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If you were staying at someones house at this time of year, what tog duvet would you expect?

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WaxOnFeckOff · 06/02/2020 14:13

We are all warm bods in my house so the duvets we have are all around 2.5 tog.

We haven't had anyone stay for years but have people this weekend. I was sure I had a 7 tog king put a way somewhere but can only find that in a single. My spare king is 2.5.

That's too cool for other folk isn't it? I also have a blanket and it's quite a thick duvet cover.

I was just going to pick up a cheapy one but seem to have the choice of 10.5, 13.5 or 4.5?

Would 4.5 be too cool as well? We will never use a 10.5 or 13.5. Confused

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Judystilldreamsofhorses · 06/02/2020 23:21

13.5 here all year round. In winter we have a fake fur throw over the bottom, and I currently have the electric blanket on in preparation for going to bed shortly. The cat will be in the middle of us, hogging the duvet, at about 4am.

DP sleeps naked, I usually wear a nightshirt, socks, and knickers. (V sexy.)

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 06/02/2020 23:21

13.5 tog but I do feel the cold. The weather is meant to horrid this weekend so you may want to offer extra.

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 06/02/2020 23:24

Oh, we also have flannelette bedlinen from October holidays to Easter holidays. (Also in Scotland.)

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WaxOnFeckOff · 06/02/2020 23:33

DH has significant allergies, it takes ages to find bedding that doesn't affect him. I don't think wool would be possible. He only has one woolen jumper that he is able to wear. I think our duvet cover is quite heavy/thick (plain organic cotton). I've put the same on the bed for the guests. DSs did have 10.5 duvets but they were too warm and now have 2.5 as well, I ask if they want warmer ones but they always say no. They've camped in minus degrees in tents and enjoyed it. I think we are generally warm people and the house is never really freezing in the way it was when we were kids in an house with only a gas fire and metal framed, single glazed windows.

I don't really wear a winter coat either, just a rain shell. DS1 doesn't wear one at all until about late November and both boys wore shorts for school all year round.

We always find hotels too warm and are fine with just a sheet when abroad.

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Imustchangenamesoon · 06/02/2020 23:37

I don't encourage guests so problem solved for me. Sorry if that sounds odd, but I really cannot do this.

My parents are deceased, rest their souls, and family can well afford to stay nearby and they do, bless them. They are independent folk who want to do their own thing but still want to see us all. Perfect!

So the moral of the story is, I don't care about duvets and the like for guests. No guests, no Duvet worries.

AmelieTaylor · 06/02/2020 23:48

@MiniMum97 - calm down dear

🙄🙄

@WaxOnFeckOff. Im with you, I’m not actually sure what tog our duvet is (no label anymore) but it’s old now so no iras what Toc it’s. The window is wide open.

rededucator · 06/02/2020 23:54

Could you ask your guest? Say you've just realized you've misplaced the spare duvet and so need to buy a new one anyway, they're the lucky first guests so which tog would they like?

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WaxOnFeckOff · 06/02/2020 23:57

We used to have people stay regularly but kids got older, we both work, life got in the way, we let the house get a bit run down and just didn't feel like having people in.

We are making the effort to be a bit more sociable and have been working our way round doing up the house. One DS is away at Uni so his bedroom is mostly free during term time and the vast majority of his stuff is away with him. Sooooo, hence visitors staying after a few years and we are a bit out of the habit and probably feeling a bit more anxious than I would have been.

Bed looks lovely and cosy, I'm sure they will be perfectly fine. DS sleeps in there alone with 2.5, They now have two of them with a 7 plus a blanket and other things available if required. They may or may not also have a wine overcoat Grin

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WaxOnFeckOff · 07/02/2020 00:03

I technically have more than one blanket, but the others are either the boys cot blankets or single sized ones from when they were little, no-one else uses them. The only reason I have one full sized one is because I bought it last week :)

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BohoBunney · 07/02/2020 00:05

I’m another one who has no idea what tog we’ve got Blush

It’s fairly thin. One on the spare is thicker but only because I do run hot in bed too. We have a fleecy blanket that we can out on if cold and in summer I just use a thin blanket. We don’t change the duvet out between seasons.

I think the way you’ve done it with lots of lower tog duvets is good. If they’re a hot person they can take away and if they’re a cold person they can layer up it sounds very cosy!

PixieDustt · 07/02/2020 00:07

13.5 all the way. I'd freeze in 2.5 but be grateful you are putting me up so wouldn't dare complain just layer up Grin

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WaxOnFeckOff · 07/02/2020 00:22

It must be cosy enough, I've had to shut the cat out and she usually only goes in there when DS is home. He's the love of her life but she generally shuns the room once it's lost his aroma. I found her in there snuggled on the blanket. :o

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Scotmummy1216 · 07/02/2020 00:25

10.5

EL0ISE · 07/02/2020 00:40

@WaxOnFeckOff I think your layered solution sounds ideal. Although it’s cold tonight in your area it’s to get milder and wetter over the weekend.

sadatchristmas1 · 07/02/2020 01:49

I use a 13.5 tog and it isn't warm enough for me in winter, summer I sleep with just a duvet cover! The kids all have 10.5 tog Barr one child who has a 15 tog and sleeps in a fluffy onesie and still complains she is cold, no heating on overnight in South Wales so not even excessively cold here.

HoldMyLobster · 07/02/2020 03:09

I don't know what tog ours is - I'm not sure American duvets have a tog rating? I do know it's goose down, and I put a flannel duvet cover on it in winter, and it's lovely.

Drafty house in Maine with nowhere near enough heating especially upstairs. House is usually around 14-16C in the day and below 10C at night - with all the windows closed.

I work from home wearing wool sweaters, wool socks, a blanket tucked around me and sometimes a hat...

screamingvalhalla · 07/02/2020 03:48

20 year old cottage , heating off / low over night , window open a few inches in bedroom , we have a 1.5 tog quality duvet bought for summer but continued to use it as it's more than enough
Too hot is worse than too cold

o0 · 07/02/2020 04:44

Best money I ever spent was on a 100% silk duvet.
It really does what it claims and is cool in summer and warm in winter.
Its an All Seasons one. I really recommend them.

Op, you sound like you've got it sorted, it sounds very cosy and warm so no one will freeze!

dontgobaconmyheart · 07/02/2020 04:49

I'd expect something about 10.5, extra blanket and the offer of a hot water bottle if there was going to be extreme cold predicted or anything.

Frankly though I'd ask! Everyone is different. I've for health problems that are exacerbated by the cold so would really appreciate something toasty or the option of putting on the heating etc- everyone is so different though aren't they. My DP wears shorts and t-shirts all year around. We must look a right pair. I have to bundle up in full get up like its deep winter just to function outside in winter and he'll be next to me in the shorts.

IvinghoeBeacon · 07/02/2020 05:14

I go to stay with family and friends regularly and have them to stay with me too, and I have never asked or been asked about my duvet tog preference! If I were asked I would think it very thoughtful of them but would have no idea how to answer other than “whatever is easiest for you”

happycamper11 · 07/02/2020 06:02

I use 13.5 year round and have the heating on October - May. I'd freeze with a 2.5 or 4 even in a warm house. 10 at the very least

happycamper11 · 07/02/2020 06:17

Oh and I can't even imagine the hell of getting 2 king sized duvets that aren't designed to double up (ie snap together) in to a cover... surely it will get all bunched up through the night.

AJPTaylor · 07/02/2020 06:18

We have a well insulated house. We have a 4.5 tog, a blanket turn the heating off and the window open!

karencantobe · 07/02/2020 06:57

OP given that none of you really wear coats in winter, then you obviously don't feel the cold. Most people in winter are wearing warm coats, and on cold days people are really bundled up.
We use a 13.5 tog in winter plus a throw over the top. We have an averagely warm house. We also wear warm coats in winter and in cold days hats, gloves and an extra jumper.

HasaDigaEebowai · 07/02/2020 07:06

This thread makes no sense since it clearly all depends on the temperature of your house. If the OP is in scotland and every one is using 2.5 tog duvets and walking around in shorts and Tshirts then she clearly has her central heating whacked up high for long periods of time.

In contrast, someone who is only putting the heating on for an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening and lives in a cold house is likely to need a 13.5 tog quilt (which is pretty standard for this time of year in a cold room).

OP I'd get a couple of thin quilts and have them all separate so that your guest can add or discard as they please.