Unplanned - Abortion Film **Trigger Warning** Title edited by MNHQ sensitive content*

[Mum2386]

Hi,
Last night I watched a film called Unplanned, which is based on a true story of a lady working within an abortion clinic called ‘Planned Parenthood’. The film itself brought me to tears on many occasions and it’s made me feel very uncomfortable surrounding abortion. I had an unplanned pregnancy with my third child but knew abortion wasn’t an option for me. I am quite shocked by the amount of abortions that still take place within our society. Does anyone else feel this way? I know we all have different views but i just wondered what other people’s thoughts were on this very sensitive topic.

“I have never understood how a woman who has experienced pregnancy and birth would want to force another woman to go through that against her wishes.”

Exactly this. When I was pregnant I watched a documentary about a northern Irish woman forced to carry baby with Edwards syndrome. She described people excitedly congratulating her in the street and patting her bump. And her having to tell them the baby would die. She travelled to the U.K. at 6 ish months for her termination. I will never forget that woman. The fact that I was pregnant made it all the worse to imagine a woman forced into that .

Rededucator - it's on youtube. I'm going to watch it later.
www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwZaVAtKA9HdBUbwQ_J9TQXFE74gWbVN7

Sorry, I meant to say she travelled to GB not U.K. for her termination

Pinky I don't know how or why you would say such a spiteful, stupid thing to a grieving mother who made the most compassionate decision a loving mother could possibly make given the facts. You really need to sit and have a fucking long think about a) what you're talking about b) the fact you have just said that to a real person living that actual situation in real life, not just throwing a general opinion out there.

Pinkyyy, you are surely not the lovely Romany lady who shared so much interesting information about travelling people a while ago?

I'd like to see more abortions.

More abortions results in less abused, neglected, unwanted children.

People have babies for the wrong reason all too often, I'd like to see the reality of having a child taught more in schools and abortion to be a lot less stigmatised. I sure as hell dont want to go down the American way of doing things whereby often vulnerable teenagers end up handing their newborn to the highest bidder. Abortion makes a clean break for the humans who are already here.

@Rachelover60 What has my enthnicity got to do with any of this?

Please don't patronise me. I have strong views just like everyone else, mine just happen to oppose theirs.

I don't understand why I'm being attacked for answering a question that someone asked. I said what I feel but nobody truly knows what they would do unless they're in the situation.

I'm not going to be re entering the discussion but I do not agree with my ethnicity being brought into this.

I don't understand why I'm being attacked for answering a question that someone asked

Oh cut the faux naïveté bullshit. You know exactly what you said that people have objected to.

If you post abhorrent crap, at least have the guts to own it.

@JacquesHammer how many times do I have to tell you not to speak to me on Mumsnet.

“If you post abhorrent crap, at least have the guts to own it.“

This.

how many times do I have to tell you not to speak to me on Mumsnet

Get a grip love.

That’s not how forums work. Please do speak to MNHQ about that and see what they say.

You post on a thread your comments are fair game.

Grow the fuck up.

I don't understand why I'm being attacked for answering a question that someone asked.

Oh, cut the crap. You were being "attacked" because you told a woman whose child was incompatible with life that she should've continued her pregnancy anyway.

Now get in the bin.

Friends of my parents are pro-lifers. They do provide practical support for the mother and child in the initial stages and my family have donated various bits and bobs over the years (prams, clothes etc) for the woman using their services. This kind of practical support isn’t something I disagree with. It has to be balanced with the option not to have the child though, so there are real choices.

“I would suggest your ethnicity might be relevant due to the lack of education which I believe you’ve defended yourself pinkyyy?”

What pinkyyy says is vile. But this is racist.

@Passthecherrycoke so I'm now just dumb and uneducated and therefore I'm not allowed to have views on anything?

Be a shame if this thread was deleted because of a deliberate shitbomb of nastiness dropped by a poster who doesn’t agree with choice or any discussion of choice.

@BertrandRussell thank you for pointing that out. I hate it when people say I'm playing the race card so I appreciate you pointing that out.

I realise our views differ massively and that was very nice of you to say that.

@RubbingHimSourly

There's a documentary on iPlayer by Stacey Dooley about teens who gave up their babies for adoption. As a teen it made me so heartbreaking that to watch for the parents, even though the kids would have a better life. Adoption is often messy, even when open. I hate to admit it but it would have been easier if they just aborted as it's so sad.

Be a shame if this thread was deleted because of a deliberate shitbomb of nastiness dropped by a poster who doesn’t agree with choice or any discussion of choice

Absolutely. I rather think that’s their MO though.

Look I shared my view.

I think that if it were me, I would have had to continue the pregnancy because I would not be able to live with myself if I didn't. I am allowed to have that opinion.

I'm not enough of a dumb "uneducated woman" to think that everyone's views are the same. So why is it nobody else is capable of that.

It’s not racist, pinkyyyy herself has said formal education isn’t valued in her culture and explained why.

@Passthecherrycoke since you're an expert on me and my culture, do you recall how much education I received? Or are you making a judgement on my intelligence based on my ethnicity?

No based on your AMA contributions

I'm so sorry, Pinkyyy, I definitely didn't mean to be patronising. Gosh I am embarrassed now. It's just that I thought you might be a lady who posted before .... oh well never mind.

Of course you are entitled to your opinion, we all are.