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Anyone else want a No Judgement rant thread?

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31weeksgone · 08/04/2020 16:05

This fucking sucks.

The whole thing bloody sucks. We’re in a house, with no garden, with a very “active” 4 year old.

Every single day before lockdown we would be out at the farm/beach/park when not at nursery and work.

DP is a key worker (as was I before I had to stay home to look after her, and started a degree) so whilst I get everyone sacrificing themselves and I’m really grateful, sometimes you need a place to just bloody vent Sad So please don’t jump on me for this.

Stuck at home. With no garden or any outdoor space in this lovely weather, watching everyone out the window enjoying their gardens, with a “D”P I properly hate and was in the process of leaving. I don’t want to feel grateful 24/7 that we’re safe at home, I’m not grateful I’m stuck in, and I want to wallow for 20 minutes without having to be gracious 😡😡

Want to shake anyone who preaches not to go for a walk and to stay home. You’re allowed out for a walk!! It seems none of my neighbours know this the looks I’m getting, I also have to take food to my parents an hour away so no doubt I look dodgy driving away once a week for a few hours.

I was so looking forward to my last summer with my daughter before she started school. Now it’s this.

Anyone else want to rant/wallow/have a pity party please join my thread. No judgement here Flowers

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Inappropriatefemale · 10/04/2020 13:51

I don’t have heavier periods all the time, it’s only been my last period where I had clots but they’re coming every 18 days rather than every 26-28 says which is when I used to get them, do you feel like a lesser woman due to this? I do, I know it’s silly but I can’t help it x

justgivemewine · 10/04/2020 14:08

Dh and I have come into the garden to sit in the sun and the miserable git has done nothing but fucking moan since we got out

“The garden looks like a junkyard” - no it doesn’t there’s a few kids toys out, that’s what happens in a garden with kids

“The grass is going to die under that box” - no it isnt it’s my weeding box and gets moved all the time

And other moans from someone who does fuck all in the garden anyway.

And now the suns too hot ffs

bakedbeanzontoast · 10/04/2020 14:32

Well I am currently half way through my 12 mile walk of boredom in an effort to stay sane.

Attempted to brave the supermarket but alas gigantic qs to get in. I will try later.

Fucks sake lol

Yesterdayforgotten · 10/04/2020 14:36

@justgivemewine tell your dh to be grateful he gets to sit and relax in the sun today. I am stuck indoors with my teething 4 month old who is screaming the house down and his 3 year old toddler sibling who is making it his mission to wake him up every time I get him to sleep!

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31weeksgone · 10/04/2020 14:38

I just have to keep reminding my daughter not to jump or bang around because neighbours (obviously) inside downstairs too. I just can’t stop being angry at the situation Angry

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justgivemewine · 10/04/2020 15:33

@Yesterdayforgotten

I did, gave him a full on lecture about how he should be grateful he’s even got a garden to sit in and moan about etc etc.

He did that man thing of grunting when they know you are right but don’t want to admit it 🙄 and funnily enough hasnt moaned since.

Ineedabreak19 · 10/04/2020 21:35

@mbosnz sorry my phone was charging earlier. No there isn't a parade of shops nearby with a restaurant, just a nursery. He is good at playing but we're not used to hearing him. Nevermind, I hope you had a lovely day in the sunshine.

Deathraystare · 11/04/2020 07:30

.and no ice-cream.

Aw that is shit, especially after everything else. I hope you get some soon. I did get some but of course had to eat it all in one session as I share a fridge/freezer and there is no way there would be room for it. I shall now put on pounds. Why did I do it??

Gigabitten · 11/04/2020 11:04

Thank you @Deathraystare

It was just one of those little things that pushed me over the edge that day.

I've since decided to take advantage of the fact there is no ice cream and very little sweet stuff left in the house, together with very limited times to go to the shop to reduce my sugar intake further.

If I can use this time to get used to not having sweet stuff (I've done it before) then that will help kick start my healthy eating plan.

If I can keep up with the healthy eating, I'll be more energised when I do go back to the gym session and running.

In short, I want to get back into my size 10's and get my strength back- and this is the ideal time and situation to do that.

Dowser · 11/04/2020 11:24

I’m another one who is just so fucking angry.

I think I’ve found my tribe on here.

Gigabitten · 11/04/2020 11:27

I think I’ve found my tribe on here.

Anyone else want a No Judgement rant thread?
Dowser · 11/04/2020 11:34

I’m so sorry trapped
I’m fucking angry now on your behalf.
It’s hard losing your mum at the best of times but at this shitty, shit, shit time ..well I can’t imagine how you’re feeling.
Wish to heck all these judgmental people would keep their noses out of other people’s business.
Jeez..a pair of tights..
If she’s a mnetter I hope she’s ashamed

Someone is going to get hurt..

Rachie1973 · 11/04/2020 12:35

Can I have a go?

My lovely daughters wedding has been cancelled.

My SGO court hearing to take custody of 2 of my grandchildren has been postponed so they’re still in foster care waiting to come to me.

I’m working too many hours and I’m tired ALL the time.

I miss my kids and my grandchildren horribly. FaceTime is great but it’s not the same.

Seems to be a shortage of Diet Coke in my locality. I’m craving it lol

Ginger1982 · 11/04/2020 13:45

I'm so bored right now. My 3 year old is so tedious. I want to be able to go somewhere, a softplay, a park, a wander round the shops...

ChocolateDove · 11/04/2020 13:52

I've got a bloody migraine from heat stroke yesterday (seriously, it doesn't take a lot for me), I'm stuck in bed feeling sick and got a sore head still, I want easter eggs, creme eggs, cake, more chocolate, and for some reason sausage and mash, but I know if I can eventually end up driving and go to the shop I'll look like a nutter buying Easter eggs, chocolate and sausages.

I want normality back! I want to go shopping for my random cravings without judgement!

trappedsincesundaymorn · 11/04/2020 15:08

Dowser

Thankyou. Yeah it's hard at the moment. Dad is in isolation as Mum died of THE bug (listed as CoD on her death certificate), my younger sister lives in Australia so can't be here and the funeral has had to be sorted out over the phone as no-body is doing face-to face stuff. The funeral will have 3 mourners....Dad me and my eldest sister (the younger one will be on Skype, as only immediate family are allowed to attend. Timing was never Mum's strong point in life and in death, it seems.

Gigabitten · 11/04/2020 15:52

Trapped - I'm so sorry. This must be hell for you all. It's bad enough in "normal" circumstances but this is a whole different level of stress and upset.

This may be the wrong to suggest to you right now, but what about arranging or begin planning for a nice wake for when you can all get together again and say goodbye to your mum properly? It's not the most cheerful of things to think about granted but it may offer you and your family some sort of closure and feel that your mum has had a proper send off - the one she would have wanted, and the type that you and your family need.

Kuponut · 11/04/2020 16:05

To build community spirit round here we have a few wanna-be DJs who are filling the bank holiday with "block discos" - basically blaring the shit out of music so everyone in the vicinity has to listen to "DJ Dave from Shitsville Terrace coming to you in lockdaaaaaahhhhnnnnn"

I hate people.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 11/04/2020 16:17

Gigabitten

Thank you. We are, indeed, having a memorial gathering for friends and family as soon as circumstances allow. There is a coastal town about a 2 hour drive away where Mum always said she wanted to have her ashes scattered, so that will be done a few days after the "get-together" as Dad is calling it. We are hoping ( although somewhat optimistically) that in can go ahead at the end of June which would have been Mums 76th birthday.

trappedsincesundaymorn · 11/04/2020 16:18

in=it obviously.

Gigabitten · 11/04/2020 16:20

That sounds lovely. I hope you get to do that. Are there any other dates you could use in case June isn't viable?

trappedsincesundaymorn · 11/04/2020 17:15

Not special dates, no. It will literally be "pick-a-date-out-of-a-hat" as soon as flights allow and my DD can get back from London.

Potterspotter · 11/04/2020 17:40

@Kuponut that sounds awful! The lack of consideration is appalling. I’m merely jealous of watching downstairs neighbours falling asleep in the sun in their gardens

FishingPaws · 11/04/2020 17:46

@Kuponut - I'd be hating people as well if I were forced to listen to that!

Tootletum · 11/04/2020 17:48

Chin up everyone. It will be over soon! And yes totally sympathise , I'm very fortunate to have a garden , which is why I don't judge the fuck out of people who are sitting in the grass in the park. The single most important thing is not socialising/getting too close. Sitting on the grass is pretty minor.