going to a bbq. Hmm

LemonadeAndDaisyChains · 23/05/2020 00:58

I'm appalled by the number of people saying yes to this!
No, it's not permitted for a reason

I'm still laughing at the post I just quoted.
Kind of "yeah I'm stickin it to da MAN!" lol

TimeWastingButFun · 23/05/2020 01:00

No, because we're still on lockdown.

TimeWastingButFun · 23/05/2020 01:04

Yup and lol at anyone saying they wouldn't because it's 'not permitted.' Why are ppl so happy to follow so-called 'rules' no questions asked?

It's silly really but... 'ppl' are wanting to avoid shedloads of unnecessary deaths...

Daffodil101 · 23/05/2020 01:06

No

SuncreamInTheWinter · 23/05/2020 01:06

We are still on full lockdown where I live

Givenupno · 23/05/2020 01:18
  • I'm appalled by the number of people saying yes to this! No, it's not permitted for a reason. The outdoor loo makes no difference, you're all using it it's exactly the same as using the indoor loo except probably less hygienic. How are you all going to stay 2m apart in a garden? What about collecting food from the bbq.*

Can you explain how the risk is any higher than going to a shop and using the same door handle, card machine, trolley etc as loads of people you don’t know?

Or getting on a bus or the tube?

Or opening a gate for a walk in the country?

The risk is minuscule m. I tested positive and lived with and shared a bed with my partner, we shared cutlery and bathrooms, held hands, cuddles on the sofa and even did the deed numerous times.

She was tested after I tested positive and was all clear.

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 23/05/2020 01:21

No. Because we are all meant to be making sacrifices to help each other. And my family are sticking to the rules as we want to do everything we can to end this pandemic. Everyone who has caught it didn’t think they were going to, thought it would be ok. The whole point is we cannot tell where the risk lies and we all need to reduce the chain of transmission. People who think they can bend the rules are just removing the breaks in the chain and are increasing the risk for everyone.

borntohula · 23/05/2020 01:37

@TimeWastingButFun people who are only complying because the government supposedly says they must OR ELSE would be back to normal in a heartbeat if they were 'permitted.'

Shouldn't even dignify your attempt to belittle me with 'ppl' but I'll point out, you obviously knew exactly what I meant.

Smile
Tillygetsit · 23/05/2020 01:43

Nope.

KatherineJaneway · 23/05/2020 03:59

No I wouldn't.

Anyway after a few drinks you won't be socially distancing.

daisychain01 · 23/05/2020 05:07

You can meet one other person from another household , outdoors. The government scientific advice is that you remain 2m (6ft) apart.

You can't visit friends or relatives in their houses or indoors. Nor can you gather in a larger group with people who are not from your household (apart from a few exceptions, such as funerals). Higher fines will be imposed for anyone who breaks these rules.

OP what don't your hosts understand about the current guidelines? They shouldn't be contemplating a social gathering and encouraging other people to get involved in an event that isn't currently legal.

And do you need to ask if you should go, given the above guidelines?

It's up to you, but ask yourself why the guidelines are in place.

Hint: It's to stop infection.

daisychain01 · 23/05/2020 05:10

I'm amazed people think it's a "sacrifice".

What, to not feel like shit? I'd say it's a sacrifice going to a social gathering!

daisychain01 · 23/05/2020 05:13

Well if Dominic Cummings can break the rules why should they expect everyone else to have to stick to them?

Absolutely, so Dominic Cummings decides to jump off a cliff, so of course we all have to follow him like a bunch of lemmings. I don't think so, I'm quite capable of making my own decisions and rules.

justamumof1 · 23/05/2020 05:23

Hmm, I would say no but then again, the tube is much worse at rush hour now.

If the bbq is a few adults and not the neighbourhood and their kids then I thinks that's ok.

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