Does anyone's dp not cook at all?!

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Dp never ever cooks. At. All.

I hate cooking. I hate having the headache of planning what to cook every single day.

It drives me mad! And I will be teaching my ds how to cook as I don't want him being like this with his dp!

I envy all these mumsnetters who share the cooking. Most of my friends dps don't cook either! Where have you all found these men?!

Mine 🙋‍♀️

When people say 'do the dishes" if you mean that they clear up all the kitchen mess / clean the cooker after my

All these people whose husbands/partners can't cook or you had to train to cook. How did they stay alive before they met you?

It's not even that really. It's the fact they've chosen to be parents and yet they won't (can't doesn't come into it) learn to feed their children properly.

And yet you'll often find the other parent calling them 'an amazing father'.

If that's amazing parenting, the bar is so low I'm surprised they're not tripping over.

... after my cooking. That has never ever happened!

My partner doesnt cook.
But he has a limited diet anyway.

He can stick something in the oven and read the back of the pack to know when to take it out, but thats about it 😂

But he does nearly everything else around the house, washes up, tidies, cleans, bins, beds, mopping, hoovering, cat litter etc

So i dont mind cooking

He only has dinner maybe twice a week anyway

Mine doesn't cook, but I don't mind as I enjoy it and I only work part time.
He is rather useless though, if I'm away he will get a take away but call me to do it on an app on my phone... I put it down to the fact English isn't his first language BUT it's just because I've made him this way if I'm honest

If he absolutely HAD to cook he would whiz up a half decent omelette and some pasta on the side haute cuisine.

My dh does nearly all the cooking. 6 nights out of 7 usually but pretty much every night at the moment.
He just really loves it and is often home early enough. He’s the kind of cook that doesn’t believe in short cuts and sees a meal as only a meal if he’s spent 3 hours in the kitchen. I’m not joking in the slightest! But he’s always found it the perfect way of winding down after work, puts the tv on and relaxes by cooking. I can’t relate. I want to cook and serve a meal in under an hour.
I CAN cook. Not as well as him, I tend to use a recipe if it’s something new whereas he can just make things up on the spot just from looking at what we have in the fridge.
If he wants to spend upwards of 3 hours in the kitchen cooking he can crack the fuck on. I frequently say I’ll cook and he says he wants to do it.

Today I caught my DP trying to boil pasta and eggs together in the same pan to save electricity, we have our own hens and the eggs had sawdust and poo stuck to them.

DH cooked basic food before I came along but it wouldn’t be good enough for a family or even for me. I’m better at it. Fry ups, beans on toast and burgers do have limited appeal.

We do what we are best at. We play to our strengths. He sorts out any house faults, mows our grounds and fields, sorts out minor car issues and does his own washing (although he puts too much in and the machine grumbles). He also sorts out the diy at our other properties. We sort out who does what according to our strengths. Like Philip May, he puts the bins out too!

DP loves cooking. I cook well but have no love for cooking so it's just as well he's a good cook & cooks more than me. He's fine with housework too. Culturally I've never met a man who can't at least cook, it's standard.

Neither of us likes cooking. We used to eat a lot of fast food, we are cooking more in lockdown but quite a lot of it is still freezer food. Some of it is delicious fresh ingredients. My DP is a better cook than me but he will start cooking at 7 for example and take forever so sometimes ill do it. Generally its about 70/30 him to me at the moment but I do all the other cleaning - he sometimes sorts the bins (ie whenever they need doing) and will load and unload the dishwasher and put laundry on but most of it falls to me. If I ask him to tidy a room he will do it but it doesn't seem to occur to him to push the hoover round or clean the toilet.

Mine doesn’t like cooking (get stressed, doesn’t enjoy it). I love it, so I do it. I won’t pretend I don’t get bored or fed up, but it’s better than him wreaking havoc. Over the years he’s got more involved but it genuinely doesn’t interest him in the way it does me.
He washes up and cleans (yes, including wiping the surfaces and hob). I hate cleaning and tbh he’s better at it

Mine doesn’t, never has, largely because he always worked way longer hours than I did and wasn’t interested.

I don’t care, because a) he always loads the dishwasher and clears up the kitchen perfectly (I’m a messy cook), and b) is utterly non fussy and always very appreciative of whatever he’s given.

DP can cook and will cook and in absolute honesty, has done the majority of the cooking since lockdown ana him.being furloughed.
I am.still.working and between us we are homeschooling but he is taking charge of mealtimes which is fab.
Why can't your DP follow a recipe off Google?

My DH is a very good cook and enjoys it, so he cooks every night. However I can cook and do when necessary. I don’t enjoy it as much though. He also hates the way I load the dishwasher (i don’t rinse 🙄) so he also does most of the housework. I am very idle.

My husband’s wife never cooks. And yes it is due a total disinterest in food. The idea of thinking about meals every day forever. No. God no. Not for me. When i hear people (read on facebook) saying theyre cooking a meal for the partner and having a romantic night in i always think you're having tea at home. Same as every other night. Whats the big deal? Dh even makes my packed lunch every day for work.

I do all the cooking and he does all the cleaning up. I make a right mess so it's fair

I'm better at it. That's all. He's better at other things. It’s team work.

Meal planning is a pain, but I do get to choose all meals so swings and roundabouts.

I do dinner, meal plan and shop for the week He makes his own stuff during the day. I like cooking and we're both low-carbing, so I do little extras like almond banana bread or egg and bacon muffins so there are snacks around. He washes up (by hand) and cleans the kitchen down at the end of the day.

He cleans (everything) as I hate it. I do the laundry and he irons his stuff.

It's a good trade off and I hate his cooking. Nothing wrong or burnt, just boring and bland.

Nope. I wouldn't have got to 'partner' stage with someone who never prepared food at all.

DH idea of cooking is a pot noodle or takeaway

Mine doesn't either. When we first got together I would get him to help me prepare things and I taught him how to cook a few meals but after that I realised he could do it, he just wasn't interested, so he sorts his own (ready-made) food and I can cook myself whatever elaborate or simple dinner I fancy.

@WorraLiberty I agree which is why I qualified my comment - if it's genuinely a fair division of labour.

@cheeseycracker no it's not your fault! Geez peoples standards are low on this thread! He CHOOSES to be as he is it's pure laziness

Lots of "I'm better at it" too - WHY are you better? Because it's a skill that improves with practice!

The more they cook the better they'll get.

@BubblesBuddy none of "his" jobs sound as if they come close to equating to the time you must spend cooking (let alone planning & shopping for that cooking)

My DH will always leave it to me unless
I stomp and make him do it. But then he just cooks pasta with sauce from a jar and cheese. That’s it. I don’t want that.

I would love it if he cooked something nice. With some vegetables.

There's something so caring and nurturing about being given a plate of food that somebody made for you. I would miss that.