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Why would you choose to change your name to husband's if it was...

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SilverySurfer · 05/08/2019 13:56

Cock. Sitting in the doctor's surgery earlier, Mrs (first name) Cock appeared on the board and I couldn't help wondering why you would willingly change your name to it or similar when you have the choice to keep your own name. Would you?

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PolkaDotted · 05/08/2019 13:57

Perhaps she kept her name?

TheNavigator · 05/08/2019 13:58

Perhaps her maiden nurse was worse (I'm struggling to think how - Miss Hairyfanny?)

SoupDragon · 05/08/2019 14:00

Hell no!

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ISmellBabies · 05/08/2019 14:00

No! Imagine if your kid had some family trait, you'd be told "oh he's such a Cock, isn't he?".

Cookit · 05/08/2019 14:01

I never understand this. Since either could take either’s name (or neither of course), why don’t bad or embarrassing names just die out?

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SilverySurfer · 05/08/2019 14:01

Why would she when it's so bloody awful?

Hmm she would indeed be unfortunate to have to choose between Miss Hairyfanny and Mrs Cock. Grin

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dinosareforever · 05/08/2019 14:02

No idea. I do wonder why when I see a really bad name.

I knew a Mrs Titcum. She pronounced it tightcombe but we all knew it was tit cum... Grin

Aderyn19 · 05/08/2019 14:02

Never understood that. I'd definitely keep my own name if it was the nicer of the two and would give that name to my DC. I think parents owe to their kids not the land them with something that will lead to years of piss taking.

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SilverySurfer · 05/08/2019 14:03

Exactly Cookit! And if both names were so awful then a sensible person would change by deed poll.

I'm thinking of all the potential double barrelled names and the mind biggles Grin

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SilverySurfer · 05/08/2019 14:05

Yes, think of the poor children, the bullying would be merciless.

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Knitclubchatter · 05/08/2019 14:05

Not like Cox is a rarity so Cocks wouldn’t be much different.
That kind of last name probably teaches you a fair amount of resilience.

AllTheWhoresOfMalta · 05/08/2019 14:06

I’ve got a friend who’s a Mrs. Cock. Her maiden name was entirely inoffensive. Everyone wondered why she would do that to herself but whatever- true love. They had a baby, little Master Cock and then her husband had a long and really humiliating affair and left her and her son for another woman. Her and son now lumbered with awful name as he won’t agree to change babies name to even a double barrelling and she doesn’t want to have a different name to her son.

If he marries again let’s hope Wife No. 2 doesn’t do the same!

Pillowcased · 05/08/2019 14:07

Well, there's a lovely riposte to all those tiresome posters who bob up on literally every single thread about changing names on marriage, and claim that their birth surname was absolutely awful and their husband's was lovely, so that was why they changed. Mrs Cock can't have pretended anything like that to herself. No window-dressing there. So entrammeled in patriarchy that she willingly switched from Jones to Cock.

AngelasAshes · 05/08/2019 14:08

Cock is not so bad. My DD has a classmate with sur name of Snogbottom.

mistermagpie · 05/08/2019 14:09

I've got a friend who took her husband's terrible name when hers was perfectly normal. She's now lumbered two kids with the terrible name. She often moaned about it, especially when she was choosing the kids names, but can't seem to explain why she took it.

I didn't take my husbands name and, on balance, his is nicer than mine, but my name is my name.

namechangerreloaded · 05/08/2019 14:09

I knew a woman who took the married name 'Dick'.

Nquartz · 05/08/2019 14:10

Years ago I worked with someone who's surname was Stillborn. It's so horrific, why hasn't someone in the family changed it?!

mistermagpie · 05/08/2019 14:10

I wonder if she is my friend too... 😂

GrouchyKiwi · 05/08/2019 14:11

I worked in a supermarket part time as a teenager, when cheques were still a common sight. My two favourite customers were Mrs Dippy and Mrs Gherkin. I always wondered what their maiden names were. Grin

Nquartz · 05/08/2019 14:12

@SilverySurfer

First double barrelled I thought of... Brown-Cock Grin

SoupDragon · 05/08/2019 14:15

Well, there's a lovely riposte to all those tiresome posters who bob up on literally every single thread about changing names on marriage, and claim that their birth surname was absolutely awful and their husband's was lovely, so that was why they changed.

Why is it an appropriate riposte? What one person does with their name has no bearing on what another person does. How is this relevant to the fact that I did change my surname because it was stupid? Or are you one of those tiresome bores who bleat on about "how strange it is that so many women have a worse name than their husband"?

ElevenOhFive · 05/08/2019 14:16

I know of someone who chose to become Mrs Whatmuff sniggers

ShirleyPhallus · 05/08/2019 14:20

I know someone with the name Hoare

She pronounces it “hor-ee” but everyone else pronounces it whore

Pillowcased · 05/08/2019 14:20

Or are you one of those tiresome bores who bleat on about "how strange it is that so many women have a worse name than their husband"?

I'm one of the people who finds baffling the fact that women living in the 21st century still choose to go along with a purely patriarchal convention, and who would not have changed her own birth surname even if it were 'Crapsandwich' and I was marrying a Smith.

weegiemum · 05/08/2019 14:22

I took my dh's surname though his was slightly rude and a bit giggle-making. Mine was perfectly normal. Why? Maybe I am "enmeshed in the patriarchy" or maybe I was 24 and in love. It's now been my name longer than my maiden name was, and none of our teenagers mind. It certainly makes them stand out in a school otherwise full of "Mc - whatsits".