Starved snake

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For the second time my Dsis has neglected an animal to death and I only found out yesterday.

She's recently 18 and did have a snake that used to be my brothers til she took over it's care. I'd noticed she hadn't been feeding it much from lack of seeing defrosting mice, but I never go in her room where it was and have quite a hectic life, I did ask her way back September time are you feeding the snake is it still alive and she'd said yes of course

Yesterday my DB tells me that a few weeks ago he'd gone in there to see it and the smell was horrific, it had been dead for obviously quite a while and there were about 3 rotting mice where she'd put them in, feeding a dead snake?!!!

She has form for this when years and years ago she neglected a Guinea pig, sadly to it's death too. At that time I didn't visit the house much but I did notice and was having to clean it out and kept telling her to look after it but she didn't.

I've told her today that her actions are disgusting and illegal and she's never to own an animal again, if she does I'll report her. I honestly think it's an extreme case of laziness and irresponsibility

The GP was years ago, I honestly expected a legal adult to be able to look after 1 snake without interference

There’s no way that smell was only in her room.

Whenever her door was open there was a horrible smell but that's normal for her room, she keeps the door closed all the time

I honestly expected a legal adult to be able to look after 1 snake without interference

An adult who had been adequately cared for as a child, yes. This one wasn’t.

My DB said the smell was the most horrific smell in the world and was extremely strong

And you didn’t notice?

Funnily enough she WAS cared for. After my mum died because she was so young she was cared for by a family friend, it was me and my brother who had a hard time growing up and we're almost taken away by ss

I didn't no, I noticed a bad smell for a couple of seconds if the door to her room was open, and periodically I take a stand and tell her to take the rubbish out of her room

Personally I think SS need to have a bit of a look into your family situation. Something's not right. Being able to ignore rotting dead things can be part of a mental illness. You all don't seem to be on the ball here. There was no way that smell was confined to her bedroom.

You also have a whole lot to answer for OP.

How am I responsible for an animal that isn't mine, I take care of my animals, she lied to me

You knew something wasn't right and did nothing

I think she sounds lazy/disorganised rather than psychopathic. I see no evidence of deliberate cruelty, more disinterested neglect.

How am I responsible for an animal that isn't mine

Lovely attitude.
It was on your house.

Yeah I knew there’d be a history here.

It was a snake that wasn't mine, that I'd never handled or fed or seen in a long time, in a room I don't want to or am 'allowed' to go in, I did ask about it, and on the surface it appeared after I said that that she was indeed feeding it, and then I didn't think of it again as I have many responsibilities of my own including working 40 hour weeks through December and new year

This isn't my house it's my dads, I'm not responsible no. The adult owner is responsible

Bunch of reprobates

Aren’t you living there?

I’m confused about the set upx

I don't understand why you are not more worried about your Dsis and what has caused her to behave like this.

You are right in that she is 18, and that you should be able to trust a normal, mentally healthy and well adjusted 18 year old to look after an animal, or to ask for help if it is too much for them. -- You should also be able to expect them not to keep multiple rotting animal corpses in their rooms.

She has, so that means (to me) there is something wrong with her, and definitely more than laziness. It's cruel to let an animal starve, even the laziest teens would normally feel incredibly guilty if they didn't feed their pet.

I think while understandably angry you need to consider stepping back and asking some difficult questions about your Dsis's welfare and mental health.

After my mum died because she was so young she was cared for by a family friend

That's not to say she was unaffected- her mum dying and then her being shipped off to a family friend away from her siblings and father would be very traumatic, I'd have thought.

Don't tar me with the same brush. I recently paid nearly 400 on vet bills for my guinea pigs because I care for them. I'm nothing like her

Oh OP your sister lost her mum at a young age, has a father with mental health issues and a sister who thinks that because she was cared for by a family friend she would be ok.

She ISNT ok and this is a clear red flag being waved that she isnt. And your view that you are ok so she should be (a) relies on you actually being ok and I think you have coping mechanisms in place to allow you to cope and (b) this isnt a competition as to who had it worse. All 3 of you clearly have not had the greatest upbringing

The whole family should be banned from having pets, when guinea pigs want food or hay they are very vocal, you'd have heard them shouting as would anybody else in the house. They can drown out the tv with their high pitched feed me squeak whenever they hear the food bag, kitchen door or the sound of people.

An animal died under your watch. If your sister starved a child to death and you made some of the ludicrous comments you’ve made on this thread the courts would be holding you liable too. ‘There was a bad smell coming from her room but I thought nothing of it’. Pathetic. Hang your head in shame OP.

If she has a dc please pay more attention to their care.
It doesn't sound as though your sisters upbringing has given the ability to care for herself or others despite being drawn to having a pet.