Can’t stop thinking about this comment..

[sunshinegirl13]

(Sorry if this is a long post but I will only add what is needed for context)

Throughout all of my adult life I have been a size 8 but due to complications with endometriosis and blood clots last year, I got the contraceptive injection to stop my periods and as a result of this my thyroid has become under active and I have now gained a lot of weight and am now a size 14.

This year I have lost a stone and have been trying really hard to get back into shape as I feel so down about the way I look. This was inspired by the goal of a two week holiday abroad that I went to on the 3rd of December.

I got myself lots of new nice clothes and made a real effort to try and build my self confidence. I mostly felt ok in what I was wearing and could feel almost stylish.

However, one day on the holiday I went to a shopping complex on the beach with my DM. I was wearing a swimsuit with a skort cover up over the top and I felt like I looked nice for a change as I felt the swimsuit flattered My curves and the skort was flattering on my stomach.

As I was browsing the shop a lady selling something on a market stall called out to me and said “do you know how disgusting you look from the back?” I at first thought I had miss-heard her and looked confused so she repeated “Do you know how disgusting you look?” I was so upset and confused I tried to walk away but my DM (who was previously looking in a shop) walked over to join me. The women then shouted to her “are you her mother?” To which my mum replied yes. I walked away to escape the situation but my DM approached her and she repeated about how disgusting I looked to her. I walked to a near by bench and cried my eyes out. My mother complained to the manager of the shop her market stall was out but I ended up cutting our shopping day short as I felt so self conscious.

At first I thought it could’ve been because my skirt was short (not indecent - especially for the beach) but there were girls wandering around in their bikinis (and even a girl in a thong bikini standing next to the shop).

I can’t stop thinking about this comment and thinking about how fat and grotesque I must look for a random women to say this. I have never felt more insecure and I don’t know how to speed up the weight loss process more than I can. I can’t come off the injection as it’s the only thing helping with my endometriosis that works. I just feel so disappointed in myself and unhappy.

My mum believes this happened because I have a very prominent hour glass figure (which is true but a wobbly belly) and that the women felt I looked ‘disgusting’ as it was sexier than most others but I feel like my DM is just trying to make me feel better and can’t stop over thinking.

I don’t really know what the point in this post is but maybe to get some tips on how to stop overthinking those cruel words, every time I close my eyes at night to go to bed I just repeat it over and over in my head.

Sorry for the long winded vent post

@tiqtok why the confusion? You're troll hunting on the thread, it's not allowed.

OP just ignore the negativity, it was a vile and rude comment and she must have some serious issues to be shouting out things like that.

@tiqtok it's against the rules to publicly say on a thread that you think the OP is lying. You're supposed to just report the thread.

You look like an absolute blonde bombshell! I’m saying that seriously, not just to make you feel better. I bet half the men on the street had had their tongues hanging out as you walked past. One of them was probably her boyfriend! That’s probably what set her off in her jealous rant!

Don’t give it a second more thought.

Did the woman comment in English or in Spanish? Are you absolutely sure that there wasn’t a language issue? “Gustar” means “to like” in Spanish, did she possibly mistranslate a compliment?

We were in Lanzarote in March and it was Carnival time. The parade was FULL of generously-proportioned local ladies strutting their stuff in skimpy costumes and the spectators (mixture of locals and tourists) were loving it!

Please try not to dwell on this. Firstly - even if the strangest looking person in the world walked past who would actually say something like that to them?

And thinking rationally - a person in a swimsuit who is a size 12/ 14- how could that look anything other than completely normal?!

She isn't all there OP.

Ok I've just seen the photo - I call jealousy. Was anyone admiring you? You actually look incredible!

You should know from the fact that she then called over your mother that she’s just a bit unhinged.

I once smiled at a lady and she called me a fucking maniac.

Total jealousy from her. Your photo is stunning! She was trying to take you down because she was jealous.

Some people are awful. I walked into a boutique once (I'm a size 12) and the woman who worked there looked me up and down and said doubtfully, and loudly, "hmmmm, we might have some plus size garments in the back that will fit you".

I walked straight out, mortified, and wasn't surprised to see had they shut down a few months later. The fact is, most people are not a size 8 and it's shocking that a boutique owner would not realise that.

Probably a highly religious nutcase! Just put it down to a bad experience with a loony tune and move on!

You are so far from disgusting, OP, it's untrue. God knows what that woman was on about You have a most beautiful, feminine hour glass figure. Please try to put it out of your mid.

Yess well, from a blokes POV

Phowar:))

I was all set to be polite and all ‘aw I’m sure you’re not too bad’ when you show us pure Jessica Rabbit! The stall holder was EATEN UP with jealousy. There is no other possible explanation

100% this.

You see if I had a figure like yours (Hello Kardashians), and someone insulted me like that, I’d be like, “well she is clearly losing the plot because I am a total goddess.” , flick my gorgeous hair and sashay off down the runway.

Bloody hell, that photo of you, you look beautiful.

Clearly she was JEALOUS. Forget the stupid bitch.

Wow you have an amazing figure, OP! The woman who made the comment was probably jealous!

@BaubleTheLumpOfCoal except I answered all the questions. That is a genuine thread if you read it till the end. MNHQ even investigated and found it real, so i don’t know what you’re getting at there. I won’t be returning because you’re being pedantic and the issue from the thread has been resolved with the genuine support I received I have also asked for this thread to be taken down due to troll hunters