Why does MN not like SAHMs?

[Didthatreallyhappen2]

This baffles me (and I haven't posted in AIBU as I know the vitriol that arises there sometimes). I'm proudly an SAHM. Friends are equally proudly working mums. I don't care what they are, as long as they are decent human beings. They don't judge me, and I don't judge them.

But on MN it seems that SAHMs are looked down on. My DH and I have a partnership - he earns the money and I do everything (and I mean everything) at home, all the domestic tasks, school-related etc etc. We both work full time, but I don't get paid, or have an annual review, or bonuses or whatever. It works for us.

Everything in our household is joint - and yet on MN SAHMs are continually lambasted for not having their own money, prospects, wasted their education, not a good role model etc etc. Why? I truly don't understand this.

It doesn't bother me whether a mother wants to stay at home or work, it's entirely her own business.
I don't understand all the fuss about it to be honest.

I think it's only if they are claiming benefits in order to do so.

I think it's more who are doing this but justifying it by being really hard on people who use childcare. It's my right to look after my babies, why would I hand them over to a stranger blah blah blah.

probably stem more from being insecure about leaving their kids in childcare and/or are envious of the fact that they don’t have a choice but to go out to work.

It's this type of thinly veiled dig at working mums that pisses me off.

Except for perhaps some worries at the very beginning, working mums are unlikely to be insecure about leaving their children in childcare.

The digs from both sides are both boringly predictable, and repetitious. And don't really do anything for anybody.

I don’t think the animosity is real. A bit like the hating larger families etc there’s a lot of crap spouted on MN that doesn’t appear in RL