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a daughter really big for her age

235 replies

HAPPYMOM363 · 09/10/2019 12:22

She is only 11 and 176cm and 84kg. I am only 155cm and 45kg. It looks really oddSmile She plays basketball and netball and does really well.

It's impossible to find age appropriate cloths.

She used to hate being this big but now she loves it. Would she stop growing or grow up a few more inches??Grin

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BlueWonder · 13/10/2019 06:53

I would keep on with what you're doing but consider adding a bit more. My DD was relatively tall but also overweight at 11. Did 8 hours of sports a week, but you have to look at what they are doing in that time, not just how long they are there. We added 2 hours more which included sprints and endurance running (just training with a local club, not competitive). Also stopped buying fruit juice or putting it in lunchbox. Two years on and she is much fitter all round, no longer stands out height or weight-wise among her peers and performance and enjoyment of other sports has increased due to overall fitness and stamina boost. Clothes buying used to be an issue and we never really solved it when she was relatively 'bigger', but now it's not a problem anymore.

Broken11Girl · 13/10/2019 07:12

Sorry, not buying this. Video of this 13st 5'9 11yo doing a somersault no don't seriously post one please or it didn't happen.
She is overweight, at a BMI of 27 and this is using the adult BMI calculator. Agree with pp that muscle doesn't account for this.
Surprised you got a GP appt so quickly.
The girl has a medical issue Hmm

QOD · 13/10/2019 07:18

Show us a photo with her face obscured so we can see what her shape is.
So many people don’t see what strangers do. I was 20 stone a few years ago and 5ft and considered myself as bit chubby’. I’m now 14 stone and know I’m fat

WaterSheep · 13/10/2019 07:25

So many people don’t see what strangers do.

Indeed, and also it works the other way as well. We're so used to people being bigger, that we often think those who are overweight are within the healthy range. I have a family member who was classed as overweight, and when she started to lose weight so many people told her she didn't need to.

Fatshedra · 13/10/2019 07:36

I think limit sugary snacks and fizzy drinks and make the most of sports. She can build up her skills now - others will catch her up height wise but she will have the experience.

No13 · 13/10/2019 07:44

I don’t believe the dr said she is fine. No way

gubbsywubbsy · 13/10/2019 07:49

Next go up to 16 on their website .. I work there and in the stock room I saw a unicorn hoody in size 16 and thought to myself that my 16 year old would never wear that but I guess it would work for a young child that is big for her age .

JockTamsonsBairns · 13/10/2019 07:53

@Bornforgood apologies, I misread the tone of your post after a couple of glasses of wine Smile

stucknoue · 13/10/2019 07:53

She's tall but that's rather heavy too. (I'm exactly those dimensions and I'm quite overweight). Shops like primark have plenty of suitable clothing, just avoid the revealing styles. I would be more concerned about ensuring she ups her exercise and watches her food eating healthily without making a huge deal (eating disorders can be triggered especially at this age if you aren't careful).

Aridane · 13/10/2019 07:54

@EmmaGrundyForPM - maybe Norway or elsewhere in Scandinavia?

Passthecherrycoke · 13/10/2019 07:54

I’m lol’ing at this somersault. Did you happen to be on a football pitch whilst you were trying to talk? How did she manage to deliver her killer line when she would’ve landed quite some way away from you, did she shout?

Aridane · 13/10/2019 07:56

I don’t believe the dr said she is fine. No way

Maybe what doctor actually said was that she she is healthy (eg blood pressure etc). However, he will not have referred to an endocrologist on a whim...

Handbag101 · 13/10/2019 08:14

My niece is about this age and weight and is very very overweight. My sister has had letters from the school and the school nurse but my sister and BIL (who are both massively overweight) refuse to acknowledge it. Their family Dr has told them to lose weight as a family so I find it hard to believe that this Dr said the little girl was fine. My neice plays a little bit of sport and does PE but still is very very heavy for her age. It's really not nice to see and I wish my sister would do something about it but that's another story....

Hederex · 13/10/2019 08:45

I'm amazed she got a referral at this point, with no bloods or anything. Where do you live OP?

Contraceptionismyfriend · 13/10/2019 09:26

I am the same height and weight as your daughter. I am overweight. So I'm not buying that she's not.
No matter what 'shape' we are she's 11 and I've just given birth to a third baby. There is something wrong here.

MustardScreams · 13/10/2019 09:29

Op lives in NeverNever Land when 11 year old children weigh more than grown men and can do a backflip from standing Hmm

EmmaGrundyForPM · 13/10/2019 10:04

@Aridane that's impressive. But do GPs make referrals without blood tests being done? How does that not swamp the system (I work in the health service so am genuinely interested).

I can't see how a system can work where the GP looks at the patient, says s/he thinks they are healthy, doesn't do blood tests but then sends them to see a specialist. But I dont know how the system works in Norway

OP. did your dr explain why he was referring your daughter if shes healthy.

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HAPPYMOM363 · 13/10/2019 10:39

Ok. I am from Iceland. The GP is my good friend so managed to get an early referral. He talked with my dd alone, did a check and read all the fitness test reports done by school coaches and then said she seems healthy. And he gave referral to rule out any unusual condition and said rest is on the specialist.

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Passthecherrycoke · 13/10/2019 10:46

I’m a little confused. I didn’t think you were worried about whether she was healthy, just whether she was overweight.

Being overweight (which she is by any measure) probably isn’t unhealthy right now (or you’d know, she’d be showing symptoms of sickness) it’s about future problems if she either doesn’t lose the weight or even worse, continues to gain it.

AnxiousMcAnxiousFace · 13/10/2019 11:02

Can people really not see past the NHS. In countries with private healthcare it is often very possible to see doctors and specialists quickly. As it is in this country.

Funnily enough, when we took our son to see a specialist on Harley Street we could get an appointment within a week. Amazing what £1500 can buy you.

BertrandRussell · 13/10/2019 12:19

I can easily see past the NHS. I can’t see past a 13 stone 5ft9 11 year old non gymnast being able to do a standing somersault.

PrincessandthePeach · 13/10/2019 12:26

Yeah I agree Bert, something just doesn't feel right about this. There's no way an 11 year old at 84kg couldn't not be overweight. I doubt the story about the somersault is true either.
Also the GP who's a 'friend' fast tracking the referral? Just seems very odd to me.

Handbag101 · 13/10/2019 12:31

As I said in my post above, my niece is about the same size and height and no way on God's earth could she do a somersault.

Bornforgood · 13/10/2019 13:09

Maybe this is true....

This guy is mordibly obese 420lbs and still doing this.[shocked]

MustardScreams · 13/10/2019 13:12

Well he didn’t do it from standing, he just flipped backwards onto his front. I could do that!

There is not a chance in hell that a 5 foot 9, 13 stone ELEVEN year old could do a flip from standing. It’s physically impossible. She’d have to jump about 8ft in the air to get enough momentum to flip. Now who has 8ft high ceilings?!