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a daughter really big for her age

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HAPPYMOM363 · 09/10/2019 12:22

She is only 11 and 176cm and 84kg. I am only 155cm and 45kg. It looks really odd She plays basketball and netball and does really well.

It's impossible to find age appropriate cloths.

She used to hate being this big but now she loves it. Would she stop growing or grow up a few more inches??

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dancemom · 10/10/2019 12:23

Op can you post a non identifying photo of her
It's very difficult to imagine an 11 year old of those proportions not carrying extra weight

bluebluezoo · 10/10/2019 12:26

Dr.

If she’s 11 and taller than both you and your husband I’d get her checked for a growth disorder.

“Normal” adult height for her would be somewhere between yours and her dads.

I know a 12 year old who’s 5’11 but both parents are over 6ft. And she’s nowhere near 13 st.

PiggyPokkyFool · 10/10/2019 12:27

That is a lot of weight for height for an 11 year old. DD1 is the same height, 17 years old and 46KG. She is a very slim build - like DH and DSIL but cannot imagine a child being healthy at nearly twice that weight.
Absolutely take her to the doctor.

ThreeLittleDots · 10/10/2019 12:31

Op can you post a non identifying photo of her

How horrible! As if the daughter would consent to such a thing just to satisfy your curiosity!

Aquamarine1029 · 10/10/2019 12:32

I would be extremely concerned about her weight, and be taking her to the gp and a nutritionist. I was an inch taller than your daughter at 11 and weighed nearly 50lbs less, and I was not skinny or under-nourished.

ThreeLittleDots · 10/10/2019 12:34

OP I would take the 'weight' and any eating issue completely out of the equation for now. You've already received a defensive response from her and for very good reason if she doesn't appear 'fat', and you know her to be fit.

Have her assessed for growth hormone issues as a first port of call.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 10/10/2019 12:37

Is your scales actually accurate?

Looneytune253 · 10/10/2019 12:38

You've made me check up on my daughter. She's 5 foot 5 and 140lb (9 year old). Does anyone know why the child bmi is so different to the adult one? She's seriously overweight by the child one but bmi of 23 by the adult one so if she stays the same height/weight she is now she will be a healthy weight when she is grown up! Don't get it. She's well into puberty already if that makes a difference?

aintnothinbutagstring · 10/10/2019 12:41

I was around 5'7 by 12, I was 8 stone, went up to 10 stone by 15/16. I was not skinny and have a 28inch waist at 10 stone. I'm also big boned, size 7 feet, large wrist size. Do you know your DDs waist size (not to measure obviously but maybe if you've bought clothes then you'd know), size of feet? I'm closer to your DDs weight now, obvs a little shorter but I'd find it hard to imagine an 11 yr old at this weight! I'm sure she is a great athlete but the rate of growth by 11, coupled with the weight would alarm me.

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HAPPYMOM363 · 10/10/2019 12:43

why are you doing such a question? Obviously it's accurate? And she was also checked in school and the outcome is same.

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aintnothinbutagstring · 10/10/2019 12:46

My DH, who is 5'10, size 9 feet, bit of a tummy but otherwise slim-ish weighs 12st. Maybe I can blame this extra three stone I'm carrying on muscle

Prawnofthepatriarchy · 10/10/2019 12:48

I'm not sure her weight is necessarily a concern. Muscle weighs much more than fat. Most top rugby players are obese in terms of BMI despite being extremely fit.

Taking her to the GP will clarify matters.

picklemepopcorn · 10/10/2019 12:51

You could suggest a GP trip just to be on the safe side because she is so tall- but she sounds happy and healthy and confident with is fab!

One word of warning- I was a broad strong and healthy teen. I did a lot of dance and was very muscular. As I aged and did less activity, my muscle pads turned flabby- particularly noticeable when my chunky tap dancer calves went soft! She needs to stay active, and cut down slowly when she does (exam years etc).

aintnothinbutagstring · 10/10/2019 12:51

I think they base the growth charts for children on averages looneytune, girls that are on the heavier side will enter puberty sooner. An average 9yr old would not be 5'5 and 10stone but an average 18yr old fully developed woman might be.

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HAPPYMOM363 · 10/10/2019 12:54

@ThreeLittleDots omg. What a response! So, confident. I am proud of her being that confident. Her response made me to be shocked and silent.
Although I need to check her doctors when they say there are sudden growth dangers too.

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stupidboyman · 10/10/2019 12:55

My daughter is 11. I would be really really worried by this. Great she is fit but that is very heavy and tall for 11. Go and see the GP. You don't have to take her with you. Has she started her periods?

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HAPPYMOM363 · 10/10/2019 12:57

@stupidboyman no. She hasn't

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ShinyGiratina · 10/10/2019 13:00

Children's BMI is different to adult BMI because children are not physically mature.
At 5'2", I'm around a typical height of many 11 year old girls. Obviously all individuals are built with variations, but an 11 year old girl of my height doesn't have the muscle mass, bone density and adult female proportions. As a mature adult female, I should have a certain amount of fat reserve to suport my body through preganancy and breast feeding. I can take part in endurance sports such as long distance running that are not encouraged until adulthood because the body doesn't have the stamina and stores. An 11 year old girl of my height and weight will be composed very differently. I reached adult height at 14, but my body continued to mature for years afterwards. It is still changing. As we age, our metabolism slows, muscle and bone mass decline and people become prone to "middle age spread" if their lifestyle is unchanged from early adulthood to middle age. BMI charts for children take age into account because they have many years of physical change ahead of them.

Back to OP, it would be worth seeking medical advice, particularly as her height is different to her parents.
If her size is lifestyle related, she may well be strong and healthy now, but if she stops growing soon and continues to gain weight she could face difficulties, especially if her activity rate drops in the teenage years.
Or there may be some other underlying issue.
Or she may be fine, but better to have had the situation checked and monitored.

AlpineCoromandel · 10/10/2019 13:01

Does anyone know why the child bmi is so different to the adult one?
I think because kids and adults are supposed to have different body shapes. My eldest at 15 is in the healthy weight range but if she was 18 would be classed aa underweight. I imagine her shape might develop a bit in the next few years (bigger boobs and hips) so by 18 she'll have put on more weight and still not be underweight.

Magicmama92 · 10/10/2019 13:02

When you look at her is she plump or fine? You know if someone is obese by looking at them. I would maybe take her in over her height they can cover her weight if they think if you mention her weight to her and she isn't obese or big you could cause issues. My BMI was fine yet I got told I was fat and I have serious self image issues. Please do it kindly and tactfully.

DeadCucumber · 10/10/2019 13:04

OP, to answer your original question!...... Primark has adult clothes with Disney themes, Harry Potter etc. Maybe could find some more childish type tshirts and jumpers there???

10brokengreenbottles · 10/10/2019 13:05

Looney This explains why, but in a nutshell it is because children are not just small adults.

Nikhedonia · 10/10/2019 13:08

Now, I have talked with her again about her weight and in response, she just performed two somersault . Then she said,"Do this first and then say me to try to lose weight"

This is really bizarre.

Can you not tell if you child is overweight?! Look at her. She's 11, I wouldn't be asking for her opinion and entertaining somersaults () as a methodology for determining obesity.

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HAPPYMOM363 · 10/10/2019 13:11

@Nikhedonia I wanted to talk with her about taking her to doctor and check her if she is healthy. But BAM

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Nikhedonia · 10/10/2019 13:13

@HAPPYMOM363 and what do you think that proves?! This is a bizarre thread.

Why are you not able to see if your child is overweight?! Why are you engaging in these childish antics? It's your child's health, FFS.

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