a daughter really big for her age

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She is only 11 and 176cm and 84kg. I am only 155cm and 45kg. It looks really odd She plays basketball and netball and does really well.

It's impossible to find age appropriate cloths.

She used to hate being this big but now she loves it. Would she stop growing or grow up a few more inches??

@ 10brokengreenbottles - the NHS BMI guidance for kids doesn’t work for kids who have a lot of muscle mass. Telling OP her kid is obese when even the school is saying she isn’t, is not being helpful. At 5 ft 9 the girl is clearly still growing and may even hit 6 ft plus by 13 - it’s normal to carry weight during a growth spurt like this.

Big strong girls can be world beaters - look at Sophie McKinna!

www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/uk-49974297/great-britain-shot-putter-on-olympic-qualification

Don't try to fit her onto a chart - look at how she is in herself and make your own conclusions. If she keeps up being active she won't be unhealthy. And she could in fact be marvellous.
Inspire her!

Sorry to all the posters talking about being strong and muscle mass - may be applicable to adults or to a slightly overweight child but an 11 year old girl won’t have put down that type of muscle mass - may still be fit but is clearly carrying a lot of extra weight - OP can check waist measurement while waiting to see GP which would normally be about 23-24 inches, 25 if she is tall and muscular. It is absolutely not normal for a child to carry an extra 30kg for a growth spurt, and her height at that age is so above normal that just alone should be checked out for hormonal causes especially as not from a tall family.

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(placemarking for later, have the same but less sporty although she is doing rugby today)

She sounds fierce AF! I'd be so proud of her :) My cousin also weighs a lot more than you'd think, some people are just heavy without being unhealthy. Talk to the GP (without her) if you must, but please don't give a confident fun girl a complex about her weight.

Talking to the GP without her in the first instance might be a really good idea - your daughter sounds amazing but at her age children over 169cm or 65kg should be under a specialist review for good reason and it shouldn’t be assumed that there isn’t an underlying medical issue.
If you think it would upset her to see the doctor maybe try to measure her waist which will help, and see the GP alone to discuss first. Strangers on the internet can’t tell you there certainly is or isn’t an issue, but it’s also not the teachers job to raise and as parents we don’t see our children objectively.

If a child is overweight, they are unhealthy. That is the simple fact.

As parents it is easy to gloss over weight issues, or not see the extent of them. Hence suggesting op sees a GP. They aren’t biased and can give valuable advice.

She does not look like Sophie McKinna although. She rarely caries weight in the middle.

Teddy, I used obese as the medical term used by the NHS, as you can if you look at the growth chart I linked to.

BMI gives a huge range for healthy, and is appropriate for children, even those with a higher level of muscle mass. There are very few in society that BMI isn't suitable for, and yes, some elite athletes/bodybuilders fall into that category, but it is unlikely an 11 year old girl would have a level of muscle mass where it is inappropriate for her.

There are medical conditions that can cause increased height &/or weight and OP should take her DD to the GP to rule these out.

My 11yr old is 170cm and less than 50kg. She is slim, not skinny but quite muscular and also sporty.
She has a friend taller than her, who is very muscular and also carrying lots of puppy fat still. She would be around 70kg I guess.

Don't speak to her about her weight, just tweak her diet to cut the crap and eat protein, carbs, fruit and vegetables and low fat milk, cheese, yoghurt etc.

bmi is rubbish for lots of people, ethnic groups have different body shapes and types, shirt or tall, heavier bones, more muscle.
Children should not be put on weight loss diet. Best they stop increasing and grow into the weight.
No harm going to gp for check up, tho they have shares in slimming world (v unhealthy, low fat, guilt inducing). Don't give her anxiety at this age, it's an ed in the making. Just sensible eating is fine

Your daughter sounds great! Focused, determined and secure in herself.
I'd be very wary of mentioning her weight to her, you don't want her to lose her confidence and lead to way more problems in the long term.
I would, however, get her checked out by a doctor to make sure there is no medical reason for her fast growth.

A child isn’t going to grow into 13 stone unless they suddenly shoot up to over 6ft.

Honestly some of the advice on here is bonkers.

@glitterfarts she rarely eats fatty things like cheese, butter. Eats yoghurt a little.
By the way, she rarely has fat on waist.

I’m the exact same height and weight as your daughter, OP, just 10 years older!

I wear anywhere between a 10-14 and my measurements are 40, 32, 37 for bust, waist, hips. I am trying to lose around 3 stone though as this is the biggest I’ve ever been, but it’s really hard.

I’d cut down portions and make a few subtle swaps and see how she goes!

Does she have any of the following:
-very large hands and feet
-thick toes and fingers
-a prominent jaw and forehead
-tiredness/difficulty sleeping?

bmi does not work for athletes it is well known

Shes 11. Dont go on about her weight to her. If shes talented at sport get her into some proper clubs and get her playing at a decent level. School netball and basketball isnt that great in my experience. They focus a lot on fitness levels and
proper training and nutrition will make sure she's healthy weight.
She'll be doing something she enjoys and if she really is as good as you say, the structure is there at club level for her to continue good habits into later life.

I would want her checked for growth hormone, thyroid (i.e gigantism)

New look might be a good one - teen clothes and they do a tall range

@RolytheRhino no. She doesn't have this.

I'm the same height as your daughter and I am still the same height now as when I started secondary school (37 now) she might well stop soon. I had many arguments with my Mum about age appropriate clothes!!!

MustardScreams being 'overweight' is not unhealthy in itself.

It may mean you are susceptible to other health conditions, but then again, you may not be. So get rid of that idea.

I think you are right to consult a doctor. She may just be a larger, but very fit person, but it's worth checking. Ask the doctor about her height as she is well above the growth curves. My DD has a rare bone disease that is associated with endocrinal problems which often cause excessive height, so it's only because of this I know that excessive height MAY be an indicator of other issues. Please don't be alarmed, it's not a certainty, it's just an indication that may require further tests to rule out some really rare conditions, but I think it's worth asking a doctor about it.

Have those saying BMI for the OP's DD is useless actually looked at the growth charts? It isn't just OP's DD's BMI.

Even at nearly 12 her weight is above the +3 SD line.

Her height, even if completing puberty and nearly 12, is above the 99.6th centile line. If she is younger than 11.5 then she is above the +4SD line.

To quote the charts
"Children whose growth lies on these outer lines are likely to have additional clinical problems, and if not already receiving medical attention should be referred"