Starved snake

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For the second time my Dsis has neglected an animal to death and I only found out yesterday.

She's recently 18 and did have a snake that used to be my brothers til she took over it's care. I'd noticed she hadn't been feeding it much from lack of seeing defrosting mice, but I never go in her room where it was and have quite a hectic life, I did ask her way back September time are you feeding the snake is it still alive and she'd said yes of course

Yesterday my DB tells me that a few weeks ago he'd gone in there to see it and the smell was horrific, it had been dead for obviously quite a while and there were about 3 rotting mice where she'd put them in, feeding a dead snake?!!!

She has form for this when years and years ago she neglected a Guinea pig, sadly to it's death too. At that time I didn't visit the house much but I did notice and was having to clean it out and kept telling her to look after it but she didn't.

I've told her today that her actions are disgusting and illegal and she's never to own an animal again, if she does I'll report her. I honestly think it's an extreme case of laziness and irresponsibility

OP that the animals died the way that they did is very sad but ignore those piling on to have a go at you. You've done nothing wrong and it's not your fault.

You sound like you had a difficult upbringing but maybe your sister did too in a different way. She sounds detached from reality.

At the time of the Guinea pig I was living somewhere else and didn't visit often, and it was kept outside

She needs intervention and tbh- probably needs to be living away from your family.

yeah im thinking there are some real MH problems here... who doesnt know when something is dead? and who leaves the rotten mice in the tank for it to smell :S bit wierd to be honest and i would be rather worried for your dsis health..i think you should say something to her, maybe just mention that its not normal to be like that...

I've confronted her about it very clearly and told her it was disgusting behaviour and an extremely shitty and illegal thing to do. I've told her she better not get another animal ever again and if she does I'll report her then I sent her the evidence of the kind of penalty she can expect

She's now hiding in her room

that means she is what a good 10 years younger than you? and much younger when her mum died and presumably had chaos from a much younger age.

I think you need to rethink actually who found it much harder

She has no dc and hopefully never will

She was 3 and I was 12, it was me who was the young carer and had mh problems

She sounds vile. Nasty lazy bitch. I’d bloody read her the riot act if she were my sister.

Op I’m glad you’re following this up. She actually needs prosecution for this so she is not allowed to keep any more pets.

I don’t think the OP is at all at fault here.
I do think though, OP, that your sister has more going on than laziness.
I’m no expert but pathological demand avoidance springs to mind... id not only be in touch with the rspca for the sake of the snake, I’d be insisting she see a GP- or calling one for a home visit. Her mental health is clearly not quite right.

What sort of snake was it? Were the mice put in weeks apart or in one shot?

Some snakes can go a long time without food but I’m assuming she also didn’t change the water

Sorry should say her MH is also clearly not right.

it was me who was the young carer and had mh problems

And then it was her. You said 6 years ago you weren’t living there, she was 12, your dad had severe MH issues. So she was the one at home dealing with that.

I think it was some kind of corn snake but I know nothing about snakes so I'm not sure

No she had help and support from the family friend who became her employed nanny up until a few years ago so she'd be fed and looked after

18 year old who is by all accounts incredibly lazy (and an animal abuser according to pp) is given a snake that used to belong to your brother (why isn’t he looking after it?)

lives in Room with the most horrific smell your brother has ever smelt
4 rotting animals
And no one notices, or checks in with her the way that is clearly needed.

Sister reports her to rspca.

Honestly poor animals, poor girl.

Living in a room with 4 rotting corpses is not normal behaviour. You sound very unsympathetic and seem to really dislike her.
Not sure why you posted here

You should e concerned. Most people who go on to be killers start with killing of at least causing the death of animals. She's either very sick, insane or just down right twisted and evil. Either way she needs reporting.

Agree with @WireBrushAndDettolMaam

Maybe she had a nanny but who was looking after him?

No she had help and support from the family friend

Not enough. They let her pet die.

How on earth was the employed nanny paid for?! This makes zero sense

I posted for opinion on the best course of action. If it was me who'd discovered it then I would have reported straight away but I don't know they can do anything now.

I get on with her usually, didn't expect this at all as she has been bright and outgoing in the past year, got this new job, applying for uni etc, didn't think she would do this again

Ffs, of you course you're implicit. The many occasions I've been concerned about a horses welfare I haven't just shrugged and left it to suffer because it wasn't mine. Like many, I've done something, even if that something is caring for it myself because the owner & rspca are fucking useless.

Ditto the various other animals I've been aware were being abused. (But tbf the cat charities and smaller wildlife type are usually shit hot once they are involved)

Perhaps when old boy cat turned up needing vet bills that came to 4 figures I should have left him to die outside because he wasn't my responsibility.

Animal abuse continues because people like you allow it to.

OP so she basically had her physical needs met but not her emotional needs and has led to all of these issues. Plus she has a sister who clearly dislikes her and feels that now she is 18 she should be fine

This girl was being neglected if no-one noticed that her pet, when she was 12!! Was starving. Whoever was officially caring for her wasn’t doing it well enough.

You're being unfair to me. If I had known I'd have done something, I'm at fault for trusting her not to lie to me, I didn't knowingly let it happen! Other than to the extent of being so busy with my own life that my sisters snake isn't at the forefront of my mind usually?!