20 year-old DS has never had a girlfriend

[FlourBug]

Anyone like to reassure/advise about this? DS will be 21 this year and has never had a girlfriend that I know of. I'm pretty sure I would know if he'd had even a slightly serious relationship.

Obviously he could be gay, but in that case he's never had a boyfriend that i know of either!

I know it's none of my business really but he seems so alone sometimes and i just want someone to come into his life who's really for him if you know what i mean?

Anyone's DH/DP/DS not have a girlfriend/boyfriend til quite late on but then became really happily settled??

I guess sarcasm's not a strong point of yours then?!

It's irrelevant whether what you said was 'sarcasm' or not, what you said was unnecessary, I reported it too.

Did i miss something?

Nor mine, I don't worry too much about it! He's lovely (well I would say that but plenty of other people say so too) but he's not interested in casual hook ups/internet dating and says he hasn't got time for a relationship because of uni/work. Maybe your DS hasn't either. All in their own time!

youcannot accused you of incest OP. It’s fine, she was only being sarcastic.

I'm honoured, thanks Call...

Not really Flour, just leave him be.

Thanks so much

I know how you feel op, my Ds is 27 and has never had a girlfriend either. He is smart, very mannerly, kind and funny but he is also shy and not overly sociable. He doesn't drink and the pub is the only socializing his job seem to do. He has lost touch with all his school/college friends. I would love him to meet someone, I think he will regret it when he is older if he doesn't at least try but I keep my nose out.

Confidence is the key i think. shy people hope that others will see past the shyness but it's often misread as indifference/coldness/being stuckup.

@Deadringer I would advise him to go to the pub and get soft drinks. My DP does not drink and still goes to the pub. Yes there are are a few men that will make a deal out of it, he just ignores them. But you have to go to where people are at.

I got my first proper boyfriend at 20 and married him. No way was he going to escape my clutches I finally caught a man😂