DD new bf is ignorant

[Notdamama]

lighthearted
So, our DD 13, has a BF 14. I’ve just welcomed him into our home, asked if he was well - YEAH, then asked if he’d had a good day - YEAH! I feel utterly deflated. Run up to DP who works from home. He said BF was perfectly pleasant and polite to him. CF!!!!

I never said anything to him or DD NOR WOULD I...as I said it was lighthearted!!!!! so shocked at the attack but hey ho - I’m the worst human in the world. Forget #bekind from last week, I’ll just kill myself now.

Wow. Reported - you are way out of line for making a comment like that.

I also can't believe how low the expectations are of teenagers. Of course they are capable of a yeah thanks even the shy ones. I work with teenagers, they are perfectly capable of being courteous. Saying 'yeah' is a mark of disrespect and bad manners. When did expectations get so low?
How did he answer your DP op?

Deflated? Were you hoping for some in depth chat about the Budget? He’s 14, you sound like you’re sizing him up as marriage material 🤣🤣

but hey ho - I’m the worst human in the world. Forget #bekind from last week, I’ll just kill myself now

Or you could just relax. It's not that deep.

The university age boyfriends will be the ones trying to impress you. The 14 year old is probably overwhelmed just by being in his girlfriends house, give him some time.

Forget #bekind from last week, I’ll just kill myself now.

Awful comment!

OP ..what a cuntish comment. Reported.

Notdamama Wed 11-Mar-20 18:14:30
Haha maybe I’m not experienced in teenager!! I’ll not ask anymore questions. I wouldn’t challenge him or my DD. I just thought he would be wanting to make an impression. I must be back in the 50’s. Definitely a middle aged woman
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I don't understand why you are 'not experienced in teenager' when you have a teenager and must have friends/family with teenagers.

The boy is not 'ignorant', that's a nasty thing to say, lightheartedly or not. They're all like that at his age.

Next time he comes around why don't you sit him down and ask him how he is getting on at school, what his father does for a living and does he have hobbies. I did mean that lightheartedly.

(You are ignorant for starting your opening post with 'So'.)

I work in a secondary school - at 14 lots of the children (boys and girls) are monosyllabic, especially to ancient, middle aged women such as myself. One of those monosyllabic kids is my son, who can talk the hind legs off a donkey when he's with someone he knows well in a comfortable environment!

It's not personal op.

#beingkind isn't really coming to an online forum and starting a thread about a kid because he didn't dance like a performing monkey when you wanted him to.

I'd love to hear his version of events. You sound high maintenance.

Poor kid.