What drives you mad about MNers?

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I woke up grumpy today and reading some posts is making me grumpier. Perhaps I'm turning into a curmudgeon. But sometimes I read posts and think "Good grief, woman, you don't help yourself, do you?"

The gems that seem to pop up with alarming regularity: "We live rurally and I don't drive" in a post complaining of a lack of access to, well, anything really.

Or: "We don't have any family close by to babysit so DH and I haven't been out on our own since 2004." Do what we all do then and pay for a babysitter!

Ugh. This heat is making me grouchy. Anything make you want to shake another MNer?

People who say ‘I earn £75k but I work very hard for that’ .... does a care assistant not work very hard for her wages?

People who come on here and ask how their teenage DC can get weekend jobs, if the teenagers haven’t worked that out for themselves they are not going to be very employable are they?

And the number of ‘bright’ children (or the recent thread ‘am I reading to my child too much’ grin]).

When people have two six figure incomes and complain about being skint, they always follow up with something like 'well, everyone has different outgoings, we have no choice but to have high outgoings because we have a big mortgage'

Well, no, you do have a choice, you could live in a cheaper area or a smaller house. Like the 99% of other people, the ones who don't have two six figure incomes, do.

It's fine not to want to do that, it's perfectly ok to want a bigger house in a nicer area. But I wish they would just own the decision, not try to convince everyone that it was somehow foisted on them by outside forces.

‘.’ I thought it was a face I’ve not seen that before but have seen the single . which always baffles me as to why they don’t just “watch” the thread.

The insidious transphobia.

I want to protect women's rights and our safe spaces too, but the the constant mockery and hostility towards transwomen here depresses me. It makes all MNers come across as reactionary bigots.

Yes but @Isabellerossignol that’s because they live in LONDON where it’s SOOOOO expensive and no one who doesn’t live there could POSSIBLY understand

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Anti trans stuff. It just seems like a hate fest rather than rational debate.

I hate the 'false hope' threads. You know where legions of posters are advising the OP to ' hang in there' because their friend at work met her soul mate at 75 then went on to have 2 kids. Or the ones that insist their cousin forgot about her fertility problems, had a great time getting drunk and flying round the world, then waddya know, she fell pregnant when she was least expecting it !

The ones who are obsessed with social class. Especially the ones insisting they are somewhere between working class and middle class.

Principally the abject nastiness of some of the posters on here. There’s also the jealousy factor, if you have money many MNers effectively despise you.

The baby names ones where the OP says "What would you think if you met a baby Adolf Ghengis?", and then get upset when the response is negative. It's an anonymous forum ffs, and you asked what people thought.

Competitive healthy eating and the evils of cereal. I remember one thread where to OP was at a loss as to what to feed her fussy child for breakfast and someone suggested they wouldn't possibly refuse baked figs with some natural yoghurt and honey.

Stealth boasting by feigning ignorance, along the lines of "DD started in reception last week and is on free reading, should I be worried?"

Those are start a thread, get a load of responses they don’t like, then come back and give a lengthy post on how they have mental health issues so they can’t be held accountable, going on to berate everyone for being so mean and flouncing off.

People who are so eager to get a thread in classics that they start writing poems and songs about the OP’s situation, coining terrible nicknames for the “characters” involved and demanding an update every two seconds.

Posters who immediately suggest a “Zilla” nickname for anyone perceived to be even slightly in the wrong.

Those are start a thread, get a load of responses they don’t like, then come back and give a lengthy post on how they have mental health issues so they can’t be held accountable

Or they come back and complain to MN that personal details are identifying and have it pulled.

The tedious MIL threads (granted there are several posters who have legitimate problems) but the ones where it becomes obvious reading between the lines that the OP is the problem, but no, because of projection she'll still have massive support.

People whose reply to a post doesn't actually address the specific question asked by OP...

I posted a little while ago asking about childminder costs, ended up with a bashing about my family finances, losing my career & statements of "how are you saying you can't afford childcare?!?". I'd never mentioned I couldn't afford childcare. People are often judgemental dicks on here.

Also can't stand the weekly posts about mother & baby spaces. NOT AGAIN *sigh

The ones who say husband's hobby takes up 12 hours a day but won't say what it is??? Wtf

Yep @DownstairsMixUp and it’s always pretty obvious it’s either cycling or golf!

The word “hobby” at all in fact. Does anyone talk about doing “their hobby” IRL as opposed to sewing, book group, cycling, etc?

The ones that bring brexit or the environment into a post that has nothing to do with it.

The virtue signallers are shocking on here

The POAS threads where it's obviously negative yet they think the can see 'something'.

Other posters pile in saying thry can also see 'something'.

I see something too. I see a negative pregnacy test.

MN posters calling every selfish common-or-garden arsehole a narcissist. Most people have narcissistic traits, to a greater or lesser extent. Very few people qualify for such a clinically, diagnosed disorder.

Annoys me.

Virtue signallers. Who berate a perfectly reasonable op for not giving a random nutter on the spot counselling or keys to their car like they would because they are just so kind

People who claim working class people couldn't possibly value education, holiday anywhere other than Benidorm or eat vegetables.

People who can't see the difference between science and transphobia.

Those who ask factual questions on here when googling for the official information source would be far preferable and then thank all the posters who give the inevitable plethora of wrong answers to the original question.

The posts that go- 'My DB and SIL are getting married in Timbuktu and my DC's were invited and now they're not'
Posters- Funny first post trolly troll DM reporter troll
OP-I've NC to protect my identity.
Posters- BUT WHY? No-one gives a shit
Errr, because the OP might know full well she has friends/ family members on here who will immediately recognise the situation and she doesn't want them AS her as the other posters have clearly done to see her bitching about her DH/ talking about her kids/ MH/ Thrush/ them/ work etc etc! How do people not get that?!

When someone says 'well I'm going to go against the grain here' like they are the lone voice of reason, whilst repeating what every other poster has said.