What do you ACTUALLY judge mothers on?

[Ketomeato]

Inspired by the child in the buggy thread, I realised I hardly judge anything really, mainly because I have an unruly child with additional needs so in our house, pretty much anything goes. You have to be kind, and you have to wear pants. And that’s it.

What does anyone actually judge about, regarding parents with young children?

Really don't get the nappy thing. What's the huge rush?

I know.

My opinion is that the sooner you start, the longer it takes. If you wait until the child is ready then it's much easier and they're reliably dry/clean much faster. I'm not a fan of spending 6+ months scrubbing piss out of the carpet or tumbling turds out of small undies and into the loo so I waited.

I had one DC potty trained at 2yo, one at 3yo, one at 3 and a half, and one at 2 and a half. The one trained at 2yo is the one who currently has toileting problems (encopresis) and the one trained at 3yo literally trained herself - I knew she was ready, she was a stubborn little thing and insisted she was not ready for pants, many revenge wees on the floor and in pants were purposely done so back into nappies she went, four weeks later she got up one morning and announced "I don't wear nappies now" and that was that.

Telling an child to 'just poo behind the climbing frame' in a park rather than take them to the public toilets 100 yards away. And who, exactly, do they think will clean up the mess? .

Whats the rush?
Sometimes its the DC that are in a rush. DS has sensitive skin/mild excema and would try to pull itchy nappies off at the first sign of a wee from younger than 2. I potty trained him at 2 and a few months and it took 2 weeks, but no problems after.

Parents who don’t teach their children anything. They don’t teach them the alphabet, numbers to 100, read books to them or with them, and think school is the sole provider of education. These children no matter how bright don’t get good jobs. They get to yr4 and they stop bothering because their parents don’t bother and it breaks my heart. The parents fuss about uniform and school dinners and how Joey gave their precious child a dirty look when I really believe that opening a book and chatting about the subjects would make a world of difference to these kids.

'Come on we're going now' (continue to sit on bench playing on phone, not looking at all like leaving)

And that's fair enough @Camomila, but not all children see that ds 1I tried from about 2and a half he would happily wee in the potty at home but would wet himself if we were out and about ,it finally clicked when he was 3 years and two months he's 13 at Xmas and I bet you couldn't tell wether any kid in his year was toilet trained at 2_or 3 and does it really matter?

Pierced ears on kids too young to have actually wanted them - get a doll if you want to dress it up.
The mum who was feeding her toddler kfc popcorn chicken things.
People who let their child stand on the seats, and - even worse - stand on the seats and peer at the people behind them on the bus. I have perfected the glare that stops the child annoying me.

wow @hopityhopity I've read some nonsense on here in my time but that really takes the biscuit. A whole new level of ignorance you are demonstrating there.