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Yes, we fucking hate summer Pt 2

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CatherineOfAragonsPrayerBook · 23/07/2019 16:46

Link to first thread here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3601504-Its-time-Yes-we-fucking-hate-summer

Threw a bucket of water over the patio as need to put another line of clothes out.

After that I'm getting the frozon hot water bottle out the fridge and going to lie down.

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HelenaDove · 27/07/2019 21:01

Sanctuary is the HA i rent from. So ive christened my flat the the Sanctuary Sweatbucket.

Had real trouble getting DHs body temp down last night Thought he might have to go hospital

Fucking shitty crap fucking sweatbucket greenhouse of a flat.

Still as long as the companies who kept REPEATEDLY installing cavity wall insulation. got their fucking kickbacks all is good Hmm

LoafofSellotape · 29/07/2019 10:52

Warm here but nice and not stopping me doing anything,it's about 22 ish. Meant to be cooler for the next couple of weeks. Slept so well the last few nights,didn't realise I was so tired.

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 13:20

Fucking awful here Sad

~whiny shit ahead~

Saw thick shit worker who told me I need to get over my weather "obsession", as it's fine and will go back to normal very soon and then decided it was a good idea to complain about how bad it is in work. What a load of fucking bollocks. 26c here according to fucking fairies again.

I sat there sobbing saying I was terrified of what was happening (mostly weather related and rapid deterioation of my condition as a result) and the response? We can give you a worker so you can do so much more with your life, hobbies, holidays etc.. Answer : Exactly how is an unqualified minimum wage worker, with zero experience of my illnesses, going to stop me having fucking seizures and make my blood vessels work properly? Answer : ummmmmmmm . Then we moved on to how it's not like anyone's phoned to say they're concerned or worried so it can't be as bad as I say... Answer: I live alone who did they want to phone them, the voices they claim are hallucinations? How about the fairies who live behind my fridge

Then the final nail was them telling me of their "severely mentally ill" patients who can manage all day every day at the local mental health centre for the very severely mentally ill, which I'm not, so there's no reason why I can't manage and it's all "simple perception" and, why won't I just try harder at the mindfulness??

Ffs.

I sat there sobbing even more and that was that.
End of appointment (half an hour earlier than usual).
None next week as I didn't try hard enough to engage. I sat there fanning myself and spraying water over me as I struggled in the fucking heat (easily hotter in there than outside), struggling to even move the most I could muster was sobbing.

I sound angry but in reality I'm just, well, heartbroken. Crying even writing this.

Why do I keep thinking they'll understand? Keep trying? I'm such a fucking idiot.

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 15:18

Sorry for above. Am so fed up.

The rain and thunderstorms haven't materialised at all.

Supposed to rain all day tomorrow!

LoafofSellotape · 29/07/2019 15:57

What is the worker's job description,how do they propose to help?

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 16:18

The job description is to enable people to regain lost functioning thought encouragement - it's minimum wage job. No qualifications needed and no DBS or similar done.

They're not allowed to do anything to actually help as that's classed as care.

I had them before. It was basically bullying/mocking/saying whatever they wanted to me and telling me how if I wanted to get better then I would and how I can do things like climb stairs/dress myself/wash myself really and should just try.

One I had supposedly had severe mental illness with high rates for dla care and mobility and used to show off about how much she could do if she wanted to all the time, I don't get high mobility and she constantly went on about how she did and could climb flights of stairs and so could I "really".

Another insisted I paid to meet her in a garden centre ten miles away and paid for the taxis for us both there and back again because she wasn't allowed to drive "on medical grounds" that was all she did - insist we met at various locations and that was why i got dla in the first place for things like that. One time she demanded we went on a day out to a garden that had recently opened and the taxi fare was a huge amount that i couldn't afford so she dropped me as a client as failing to engage. There's no way I could afford things like that now, even if I had the functioning and I don't.

Another insisted I only met them in a mental health charity which was upstairs, again insisting I could manage them "really" as all her other clients could and again how they got high rate mobility so we're much more ill than me.

I heard all about support which was available to others but not to me because I'd worked and had a professional job so didn't qualify and should just get myself back into work.

There was no understanding whatsoever of the differences between physical and mental disability, nor support from them - if I needed support I was to go to mh team who refused saying it wasn't their job was workers.

All it achieved was a lot of bitterness and anger on my part (I'm not proud of that!) that people could claim benefits whilst obviously being capable of doing the things they claimed they couldn't and rubbing my nose in it and using me for free days out when I actually needed help.

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 16:18

Getting hotter and hotter here.

LoafofSellotape · 29/07/2019 16:20

Oh that's shit Sad

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 16:21

(Am not proud of that last paragraph at all just to be clear).

LoafofSellotape · 29/07/2019 16:24

Tbh I think that would piss anyone off.

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 16:24

X-post.

Sorry for derailing thread folks. Really terrified as just had text from family member telling me it's going to get boiling hot again next weekend...

Please someone tell me they're just winding me up....

peridito · 29/07/2019 16:26

Ah Becca sounds like a c**p appointment . A lot of "professionals" are thrown by honesty and their "clients" not fitting into a certain mould ,no doubt you're expected to be grateful and polite and never dare to show how overwhelmed you're feeling .

I'm sorry ,it all sounds grim and I can only offer words and Brew and Cake and Flowers.

KindleAndCake · 29/07/2019 16:26

I'm sat here with a cooling towel on my head, looking a right knob, but I dont care!!
Who are these fairies people keep mentioning 🙂

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 16:26

Thankyou for saying that.
At the time I was given the label of borderline personality disorder because of my "irrational rage" towards others.

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 16:29

kindle

The weather fairies. They work for places like the metoffice and BBC and other weather websites and have nooooo idea what the weather is doing.

Supposedly we're having massive downpours and a severe thundershower.

Blazing sun with not a cloud in the sky and well over the temps they're claiming.

Hence fairies.

I actually like real fairies like tinkerbell etc just to be clear.
I just HATE weather fairies.

peridito · 29/07/2019 16:36

Ah Becca ,budge up on the bench for ppl with irrational rage and make room for lots of us to join you .

Come to think of it ,we'd better be ok with sitting on the floor as they're be waaaay too many of us for one bench .

Hidingtonothing · 29/07/2019 16:57

How have I not managed to find these threads before now?!! Am settling my (sweaty) bum down and making myself at home as we speak Smile Warmer here again today, was almost chilly yesterday Shock but rain and thunderstorms forecast for tomorrow so I can cope for one day.

I also live in a HA sweat box and my neighbours make warm weather hellish (drinking/shouting/fighting in the front garden, music blasting, kids amusing themselves by bashing hell out of the old fridge freezer that's been flytipped, you get the picture) so I pray for rain Grin I'm also fat, peri menopausal and break out in hives in the heat so yes, I really do hate summer Smile

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 17:11

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO ITS MY BENCH!!!!!!!!! MINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 17:12
Wink

Yes ice people can be real dicks about the weather on here. You wouldn't believe the shit I had last year, both on and off thread here.

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 17:13

Sorry I couldn't resist the rage about sharing my bench!

Rockbird · 29/07/2019 17:15

Can't see any evidence of boiling for the next few weeks. I'm in the SE so if anyone is going to get it we do. But sticking at 21-24° for the next two or three weeks according to accuweather.

peridito · 29/07/2019 18:16

Grin Grin A clear example of irrational rage becca !

( I sometimes think ppl are overly polite and that raw emotion seems to be something ppl feel they have to hide )

Becca19962014 · 29/07/2019 18:49

rockbird that's still too much for me, especially if being predicted by fairies. Today's 21 I think was the max predicted was just a fucking joke.

OldAndWornOut · 29/07/2019 20:18

It was 26 degrees here at 6pm today. Horrible, humid, hateful.