One week into reception term and i'm about to fall out with another school mum

[DoggerDidIt]

I'm posting on here so I don't reply to her message

We have a class whatsapp group set up by one of the mums. All very polite and nice since it's only been going a week.

Someone commented on the parking in the morning and I said it wouldn't affect me from now on as DD will be going to breakfast club with her sister in the mornings. Another mum then replied with 'whats breakfast club'. I replied assuming she wanted the details for her DC.

Instead she comes back with 'oh my gosh, thats difficult for your DD, I couldn't cope with having to leave DC on their own at that time of the morning poor thing'. At this point I kind of thought WTF and just replied saying 'well I need to get to work so she doesn't really have a choice haha, I'm sure she will be fine, her sister will be with her'. She then comes back with a fucking essay about how difficult she would find it having to leave her DC for that long and with strangers and won't DD miss out on going into class with all her friends and very head tilty poor DD comments.

I'm sitting on my hands to not reply well you have that fucking luxury because your husband works and you don't fucking need to leave your DC to go to work you utter knob.

I feel like i am having to defend being a single mum and needing to use fucking childcare!

People who are secure in their choices or have good social skills don’t make personal comments.

^^ This!!

She’s a dick. I can guarantee the silence from other parents is due to secondhand embarrassment at her twattery and a desire not to get drawn into drama. A parent on our class WhatsApp started posting daft, already-disproved-by-Snopes scare stories about children being kidnapped. I cringed and composed then deleted several salty replies before deciding I just couldn’t be bothered to argue with stupid.

There’s a mix of working and SAHPs in both of my children’s classes. No one comments on anyone else’s circumstances and everyone gets on fine. Hopefully she’ll learn.

Does anyone else want to know what her blog is like? Or is it just me?

At least she's shown everyone on the WhatsApp group what she's like, judgemental and rude. Thank heavens my DC went through school before WhatsApp parents group. It was a long time ago and I was a bit of an anomaly as a working mum as the majority were SAHM with wealthy DH, in hindsight, probably silently judging me, but I was too busy and stressed to notice 😂 I and DC would have loved a breakfast club, ignore her OP!

"Oh she's used to being abandoned with strangers but social services prefer this to leaving her in Weatherspoons."

I am so glad there were no WhatsApp groups when mine was starting primary!

What crosser said

Drop off, piss off, pick up, piss off = happiness and calm

Leave the group. Your mental health will thank you.

Bloody hell. she is batshit crazy. Step away and stay away.
Good reply.
BTW you're not in the NW at a school called CC are you?

I'd have been tempted to reply "don't worry. Dd is not alone having breakfast - the clubs at school. Sorry if I wasn't clear about that"

But yeah she's a prize tit.

You are a lucky woman though you might not realise yet.

It normally takes ages to find out who is a dick, who is just OK and who will be your new friends for life.

She has identified herself as a dick. Everyone hung back to see what would happen. You handled it PERFECTLY. Now you've got the people you will probably like messaging you privately. You'll get others sidling up to chat in real life. Result!

Anyone who hangs around with the dickhead mum can be written off immediately. Result!

This is a gift.

You have all the playground cool points right now. Enjoy it.

My DDs class has a mum like that.

I mentioned that while DH was away working DD would be at breakfast and afterschool club.

She said it was cruel and surely 5 is too young to be left that long.

Told her to grow up and stop being so precious. DD was left at nursery that long and she'll be fine.

A year on she still waits at the gate everyday even though parents are banned from the actual playground.

Need to see crazy lady’s blog.

FWIW op id have just thought that the woman was a massive bellend and that you were very polite to her passive one up-manship.

You've given me the chance to confess that I accidentally implied another Mum was being unfair to use after school club in first term Reception 100% it was just about my own DS who needed to go straight home after school. Not saying it's the same but honest, I didn't mean what it sounded like.

All the other WhatsApp members are waiting...

Agree with @crosser62

Why get yourself in to that shite?

My dd’s class has a whatsapp group, I’m one of two parents who are not on it. Every mow and again I get one particular parent who like to organise stuff coming up to me telling me that I’ve missed out on a seat at the parent’s end of term dinner or some shit because I’m not on whatsapp. Tilts her head at me sympathetically like I’m arsed that I missed out

I’m really not in to that shit! Got my own friends thank you!

Lol, I cant believe I didnt see the open up comments heading my way.

I do @MildDrPepperAddiction

Please op send a link 😀

A house the joys of whatsapp class groups. My son has been at school for two years, in that time I have come to the conclusion half of the mums are barking mad 😂. It’s actually good because you know now, at the start as she’s shown her hand quickly.

It’s not obligatory to make friends with the other parents. Unfortunately some parents who have never worked while having young kids are just oblivious to working life.

We had one women who identified herself pretty early on as a dick on our reception WhatsApp group. First she had a party for her child and excluded one child, then she started arguing who had put their choice of song for the end of year CD on the message first! Over the last two years she has managed to offend a couple of other parents. Two years on I think she's realised her mistake and I think she's ok actually.

Ugh well isn’t she a bag of grated dick cheese?

I hope her child befriends your child and becomes desperate to attend Breakfast Club too.

Mine love Breakfast Club, they have a great relationship with the staff and children across different year groups. It didn’t exist when my eldest two first started primary and it made my life really, really difficult.

Stay in the group because they can be useful, especially in infants when there are often whole class parties. You’ve gone the right thing muting it.

If she gets snide with you reply with
“I joined this group as I believed it would be useful to my child, I did not join it for lessons in competitive parenting. We clearly have differing views but I will not engage you in them. I would like to use this group for information about the school and the class. Thanks.”

Just be thankful you drop your kids off at breakfast club and will never have to meet her at the school gate 😂

I’m hoping that being a teacher in my daughter’s school means I get to avoid all of this! I did suggest to my husband that he could join, as it’s him doing the school run...he declined!

@swatsup so true 🤣🤣🤣