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Anyone else want a No Judgement rant thread?

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31weeksgone · 08/04/2020 16:05

This fucking sucks.

The whole thing bloody sucks. We’re in a house, with no garden, with a very “active” 4 year old.

Every single day before lockdown we would be out at the farm/beach/park when not at nursery and work.

DP is a key worker (as was I before I had to stay home to look after her, and started a degree) so whilst I get everyone sacrificing themselves and I’m really grateful, sometimes you need a place to just bloody vent So please don’t jump on me for this.

Stuck at home. With no garden or any outdoor space in this lovely weather, watching everyone out the window enjoying their gardens, with a “D”P I properly hate and was in the process of leaving. I don’t want to feel grateful 24/7 that we’re safe at home, I’m not grateful I’m stuck in, and I want to wallow for 20 minutes without having to be gracious 😡😡

Want to shake anyone who preaches not to go for a walk and to stay home. You’re allowed out for a walk!! It seems none of my neighbours know this the looks I’m getting, I also have to take food to my parents an hour away so no doubt I look dodgy driving away once a week for a few hours.

I was so looking forward to my last summer with my daughter before she started school. Now it’s this.

Anyone else want to rant/wallow/have a pity party please join my thread. No judgement here

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bakedbeanzontoast · 09/04/2020 17:27

@Potterspotter thank you. It is. For me it's not so much about eating crap, it's more I feel the need to deserve food which involves going to the gym, being active, going to work, doing good work. It's very odd. So when I don't have that the BDD feelings and the need to alter the diet is very powerful.

It is comforting to know other people are also finding this hard. If I'm being honest with you I'd probably get arrested if we were stopped from going out as I need my long walks (and I'm sorry but I don't believe I am harming anyone walking alone in the woods).

Just saw the latest briefing they say review next week but I think they are bullshitting us. They just don't want to tell us the whole deal.

I can't wait for things to get back to normal again.

Potterspotter · 09/04/2020 17:45

@bakedbeanzontoast I can’t see who it’s harming, even round where I am in a city centre at certain times of day green areas are deserted. I don’t accept that we all have the same needs and should therefore just suck things up - and I have found a lot of the mn threads scary in their aggression to struggling posters.

Govt won’t tell anyone they’re relaxing anything until they do it, you’re right.

I’m finding my peace is gone, without time alone, hard to get out of mental chaos mode.

bakedbeanzontoast · 09/04/2020 17:50

@Potterspotter I hear you. Until this thread I thought I was alone in my thoughts. And I was a monster for wanting to go out of the house lol.

I think the uncertainty of it all is exacerbating people's issues. I mean life is uncertain at the best of times but this takes the biscuit.

mbosnz · 09/04/2020 18:09

I'm wondering if Tesco is sold out of sack-cloth and ashes, the way some people are wanting to deny themselves, and to rage against others that aren't quite so martyr oriented! (Or maybe these are rationed, like bog paper?!)

FishingPaws · 09/04/2020 18:18

(Or maybe these are rationed, like bog paper?!)

No martyrdom here...no rationing of loo roll either (I've never been so glad for a messed up order, I haven't bought loo roll since December and even though I've given a load away I doubt I'll buy any this side of December!).
Seriously, if I want to put a bottle or 2 of wine, some chocolate and a tub of ice cream in my trolly alongside my fruit/veg/meat/etc then I'm going to!

Redmarchingband · 09/04/2020 18:27

I’m cross as I’ve been housebound since the start of the year due to planned surgery. Due back at work at the end of the month and it’s all gone a bit Pete Tong. DH is a key worker so is out all day and I’m feeling so incredibly lonely.

Neighbours have a squeaky swing that’s been squeaking all day and every time I attempt to sit in the garden, next door chain smokes which spoils it. is it too early for wine?

Potterspotter · 09/04/2020 18:28

I witnessed 2 women in their 50s shouting with a good deal of aggression at each other outside the supermarket this week - one of them wasn’t distant enough, the other said and it snowballed.

Buying food these days is a miserable experience for all the people not minding their own!

FishingPaws · 09/04/2020 18:29

Neighbours have a squeaky swing that’s been squeaking all day

I'd be launching a can of WD40 over the fence!

is it too early for wine?

Nope

mbosnz · 09/04/2020 18:32

Too Early for WINE?!

What fresh hell is this?! It's Friday/Thursday. . . you've got some catching up to do!

Redmarchingband · 09/04/2020 18:32

@FishingPaws if I could throw well enough, I would! might send DH out to do it (in full haz-mat clobber obviously

IamHyouweegobshite · 09/04/2020 19:16

Today has been an odd day, really missing talking to adults. My dh is at work, has worked 6 day weeks for at least a month now, he's knackered when he gets home, takes the dog for a walk and then sleeps on the sofa. He's still not home yet, because he's popped to the shop on his way home. The kids either scream and bicker at each other, or ignore and hide in different parts of the house. By the afternoon I'm so tired, from doing nothing, that I fall asleep. Bloody hell if this is what retirement is like , I don't want to do it. Did wash the dog today, he's been stinking from jumping in a pond a few weeks ago, was meant to go to the groomers and it got cancelled, so at least he doesn't smell that bad now. Started watching designated survivor as well, my time is just wasting away.

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31weeksgone · 09/04/2020 20:30

Today has reaaaaaally dragged, it’s the heat I think. Just catching up with online life, sending to anyone who’s has a shitty time. feel free to keep ranting, no one needs to ask!!

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mbosnz · 09/04/2020 20:35

I feel so sorry for anyone in the playdoh years with this.

Although I'm wondering if I could persuade the teenagers that it's chic retro. . .

Ginger1982 · 09/04/2020 21:04

Fucking sick of all the tv adverts too. 'This is a message about coronavirus...'

FUCK OFF!

bakedbeanzontoast · 09/04/2020 23:24

Another day down folks. Hope you all get some sleep 🌹

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31weeksgone · 10/04/2020 01:28

I’m actually staying up until the really really early hours just to have some peace and quiet. Like a lot of you before this all kicked off when DD was at nursery I had a few days to myself (well to do uni work) but I was alone and it was quiet. I don’t know what I’ve done to my toddler because she never talks she just shouts and can’t sit still for the life of her. Not shouty in an aggressive way, just LOUD all of the time. My ears are ringing

Kept myself super super busy today but Jesus Christ there’s been lots to do.

Why is having a man working from home like having another child

Sorry to everyone else who’s having shit times too but actually knowing there’s loads of us in the same boat and it’s not just one huge fucking holiday for the lot of us is quite comforting.

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tallah · 10/04/2020 06:04

Yesterday I said I wasn't finding it too bad, that lasted long! My toddler has now decided to start waking at 5 instead of 7 (hoped it was a short phase but not looking like it) so that's nice. I hardly sleep as it is as I'm pregnant and pee all night long. When I went it to get him he kept asking for his Daddy over and over, I said something in a bit of a shouty way back, like go get your Daddy then" then he started saying "Scared" so now I feel awful that I was a bit mean. I just feel exhausted so I'll go back to bed when my husband gets up and hopefully wake in a better mood!

TeenPlusTwenties · 10/04/2020 08:57

Can I join in too? In lots of ways we are really lucky, but I have spent 13 years helping prem, neglected, adopted, learning needs DD with her education. She was finally on track to just about pass everything in her GCSEs next year. This has sent her mental health into a tailspin, she's not sleeping, too tired to do any schoolwork, stressed to the nines. This could really screw things up for her.

Georgie31 · 10/04/2020 09:08

We're in the same position no garden and living in a flat. My neighbour has a little girl and I've seen them sat on the path outside. However we do have a shared drive. So we've moved the cars into the street,cleaned the drive so she now has somewhere to play. Not much but at least somewhere and given her some camping chairs and some bits and bobs to play with. In times like this I think neighbours should be pulling together a little bit more and looking out for one another.

Kuponut · 10/04/2020 10:11

Waiting for the GP to call to try to work out why DD2's vision keeps going (via the telephone) - think it may be migraine but no way of knowing and stuck inside it's time for my brain to catastrophise nicely.

I am so fucking sick of seeing people on FB going on about their enriching parenting when it basically means ignoring all the lockdown rules - we had one plonker who went out and met up with three other families so the kids could chalk rainbows around the local area together... and went INTO THE FUCKING SCHOOL GROUNDS to do them! (the fence in the photos is very very distinctive around here) Another's bragging about going to see the local llamas - they are fucking miles away - NOT a daily exercise walk.

Ineedabreak19 · 10/04/2020 10:43

My neighbour has started to practice his trombone daily in the back garden. I'm sure he did before but we were out during the day so missed it. I'm tempted to send dd out to do recorder practice at the same time!

mbosnz · 10/04/2020 10:56

I wonder if you live over the way from me? Across the common there's a neighbour who practices his trombone.

At least he's good at it. At one point I lived opposite a bag pipe band that practised 3 hours every Wednesday night, had a trumpet player behind me, and a drummer next to me. The drummer was awful, and would go for ever. I lost it at one point and yelled over the fence, 'give it up, you're getting worse, you dickhead!' They moved soon thereafter. . .

Ineedabreak19 · 10/04/2020 11:10

@mbosnz l might live near you, there is a green and he is good. Is there another identifying landmark?!

mbosnz · 10/04/2020 11:59

South East? I'm trying to think of another identifying landmark!

QuestionableMouse · 10/04/2020 12:04

I've been thinking about starting something like this.

I'm absolutely gutted because my graduation has been postponed with no firm plan of what's actually going to take place.

No uni. I've worked damn hard for four years (access course + 3 year undergrad) and for it to end like this feels awful.

It's my birthday in a couple of days and the plans I'd made have been cancelled. I was meant to be having a weekend break to Edinburgh with my partner but all cancelled. I'll be stuck in the house alone which just seems utterly depressing. ☹️☹️☹️

I'd also planned to visit a couple of unis to check out their MA programmes. Also down the pan.

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