If you could tell your single friend why they're single...

[GetMeTheScissors]

What would you say?

Built up the courage to ask and they all said 'you're great! You'll meet someone eventually!'

Which really wasn't constructive.

My closest single friend it’s because she prioritises her daughter and doesn’t really have the opportunity to meet anyone. Also her last few ex’s have been such shits (most recently her DD’s dad) is she doesn’t really trust herself to find a good one I think.

You're completely dramatic sometimes which can be draining.

You’re sensible, strong and independent and you rightly won’t settle for less than you deserve.

You are really funny and charming. But you are also tight as a duck’s arse and it is embarrassing that you expect your friends, family, and new boyfriends to pay for EVERYTHING!

I really don’t know why! Any man would be lucky to have her. She’s beautiful inside and out and one of the nicest people I know.

There's no magic spell, is there is?

Because she picks the wrong men... Always chasing or dating a complete arsehole whom she hopes will change.

I’d tell her she needs to compromise. Her way is not the only way to do something.
She’s not nasty with it but it is a little off putting at times.

You're using men as a drug, a high, for the drama, because you need it in your life and as a cover for your own issues. Hence always going for the men who are married, sociopathic, addicts and so on. Each time the latest of these dramas is over you look around and more and more of your friends and family have settled with families of their own. You want this, you say, but you can't get it if you won't go for a decent man, and you won't be able to go for a decent man unless you get some in-depth therapy and/or medication for your own MH issues.

My sil, because she is patronising and controlling..... But if she could meet some obedient man child who wants to be dominated, it would be a match made in heaven. I know they are out there!!

Because your self esteem is on the floor which is leading you to always pick the wrong men.

I'm also single as well but through choice, I don't date at all. But my friend wants to meet someone and keeps getting hurt.

I don't think there is necessarily a reason. My single friends are amazing. Great company, healthy,
attractive, good jobs. No reason why I'm married and they aren't. But they are late forties and it is harder then for women.

I was single for years in my twenties despite being outgoing and having a great social life. I just never got a lot of attention from men. I only met dh at 30 after making an effort with online dating.

You're stunningly gorgeous, funny, lovely, strong and argumentative. Value yourself highly and don't manufacture disagreements just because you've been hurt. The right guy for you will stick around and see through the tough independent frivolous act. Don't sleep with all the ones you don't like- you're distracted from the good guys with all the ones you're not really bothered about.

(Male) Because you always look sloppy. You’re a nice chap and you have a very good job. Tuck your shirt in, buy some tailored trousers and unscuffed shoes and get a haircut!

(Female) Because you are prone to overly opinionated, dreary monologues. Cheer up a bit!

Because you might just be looking in the wrong places. Get off OLD and get out to do interesting things where interesting men might be (after lockdown, obviously).

I’ve said this to her in real life ; OLD seems bloody brutal from what I’ve seen so far.

You know your worth, and rightly wont settle.

Mine is the same as @fredafrogspawn.

I'm in awe of her ability to see through bullshit. She doesn't think she has to forgive bad behaviour to be nice or find excuses.

Because, as much as I love you, you don’t accept anyone else’s minor flaws, while having many of your own.
He won’t be 6’5”, built like a Greek god out of solid gold and spend all his days and time worshipping you while simultaneously earning £100k a year... but he could be pretty great regardless.

DH and his mate think you come across as desperate. Relax a bit and you might meet someone. Although I am still slightly smarting from your comment that you don’t understand why I’m married and you’re not, because you’re slim and take care of yourself and dress nicely, whereas I’m overweight and a bit of a slob.

My relative is single because she is very domineering and controlling and once men see past the 'fun' side of her they run for the hills.

In the case of my relative, it is because she has fairly serious mental health issues and possibly a personality disorder, and will not seek proper treatment. She basically doesn't see why she should change at all and is entitled, histrionic and needy. Bad combo.

@MrsShadenfreude
I have a friend like that although she's married now. But when we were younger she really couldn't understand why men liked me over her. Really pulled my self esteem down! Then she decided it must be because I'm easy 🤣
Still friends but she lives on the other side of the Atlantic so I don't have to listen to her crap now.

You are so set in your ways you wouldn’t even consider compromising enough to give anyone a chance.
And when I say compromise, I don’t mean changing your entire world, but as in not completely writing certain people off because they don’t like musicals or don’t read the same books as you 🤷‍♀️

Because you are still hung up on your ex.

Because you've mistaken growing up with being serious and you don't appear to have fun (she is lots of fun in private but her outward persona is all capable and serious adult).

Because like me, you love your life and eventually realised you're just much happier on your own than you've ever been in a relationship. And can't see yourself ever wanting a partner again :)

But 💐 OP because if you don't want to be it sounds miserable x