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anyone awake? Please chat with me for an hour

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WLmum · 10/09/2019 04:40

Hello, is anyone awake and willing to chat with me about anything at all.
I'm waiting for daybreak, and then for school drop off time, so I can go and be with my truly amazing, so loved dm while she passes away. I am heartbroken. Been awake most of the night wondering if she's going to hold on long enough for me to with her.

Anyone else up? Tell me what you're up for and help me pass the time. Please.

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Tarchie · 10/09/2019 12:16

You’re in my thoughts WL, I’m so sorry to hear what you’re all going through. I lost my darling dad in 2017 to cancer and it was horrendous. But there was so much love around him and I hope he felt that. Your DM sounds like a wonderful person and a blessing in your family’s lives. I’m thinking of you all at such a sad time. 💐

danni0509 · 10/09/2019 12:59

Bless you @WLmum Thanks

movingonbackwards · 10/09/2019 13:01

Thinking of you Thanks I've been exactly where you are and it's the hardest thing in the world. You'll cherish these moments forever ❤️

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WLmum · 10/09/2019 13:01

Thank you all. heartshaped that's so lovely. I will definitely use that over the coming days.
The last of the people mum asked to see has been and gone, her pain was increasing so more morphine now. Borrowed time.

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YukYukYukYuk · 10/09/2019 13:01

Thinking of you OP, she sounds lovely.

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WLmum · 10/09/2019 13:02

tarchie I'm sorry you lost your dear dad

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proseccoaficionado · 10/09/2019 13:21

@WLmum how are you and your mother doing now? Is your DH with the girls?

HollysTeflonSeptum · 10/09/2019 17:33

Thinking of you OP Thanks.

GotToGoMyOwnWay · 10/09/2019 17:35

FlowersFlowers

ItsInTheSpoon · 10/09/2019 23:27

Hugs to you x

Tarchie · 10/09/2019 23:48

Dear WL, I am thinking of you and your precious family this evening and hope that you are all together at such a terrible time. It’s horrendous but please take some comfort from knowing that there are so many here on MN keeping you all in our thoughts. Take care of yourself. 💐💐

Brenna24 · 11/09/2019 14:22

Thinking of you today WL

JudasHisCarrot · 11/09/2019 17:09

Have just come across your thread WL. Thinking of you and your lovely mum ♥💐 xx

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WLmum · 12/09/2019 01:25

Thank you everyone, your replies have been so helpful. I'm sitting beside her now holding her hand as I do my part of the night shift while dbs sleep.

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WLmum · 12/09/2019 01:49

Today has felt quite surreal as I've mostly been quite calm after a few very emotional days. I know it's the calm before the storm.
We actually had a lovely couple of hours yesterday early evening when dbs, her 2 besties and I sat round her bed reminiscing about the old days and while we laughed she smiled in her sleep. I will treasure that memory.

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FelicityBeedle · 12/09/2019 01:55

It really sounds like you and your loved ones have pulled together to give your dear mum the passing she deserves. Thinking of you

Hidingtonothing · 12/09/2019 02:32

Just to say I'm thinking about you and your lovely mum tonight WL, I hope things are peaceful there Flowers

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WLmum · 12/09/2019 02:48

Thank you hiding and felicity. These kind responses have been a real comfort. I've probably another hour of sitting up in me and then I'll hand over to dB and try to get some sleep.
Dds came for another quick visit tonight. I was hesitant but they were so insistent and so good. Dd2 would have curled up in her bed for the duration if I'd let her, and dd3 came in her sheep costume so dm would be able to see it. Dm was unresponsive but they didn't seem to be upset by it. Dbs are enjoying that dd3 will wear her sheep costume to the funeral.

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Hidingtonothing · 12/09/2019 03:16

It's hard to know whether letting DC be around is the right thing isn't it, my DD was insistent with both my DGP's and I hesitated too but it was right that she was there, she adored them both. I love that your mum is surrounded by your voices, the sound of her family and the love you all feel for her, that smile means she knows you're all there.

marblesgoing · 12/09/2019 03:19

Awake here.

Your posts are full of love op. Thanks

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WLmum · 12/09/2019 03:32

Thank you marbles I do feel that she is having the most loving death possible and I hope that can feel the love as she lets go

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marblesgoing · 12/09/2019 04:39

And for your dear mum to have that feeling around her right now will be felt no doubt
ThanksThanks

sashh · 12/09/2019 05:05

Hi OP

I'm still loving the sheep costume, you all sound like such a loving family.

sam221 · 12/09/2019 05:18

I wish your family love and peace, at this time. I went through something very similar with my dear father and do treasure the time we had at the end.
The sheep costume is brilliant, your mother sounds lovely and your bond is something that will stay, with you and your own children.
I am fully awake if you need a hand hold or chat.

Hopingtobeamum · 12/09/2019 05:26

Hi, I'm up (insomnia). I've read this whole chain. The love shown here is so warming, thinking of you and sending big hugs to you and your family.

Loving the other comments too xx

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