If you’re married but didn’t change your name what title do you have?

[Owlbabie5]

Miss, Ms or Mrs?

I'm Dr but if there's no option for that I use Ms.

What happens if you have a phd and register with a GP? Do you call yourself Dr?

@watcheait

No, I never use Dr in any medical context. Too confusing.

Ms. I was Ms before marriage too.
I don't care if divorced women have used it. That's good! We should all use it. It's the only female title that doesn't denote marital status.

I got married 15 years ago.

Me too. But in a different century it seems.

As an adult. I made an informed decision.

You said you did it automatically. Which was it?

Been Ms for as long as I remember. If there are forms which only give miss or mrs I select Mr.
Not many men over the ages of 6 use Master!

Dr
If that's not an option I use "Miss"

Mrs. Husband took my name

Ms on paperwork, always. A lot of people esp kids seem to find 'Ms' hard to say so at work I'm usually Mrs MyName. I don't make a fuss about it.

I don't really understand why we need titles at all, I never use them unless it's mandatory and then as above I use Ms. Does anyone know if there is a good reason for them, or is it just a tradition?

Ms Snotnose before marriage
Ms Snotnose during marriage
Ms Snotnose if we ever get divorced

Again the obey element it's taken too literal. Out vicar explained it in an incredibly emotive way. I do not jump at DHs command and never will. I could explain the reasoning but I think it would fall on deaf ears Did he give you a load of old guff about how every household has to have a head, and it’s always best if the head is a man, so it would be more like you promising to support your husband in the decisions he made for your family?

I'm pretty sure I took 'obey' out of our marriage vows. It's a really, really long time ago so I can't remember accurately.

Ms before marriage then Mrs for first marriage. After we split up I was Ms again and have stayed Ms ( am now remarried) looking back can't believe I changed to Mrs in the first place.

In 1928 — just two years after British women were first allowed to own property the same way that men were — an attempted revision to the Church of England marriage service left out the “obey.” The 1977 revision did too. More recently, the Church of England Archbishops’ Council has formally acknowledged problems with the “obey” wording; in 2006, the Council published a report on domestic violence that noted that the promise was part of “standards or expectations of women and men within marriage” that were problematic and outdated.

I love the fact that even the Church of England Archbishops Council has acknowledged that it's problematic and outdated for women to say 'obey' in their marriage vows, and yet we still have women who apparently think it's a good thing.

time.com/5276780/meghan-markle-harry-vows-obey/

@MoreSlidingDoors I have already clarified this yet you seem to wish to pick.

The name change was, for me, automatic. If I'd said I wanted to retain my name or use a-n-other title, my husband would not have batted an eyelid. It was an automatic assumption for me based on my families tradition.

The informed adult decision I made was in reference to 'obey'.

Hope you finally understand this now or you can continue deliberately trying to look clever and accuse me of contradicting myself.

I have also stated I and accepted my error in the theme of the thread, however the judgmental frankly patronising comments were still uncalled for. I shall now return to the kitchen sink and await my master returning from work like a good little trodden wife eh?

Well, every time there's a thread about namechanging on marriage hopefully a few more people get the idea that it is definitely optional and then don't do it automatically.

Ms. Don't really like it but don't see a better option. What's even the point of a title, why can't we be just first name, last name?

I thought women who promise to obey these days have just got some 50 shades of grey sex thing going on rather than dutifully wife.

Ms.

My professional title is Dr. but I only use it in professional contexts. In everyday life I am Ms.

Ms.

I work with a Mx, and they had a terrible time from HR trying to get it printed onto their work ID. Work made more fuss about printing it onto a card than my colleague did writing it on their employee record, I can tell you that much!

I've never heard of Mx. Who is it used by?

I’d use it.

It’s non sex specific. As in “it’s none of your business whether I’m male or female, married or single”.

Agreed. I'd use it too if I could be bothered to change everything. I don't think that the world and his wife should be able to know or assume your gender, marital status and potentially sexual orientation from the first part of your name.

I should add to the above, I don't think they should be able to if you don't want them to.

I use Ms. The female form of Mr., as I have always done.

I thought ‘ Mrs’ went out with the ark! I don’t know a single woman in a professional capacity under 60 that uses Miss / Mrs.

Ms. Always was. Always will be.

Funnily enough Dh hasn't changed his title either.