DD new bf is ignorant

[Notdamama]

lighthearted
So, our DD 13, has a BF 14. I’ve just welcomed him into our home, asked if he was well - YEAH, then asked if he’d had a good day - YEAH! I feel utterly deflated. Run up to DP who works from home. He said BF was perfectly pleasant and polite to him. CF!!!!

Perhaps he’s shy - he’s a 14 year old child.

What else did you expect? He replied to both your questions politely, he might have felt a bit intimidated but warmed up by the time he met your dp

He's probably shy and a bit awkward. I often struggled with friends parents.

Poor kid leave him alone

Christ, he's an embarrassed kid.

Leave him be.

You say lighthearted, but this is really harsh.

How are you equating a positive response to your questions as ignorant??

And who is being a CF?

You're an ancient middle aged lady to him, who asks him the same questions his own mum asks every day!

Oh op, my dds boyfriend took nearly two years to even be able to have a conversation with me. He was so shy and embarrassed.
Now he talks more than my toddler when he's staying 😂
Give the boy a chance.

anyone else thinking 'Yes Mrs Paterson' 'No Mrs Paterson'.

You've got Kevin the teenagers friend there!

That’s not what ignorant means.

I feel utterly deflated.

have you never met a teenager before?

You asked two closed ended questions. What did you expect?

That's harsh OP.

I wonder how much chit chat your DD gives his parents.
It's daunting at that age give the lad a break!

He probably just said 'yeah' and 'yeah' to them too- they probably did see that as friendly 😂

Bloody hell he's 14!!
He answered you.

Why are you so hung up on him? They probably won't be together long. You won't be spending the next 20 Christmas' with him.

Ignorant? That's really harsh

Wow just wow. You do realise it’s a 14 yr old boy not a 30yr old she’s about to marry?!

Poor lad. I hope DS isn't the subject of a MN post one day. He's quite shy until he gets to know someone.

That's more than I get from my 14year old nephew! And I've known him all his life.

DD's BF (15) was like this the first time we met him, hardly spoke at all. I think he was terrified! I just chatted away and after coming over a couple of times, he opened up. Now he talks a lot.

Agree with @Voxx
I don’t know how you have worked out that he’s ignorant if you haven’t even had a conversation with him

I had known DDs last boyfriend since he was 6 (they were 14 when they became a thing) and I struggled to get much communication from him, it’s not personal
She has a few Male friends now (they are all 15) but the boyfriend has bitten the dust - some are happy to chat but others just grunt at me
He’s not ignorant though, but you sounds like you might be OP

Your post isn't lighthearted and the kid isn't ignorant HTH.

@Voxx

In the midlands ignorant means ill mannered or rude

@Lampan
ditto above

@NoMorePoliticsPlease In the midlands ignorant means the same as it means everywhere else in the country