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Not going to Xmas play

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PumpkinP · 08/12/2019 19:24

Is it awful not to attend your child’s Xmas play? If they don’t actually have a part in it and will just be singing. I know working parents have no choice but as I’m a sahm would it be totally awful? I went to my DCs a couple of years ago and again neither had a part in the play and was only singing and tbh I couldn’t even see them as was sitting on totally the opposite side so I was basically just watching other people’s children preform.

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PumpkinP · 08/12/2019 19:25

Perform*

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Ostanovka · 08/12/2019 19:26

Just go, they'll know you're there!

EskewedBeef · 08/12/2019 19:29

You should go. Check where your child going to be on the stage and choose a seat accordingly.

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AdoptedBumpkin · 08/12/2019 19:31

I would go. If you do not go, they may be sad.

MarthasGinYard · 08/12/2019 19:32

If you not at work just go and support

Eveting2019 · 08/12/2019 19:32

I would understand if you had something else important on but it doesn’t appear that you do just more that you don’t fancy it.
That wouldn’t sit right with me.

abouttime2 · 08/12/2019 19:33

Yeah it's awful to not go. Especially as you will just be sitting at home?
They may just be singing but to your child it will be a massive deal to be sitting in front of lots of people. They will most certainly be looking for you in the audience.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 08/12/2019 19:34

I loved the nativity last year,ds was a shepherd.Its just a Carol thing this year but I'm still going coz he wants me to.

BlackSwanGreen · 08/12/2019 19:34

Does your DC want you there?

ParkheadParadise · 08/12/2019 19:34

I would go.
It's 23years since Dd1 was in a school play. I never got to go because of work.
Dd2's nursery nativity is on Wednesday can't say I'm excited about it 😉 but I will be there.

Itsashame · 08/12/2019 19:34

Of course you should go if you’ve got nothing important to do instead! They’ll love that you’re there and could be v disappointed if you’re not. Most other parents will be there I would imagine. I think it’s a shame that you dont want to go.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 08/12/2019 19:35

Go.

Ninjakittysmellz · 08/12/2019 19:35

I can’t imagine not going - it matters to the kids, and it’s not like you are missing work for it. Why wouldn’t you attend?!

Todaythiscouldbe · 08/12/2019 19:36

Really? Yes, it's bad not to go.

Spied · 08/12/2019 19:36

I've always gone whether DC had a part or were in the chorus. ( DC now 8&10).
I'll be going along this year... hopefully I'll get a glimpse of them Grin

HeddaGarbled · 08/12/2019 19:39

Yes, it is awful. You’re doing it for them, not yourself.

Norma27 · 08/12/2019 19:39

If you are able to go then it is awful of you not to. Your child will realise and be devastated.
I have had to miss performances because of work in the past. I am now a sahm and wouldn’t miss one if at all possible:

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PumpkinP · 08/12/2019 19:42

It’s not that I’m busy at that exact time but it will be a very hectic day. I have my daughters annual review on the same day (emergency annual review) so I will be at the school for a lot of the day and I wouldn’t have agreed to have the review on that day if I had known, it’s been arranged for about 3/4 weeks before I knew what date the nativity feel on. It means dropping them all at that time, staying for the play, coming home again then back again at 2 for the annual review then back home again. Dragging the toddler along aswell. I didn’t realise nativity plays were such a big deal especially since DS doesn’t even have a part and I’m not religious in any way.

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Todaythiscouldbe · 08/12/2019 19:46

That's not a hectic day. Ask your DC if they want you to go, or at least ask someone to go and watch them. It's a big deal to children.

MarthasGinYard · 08/12/2019 19:46

That's 'hectic' Grin

Bloody hell

Lulu1919 · 08/12/2019 19:48

Go
They will know you are there and as a TA I've seen children look for parents or grandparents and how sad they are when they are not there.

KitKat1985 · 08/12/2019 19:49

Honestly I think that's quite poor. Your DS will probably be desperate to show you the play that he's performing in, and will see lots of other kids parents there and he'll feel left out if he's one of the few kids there without anyone to watch him. If you had somewhere else you really had to be then fair enough, but it's a bit sad that you just can't be bothered. I'm taking Tuesday off work as annual leave to watch my DD in her school play. Personally my kids drive me mad 99% of the time, but I love watching them doing their Christmas shows and how adorable and innocent they all look.

SmellMySmellbow · 08/12/2019 19:51

My DS would be heartbroken if I missed his play. He's only singing in his class of 30 but he's proud of it and I wouldn't miss it if I could possibly help it because of that. He always waves frantically when he spots me and it makes my heart happy.

DecemberSnow · 08/12/2019 19:52

Go. Your child will know your there. Find out where your child will be, and sit as close as possible

SmellMySmellbow · 08/12/2019 19:52

And last year, before he spotted me in the crowd he was in floods of tears because he thought I hadn't come. Heartbreaking.

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