If you’re married but didn’t change your name what title do you have?

[Owlbabie5]

Miss, Ms or Mrs?

Ms since I was 14 and irrespective of any relationship to any man.

(None of my married lesbian friends call themselves Mrs)

An awful lot of Drs on this thread. Dare I suggest that women who keep their own name might be better educated than the average woman?

I think there's a known correlation. I doubt it's causation, though it might be.

Dr or Ms!

@pancaketits. I find that so strange. I work in a very large company. I only know a handful of woman who use ‘Mrs’, most, if not all,are 60 +. Literally every other adult female is Ms. Every one. I’m not in the UK though so maybe that explains it. I’m kind of gobsmacked this is still being discussed. I though this was ‘resolved’ years ago. Maybe the debate is particular to the UK though ??

Rystall that’s really interesting. Can I ask where you are based?

The whole miss/ms/mrs thing really annoys me. Why do I have to make a statement on “marital” status, when men don’t.

*Why would you want to announce your marital status to (generally) people you don’t know? It’s not even an option for your husband. Women are groomed to believe that they are only truly valued if they snag themselves a husband. Using Mrs is one way that is reinforced to the next generation.

Makes zero sense to me.*

Why would I not want to announce it? It doesn't matter that it wasn't an option for DH. It was an option for me and I wanted to take it. I'm valued for being a good person, not for my choice in name. I haven't been groomed into anything, I just wanted to change from Miss to Mrs and keep my own surname. It doesn't matter if it makes zero sense to you, it's not your name, it's mine and it makes 100% sense to me.

Honestly, I couldn't get myself worked up about the names that people choose for themselves. Noone's forced me to do anything I didn't want to do and noone's forcing you to do anything. I bloody love my title and surname. It was a good choice.

I’m Ms and my DD’s 10 & 8 are also Ms - funnily enough it gets changed and then I call up and rectify it. Seems to cause misplaced concern.

but how will people know you're married
bloody hell.

twisty but you have been groomed. It’s obvious from your posts. You’ve been groomed into believing that it’s important for a woman to be married (and irrelevant for a man). Otherwise why would you care about announcing it via your title, to complete strangers?

Most of my kids’ woman teachers, in 2 secondaries, have been Ms.

twisty but you have been groomed. It’s obvious from your posts. You’ve been groomed into believing that it’s important for a woman to be married (and irrelevant for a man). Otherwise why would you care about announcing it via your title, to complete strangers?

No, I certainly haven't been groomed. It's because I love the sound of it. Ms has a horrible zzzz sound to it. Or people mishear and think it's Miss so you have to constantly correct people. Mrs flows really nicely with my name.

You've clearly been groomed to think that you can only be a strong independent woman making your own choices if you choose Ms or stick with Miss. I know otherwise, as long as you pick what you like, you're showing your independence. I don't need to follow what others are doing. I picked what flowed with my maiden name and created my own identity separate from DH and distinct from those that follow the Ms idea. So whose really being conditioned?

twisty I hope you don't talk about showbiz, have a friend called Liz or go to a pub quiz, as you must find them awfully hard to pronounce.

Ms before and after! Loathe Miss and Mrs.

Ms mainly but I only use titles for box ticking in forms, it’s not something I really say out loud so I don’t think of how it sounds that often. When I do it always makes me think of those Ms Wizz books.

Dr

Ms Mentry before and Ms Mentry after.

DH was Mr Hisname before and Mr Hisname after.

We gave the children my surname with his surname as a middle name.

I wouldn't want to announce my marital status via my title, especially as men don't.

Dr. I divorced and DS’s school still refers to me as Mrs ExDHSurname despite Dr Monster being on file. I do ask companies (if in person ) why my marital status is required and will often refuse to give it.

Ms

Ms since age 14 or so, regardless as to my marital status (which is the point for me)

Sorry didn't realise this was a zombi thread....maybe the world has moved on past gender pronouns? Ha ha ha

I am Mrs Maidenname.
I have been married 3 times, and just got sick of the paperwork. When I got married for the third time I just never bothered changing again. My passport and bank account are in my maiden name, but I use Mrs because I am married if that makes sense.
The only place I am Mrs DHname is the doctors because when DD was born they insisted on calling her Baby 2nd Husband's Name even though now DH is her father, and it understandably pissed him off.

Always been Ms

I was Miss Maidenname then Mrs Firsthusband.

After divorce I went back to Miss Maidenname and remained that when I got married again. I just feel like that's what my name is, and I wouldn't want to be Mrs Maidenname as that's my mum.

I have found some online forms (e.g. car insurance) will not let you tick "married" and also use "Miss"! And when I rang the tax office about the marriage allowance (to cancel it after using for a few years, as I now earn too much) the man said "I assume you want to change your title now" - er no, I am fine thanks, been married 7 years!

I don't understand why people who use Ms use it so people don't know their marital status?! Why does it matter if someone knows your married?! I'm proud to be Mrs DH Surname and would hate either of us to have a separate name to our kids. I also know no body who actually uses it in real life.