anyone awake? Please chat with me for an hour

[WLmum]

Hello, is anyone awake and willing to chat with me about anything at all.
I'm waiting for daybreak, and then for school drop off time, so I can go and be with my truly amazing, so loved dm while she passes away. I am heartbroken. Been awake most of the night wondering if she's going to hold on long enough for me to with her.

Anyone else up? Tell me what you're up for and help me pass the time. Please.

I’m finding this thread hard. It brings back painful memories. Big hugs.

It is a very sad time for you and your family. May the fond memories and thoughts of happy times console you in the days to come.
It sounds like your mother had a happy life with so much love around her. It is a rare and wonderful thing.
God Bless

Hi Op, what a sad yet loving thread. I'm sure your Mum will feel the love surrounding her. I love that your daughter is dressing up as a sheep. Sending you my very best x

Hi OP I'm really sorry you're going through this but it sounds like you have given her the best last memories and that she feels so loved by you all. I'm also close to my DM and would be devastated if this Happened to us. So I can't imagine your feelings right now.
Haven't slept tonight been up with DS and up the hospital. Hate viral infections not nice. But hopefully all will be better today.

Hi OP. How lovely that your wonderful mum has been surrounded by her family and love and laughter. Your daughters sound like fantastic girls. So much love shines through this thread. Thinking of you all and wishing you some peace and comfort in the days ahead.

So sorry to hear this OP, sending you loads of love and hugs. Your mum sounds wonderful and she must be incredibly proud to have raised such a loving and caring daughter. I hope everything is peaceful and that you all find lots of comfort at this difficult time xx

WL this is heartbreaking, so sorry.

Thank you all for your words of comfort. mummyoflittledragon I'm so sorry it's bringing back painful memories for you. Is it possible to find some happy memories in there too?

Hope you're getting a bit of rest now OP. There's no doubt your dear mum feels totally loved.

@WLmum I've been thinking about you and your lovely DM today. How are you?

Thank you prosecco. It's felt a long day today. Dm is still hanging on in there and has raised a few little responses today but they have been very cleared work for her.
Db has suggested that we give her a bit of space as we've been with her 24/7 and I think he may have a point, although it's hard for us to contemplate.

Whatever you decide she has certainly had the most loving passing and she knows how much she means to you all. She is clearly loved and at peace.

Honestly I feel so emotionally and probably physically exhausted now, I just don't know what to do for the best.
And I miss dh (he's at home with the dds).

I'm so sorry you're going through this x

Thinking of you @WLmum 💐

I've been there. It's awful, this waiting, limbo period. 💔

DM died at the end of July from Cancer, just four short months from diagnosis. I'm so sorry you're going through this too.

I lost my Dad a few months ago.
I remember the surreal last days very well. Sending you love and a handhold x

Yes earrings and I'm feeling awful about admitting that. It's like a surreal nightmare.

I lost my lovely, lovely Mum 4 years ago to cancer, she was 64 and I miss her every single day.
I wasn't with her at the end, but we were all together the night before she passed away in the night, I don't think she wanted any fuss or upset and waited till we'd gone home, we didn't make it back in time .
I wish I'd held her hand more and talked to her when she was really poorly at the end, but I was so scared, go and hold your Mum's hand OP and tell her you love her

Cross post wilma! I just don't know what to do with myself. Sorry for your and walnuts losses.

youfellasleep I've been holding her hand and telling her I love her for days and nights now, and I do wonder if she'd like a bit of space. Having people hover over me all night would drive me nuts, and I fear she can't say that now, and wouldn't anyway as she wouldn't want to upset anyone.

I was almost wishing she would go and be free from pain and then feeling immense guilt for thinking that. She'll know you're there x

Thinking of you OP and sending you hugs you can really tell through your posts how loved and special your mother is xx

My Dad and my Gran both went quietly alone in the night in the end, after lots of hours of company. Both times the nurses said that was really common. It feels horrid though, I know x

OP I know a lot of people who say something similar - that their loved one waited for them to leave before passing away.

Nothing you are feeling or thinking is in anyway wrong.

We only had less than 2 days when we realised my dad was dying. And it was so surreal. I was sitting by his bedside while thinking about work, and how long I might need to be off...

In the end my siblings and I, and my mum, were all there, by pure chance, as he slipped away very suddenly at the end. My brother had just arrived in from Australia, and we were so grateful he made it in time.

You sound so loving, WLmum and that you've had a fabulous time with your mum. Sending you love tonight. X