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Starved snake

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OdeToDiazepam · 17/01/2020 20:37

For the second time my Dsis has neglected an animal to death and I only found out yesterday.

She's recently 18 and did have a snake that used to be my brothers til she took over it's care. I'd noticed she hadn't been feeding it much from lack of seeing defrosting mice, but I never go in her room where it was and have quite a hectic life, I did ask her way back September time are you feeding the snake is it still alive and she'd said yes of course

Yesterday my DB tells me that a few weeks ago he'd gone in there to see it and the smell was horrific, it had been dead for obviously quite a while and there were about 3 rotting mice where she'd put them in, feeding a dead snake?!!!

She has form for this when years and years ago she neglected a Guinea pig, sadly to it's death too. At that time I didn't visit the house much but I did notice and was having to clean it out and kept telling her to look after it but she didn't.

I've told her today that her actions are disgusting and illegal and she's never to own an animal again, if she does I'll report her. I honestly think it's an extreme case of laziness and irresponsibility

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beverlymarsh · 17/01/2020 21:15

Poor snake Sad

JKScot4 · 17/01/2020 21:16

Do you and your DB live in the same house?
She’s been living in a filthy room with rotting dead animals? that’s more than lazy.
Somebody needs to stand up to her and tell her to clear the room out and she can never have another pet. I’m sick at the thought of that poor snake starving to death whilst she’s living in the same room, she’s either mentally unwell or very very cruel.

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OdeToDiazepam · 17/01/2020 21:16

Well idk what else I can do, I never saw the snake in the last year and I wasn't aware of the routine, I asked when I'd noticed it not happening as I didn't know whether she was doing it when I was at work or out the house and my DF said he was still buying mice, after she got one out and defrosted it wasn't in my mind again, until I heard this news

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OdeToDiazepam · 17/01/2020 21:17

I'm in the house at the moment but my DB isn't

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midwest · 17/01/2020 21:17

There appears to be a significant lack of functionality within your family.
Your dsis does have mental health issues and she living in a home with a parent with mental health issues.
She appears to be unable to care for her own physical space or animals within it.
It sounds like she could benefit from a lot more support than she getting.
Are you living in the same house?

JKScot4 · 17/01/2020 21:18

So you live in the same house and no one is concerned about her living in squalor?
Does she work? study? Does nobody care about anything in that house?

Helmlover1 · 17/01/2020 21:18

You’ve contradicted yourself a lot in this thread OP. You said earlier you were worried about the snake and had to check she was feeding it, then you said that her room was dirty and you knew nothing about the animals suffering?

I don’t understand why you created this thread? Your sister is an animal abuser and has starved 2 animals to death- I would be too ashamed to be posting this on a forum.

TrainspottingWelsh · 17/01/2020 21:18

Everything wirebrush said.

And what is your db's excuse for giving her the snake when he knows she's an animal abuser? And then being concerned enough to ask if she's feeding it but not bothering to check.

And no sympathy for her being 12 when she killed the guinea pig. My parents were awful, and I still looked after numerous pets properly at a much younger age. If anything that makes it worse, because when you have shit parents you know exactly how it feels when the person that's meant to care for you does the exact opposite.

And unless your df's mh problems are so severe he needs 24/7 care himself and was too out of it to even notice either pet existed, then he's got no excuse for turning a blind eye.

Ronnie27 · 17/01/2020 21:19

Do you all live together? She sounds very detached, like she’s struggling tbh, filthy room etc. Poor snake, it’s awful to think of isn’t it. Sad

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OdeToDiazepam · 17/01/2020 21:19

My DFs MH is better now than it was. She doesn't need support, she's 18. She's capable of looking after herself and she does. She shouldn't ever own an animal again though and I'm disgusted with her about it and her lack of remorse

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WireBrushAndDettolMaam · 17/01/2020 21:19

Agree midwest

It’s sounds like this girl has been left to rot in her own mess with no-one bothering to get her the help she needs.

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OdeToDiazepam · 17/01/2020 21:19

She does a levels and works about 4 hours a week sporadically

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AsleepAllDay · 17/01/2020 21:20

She sounds like a psychopath, frankly

gypsywater · 17/01/2020 21:20

How does she find herself?

gypsywater · 17/01/2020 21:20

Fund *
She finds herself to be an animal abuser

JKScot4 · 17/01/2020 21:21

She’s clearly not capable of looking after herself or a pet, living in squalor with dead animals isn’t normal way for a teenager to live. Even if she’s just a cruel nasty person, do you think she should live like this? Her sister and father in their own worlds oblivious to what’s going on in your own home.

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OdeToDiazepam · 17/01/2020 21:21

She's too lazy to clean her room that's why it's a mess.

I have sent her the evidence of the kind of jail term and penalty she can expect if she does it again, and the news of what happened to a woman who was prosecuted for starving snakes (£700 fine and community sentence)

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WireBrushAndDettolMaam · 17/01/2020 21:22

None of this sounds normal or healthy. The whole family dynamic I mean.

midwest · 17/01/2020 21:22

OP your sister is living in filth, with social anxiety, incapable of keeping a snake alive or managing the fact it has died, leaving several stinking and rotting carcasses in her room.
She plainly needs more support, this isn't standard 18 year old behavior.

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OdeToDiazepam · 17/01/2020 21:22

She's 18 I'm not going to help her clean her room when she chooses to lounge around on her phone instead

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happycamper11 · 17/01/2020 21:22

Did she realise it was dead? We have a royal python and they are affectionately known as pet rocks. Ours hasn't eaten in a few weeks they are renowned food refusers sometimes up to a year and a half. It's a tricky let for even the most conscientious owner

TrainspottingWelsh · 17/01/2020 21:23

You aren't any better op, you did fuck all despite having concerns and knowing she had past form for animal cruelty.

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OdeToDiazepam · 17/01/2020 21:23

My DB said the smell was the most horrific smell in the world and was extremely strong

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WireBrushAndDettolMaam · 17/01/2020 21:24

She needed social services about 7 years ago.

midwest · 17/01/2020 21:24

I'm with @wirebrush on this one.

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