Anyone else want a No Judgement rant thread?

[31weeksgone]

This fucking sucks.

The whole thing bloody sucks. We’re in a house, with no garden, with a very “active” 4 year old.

Every single day before lockdown we would be out at the farm/beach/park when not at nursery and work.

DP is a key worker (as was I before I had to stay home to look after her, and started a degree) so whilst I get everyone sacrificing themselves and I’m really grateful, sometimes you need a place to just bloody vent So please don’t jump on me for this.

Stuck at home. With no garden or any outdoor space in this lovely weather, watching everyone out the window enjoying their gardens, with a “D”P I properly hate and was in the process of leaving. I don’t want to feel grateful 24/7 that we’re safe at home, I’m not grateful I’m stuck in, and I want to wallow for 20 minutes without having to be gracious 😡😡

Want to shake anyone who preaches not to go for a walk and to stay home. You’re allowed out for a walk!! It seems none of my neighbours know this the looks I’m getting, I also have to take food to my parents an hour away so no doubt I look dodgy driving away once a week for a few hours.

I was so looking forward to my last summer with my daughter before she started school. Now it’s this.

Anyone else want to rant/wallow/have a pity party please join my thread. No judgement here

I woke up this morning convinced it was Friday...you can imagine my disappointment when I was a day ahead of myself.

@31weeksgone here’s hoping.
I’m not at the point where no don’t think if even care. And I’m a really nice, kind and caring person. Just not to her!

I’ve turned my post into a ‘boost your own self confidence’ one hahaha

Hope everyone has a better day today

I'm ready for life to be back to normal but will it be the same normal it was before? I'm not convinced.
I'll never take for granted going out places again, even a trip to Matalan sounds would be exciting ! Dont get me wrong I'm grateful myself and family are healthy but it doesnt mean this situation doesnt get me down sometimes! I have young dc and lucky enough to have a garden so I cant imagine what it's like for those that don't; it must be unbelievably tough!

sounds like fun and would be*

Glad I found this thread.
I feel so miserable today. Some days are better than others. And we are lucky to both have jobs and a garden and DD keeps me busy!!
However I am heartbroken for my DD she had missed out on so much and miss our old lives immeasurably. This isn’t a life. This is endless waiting. And I can’t help but feel I would have wished my DD’s life away and not seen family and friends for no reason. How long can they leave us like this? How long can we survive with soul crushing news everyday.
DD turns 3 next week and her first birthday party is cancelled. My bitch of and MIL ruined her first birthday and DH and I argued on her 2nd birthday so this was my big redemption.
She’s missing her first ballet show which is a big deal to us and something I’ve always looked forward to (before she was even conceived)
And our first family holiday is going to be cancelled. We haven’t had a holiday in 5 years.
I miss my old life. I loved my job and my friends and my family. I had a great balance.
I cannot abide people calling this the new normal. This isn’t normal. We can’t do this forever.

It's not normal.
It's not a new way of life.
It's not a life.
We are just existing at the moment.

But, we've done 3 weeks of this existing state already. It's been a slog but we've done it.

OP, I live in a flat in a busy commuter town with two DC (8 and 11 so not as bad as an active young child). We've been going for walks everyday, the kids scoot and run around on the park (no playground obv). Not experienced any judginess, I think because we're in a built up urban area, everyone is in the same boat, lots of runners, cycling, families kicking balls around the park, old people sitting on the park benches. We're all used to crossing the road to avoid each other, it's all quite friendly and civilised. Definitely won't be shamed into staying in unless the gov change the rules, but then in my mind the shared grounds of our flats are private land so police shouldn't be able to say what you do there.

I wouldn't dare touch plumbing, I can barely chop veg without injuring myself

I'll look online for the tap shower thing, exDP will pick it up for me I'm sure.

DC have actually cooperated today so far... Its amazing what a bribe of Robux will do.

4YOs hayfever has kicked up so she's rather miserable but is sat quietly watching me knit, something I haven't done since I was a teenager so I'm slow and clumsy but she seems fascinated so it's a double win, we are both amused!

I miss my Grandparents. I've seen them weekly more or less my whole life and its been 7 weeks now as I told them to self isolate before the Government announced it as I felt they were too slow in responding, another relative has been dropping food etc into their porch for them. After reading all the issues people are having with their elderly relatives, I'm so grateful they listen to me but not seeing them fucking sucks.

I also miss ExDPs Mum, usually see her fortnightly when she picks DC up, it's only a 5 min chit chat but even that tiny interaction I'm missing.

My psych apps are going shit because they're over the phone and I only get 1 fucking BAR of signal and my phone often doesnt even bloody ring.

Please can I rant on here to the woman in the supermarket (my weekly outing) who told me that the tights I put in my trolley were not essential and it's "people like you who make it difficult for everybody. Why do you need tights? Nobody needs tights...people have died you know"

The rant in my head:

"Yes I KNOW people have died, my mum is one of those and I'm buying these tights because it's her funeral next week so fuck the fuck off, fuck off some more and when you get there mind your own fucking business you ignorant old cow!!!"

What came out of my mouth:

nothing

The amount of time I have for judgemental people at the moment is zero.

Yeah, you're def allowed to moan! I'm not finding it too hard YET... but I'm sick of people saying stuff like don't moan as it could be worse if you either have it or work on the front line.! But everyone's situation is different and your shit day is a valid as someone who's working in a and e! We can all be pissed off about it as it's probably the worst thing any of us will ever be part of in our life time. Have a nice wine tonight :-)

@trappedsincesundaymorn I'm sorry.

@trappedsincesundaymorn

I'm so very sorry for your loss, and that it was compounded by that officious coronastasi bitch.

A boil on her arse, and a wart be upon her nose.

First world problems but I have a friend she is lovely publicly giving and kind runs herself ragged helping others during this pandemic she is also celiac who ate gluten which gave her crippling stomach aches so she snacked on some other wheat stuff to perk herself up a bit she then felt worse decided she had a uti doctor says no its coronavirus she is now screaming all over Facebook that she feels like she is dying (anxiety issues too) she is gutted she cant cuddle her child (they bed share so if she has it he will to most likely) but but BUT the thing that's riling me up are most her symptoms ARE DUE TO HER EATING FUCKING WHEAT I'm gluten intolerant have been for years I know the symptoms I get its tempting to just eat "normal food" but it's not worth it she is in pain fainting collapsing barely walking all the same as before when she was told stop eating gluten she did her symptoms stop she goes back on wheat and they ramp up fast and all I get is spam about knowing who her friends are helping soo many people and no one helps her it's on repeat right now and people drop off FUCKING CAKE TO CHEER HER UP 😱😱😱😱

I love her really but step away from wheat and gluten ffs

Yes, somewhere to rant!

I'm in a 2.5 bed house, we're a family of 6 with a chronically ill child so we're all shielding.
I have no bedroom so there's nowhere I can just go and be for any length of time, DH is working upstairs in DS's bedroom all day so I have 4 kids to entertain.
2 teenagers who's goal on life is to constantly get on the fucking Xbox, an ASD 7 year old who's actually quite happy chilling out in his room (with DH) and an active 4 year old who wishes to be my shadow at all times but is always very busy with a million different activities at once.

We have a tiny garden but it's got a sever rat infestation, literally as I sit in the sofa now I can see 4 babies perched by the fence, that's gone bad it is.
I have scrubbed 6 paving slabs and stuck a trampette on there for DS1 ( chronically ill child) to stil, do some physio.

I was a care worker but was ordered to isolate due to a heart and auto immune condition so I've had my life outside of being wife/mother ripped away from me and I'm starting to resent DH and his ability to go upstairs and work and talk to adults.

It's DD's birthday next week so I have to do something for that and then DH's a few days later.
I'm a huge introvert, I usually manage my mental health by having 2-3 days a week that are just me in silence but that's obviously gone out the window.

To top it off it's the anniversary of my mums death today and I would quite like to cry.

I'm stuck in my house with a 19yo ds who is furloughed, he has depression and just lies in his room. My youngest is with her dad this week. My aupair is doing nothing seemingly other than have very loud slanging matches with her family down the phone and making it her mission to eat everything I buy as soon as I get it through the door. My partner ended our relationship with no warning after I met his kids and we had planned living together. I have to see him at work all the time. And the burn on my leg that blistered and is supposedly healing has made a dent, is red and painful. Work is horrific, I've had to report 2 near misses due to serious safety fails, we are getting hurt, exposed to the virus and criticised by management who've tied one hand behind our backs then getting criticised all over social media and the press for 'telling people what to do and fining people'

Holidays cancelled, plans ruined, and I get to be alone again. Fucking super. Thanks for the rant

vampirethriller Thankyou.

mbosnz
A boil on her arse, and a wart be upon her nose

Thankyou for the laugh I so badly needed today.

@trappedsincesundaymorn

I'm so sorry

May her carpets be made of Lego.

Mombie2016

I hope so to....hope she doesn't need to get those non-essential painkillers...Nobody needs them they can always bite on a stick like they used to do in them there olden days.

Think my mum's lost the plot as she facetimed the kids earlier wearing a crochet floral wreath on her head, the bedspread and waving a plastic flower around - the kids are struggling so she was trying to keep their spirits up!

Then school send the dreaded "setting projects" words home via email... they can fuck off - I've just got the kids onto some semi routine with work that fits two kids in two year groups in two schools - I'm not dropping everything to just do whatever "make the Sistine Chapel out of matchsticks" shite they finally send home.

My neighbours are arseholes and are breaking my sanity. Shouting all day, loud music, etc etc. Normally only have to put up with this racket during the school hols. We have a garden but can't use it. Hate them.

My fucking mother in law - on Skype bugging the kids about "what have you been doing... have you been out" (she lives on a Scottish island so no bugger's quarrantining there) and then the scorn when the kids say they've done some school work and played on their iPads. What the fuck does she expect me to have them doing? Mountaineering in the depths of nowhere?!

Hate. The. Woman.

Kuponut

Your MIL sounds like a nightmare.

My (late) MIL was the same.

We need an emoji with demon horns! The screamers from yesterday started again, so I took the lawnmower out...the big, extremely loud mower that I seldom use. Wannabe screamers last seen retreating behind closed doors and windows and several other people have mowers on standby

My rant of the day, people who assume I'm making an 'unnecessary journey' because there's no evidence of shopping and feel the need to comment! I carry a shoulder bag that's half the size of the damn tardis, the casual observer has no idea what I may have in there (medication as it happens) so judgemental asswipes can jog on! I'm already over having to justify any and every time I dare to venture beyond my property.

My god this day has dragged.

I love the idea of mowers drowning out the screamers and others on stand-by.

I too have stopped caring about having to justify my every movement. It's no one else's business and they have no right to ask quite frankly.

I'm hoping that in about 4 weeks time, when I've finished university, there may still be some garden centres open so I can buy things and start doing my garden again. It's been seriously neglected for 4 years now and I'm looking forward to doing it. If I can get it at least semi reasonable by the time my neighbours move I'll be ecstatic.

First on the list is a gate and posts for the back garden.