If you’re married but didn’t change your name what title do you have?

[Owlbabie5]

Miss, Ms or Mrs?

I use Miss, I just don’t like the sound of Ms and it doesn’t roll off my tongue. Basically I kept the same name and title on marriage. I wish English titles didn’t distinguish married and unmarried status with regard to women.

Mrs.

Ms, have been since I was an adult.

Having said that I frequently get called Miss and Mrs and don’t really care.

Do other languages do this? Is French still Mademoiselle/Madame? Do they have a catch-all title?

Ms. if I have to choose one, but I avoid it as much as I can!

@MrsDeltaB I have also stated I and accepted my error in the theme of the thread, however the judgmental frankly patronising comments were still uncalled for. I shall now return to the kitchen sink and await my master returning from work like a good little trodden wife eh?

As you're still posting on this thread for some reason, any comments on the fact that your views on marriage vows are officially considered 'problematic', 'outdated' and sexist by the Archbishops Council of the Church of England?

Or the fact that 'obey' hasn't been part of the wedding vows in this country since the 1920s?

I use Miss it’s the only one I like. If it’s good enough for surgens.,,.
I think in France young women regardless are called madamoiselle. You know you’re getting on a bit when you start getting called madam.

Yikes! That sounds like the ancient method of calling old women 'Mother [Surname]'.

Female surgeons aren’t necessarily Miss either.

So do some women become Mrs ( their original name)?

Mrs MyMaidenName.

Kept my name, but changed from Miss to Mrs.

Kept my name, but changed from Miss to Mrs.

Why?!

Husband took my name and I go by Mrs my name

Ms

MoreSlidingDoors

You seem so baffled by this 😂 Isn't it standard in India and Asia to just change your title, but keep your name? I was talking to a mum about this and she said "yeah, we keep our names for life. So much easier than European tradition!"

Ms. Nice and straightforward, prefer the sound of it to Miss or Mrs. The joy of inspiring silly cunts to reach for the smelling salts over it is a bonus.

Kept my name, but changed from Miss to Mrs.

Why?!

Depends on the situation.
I'm Dr myname or Mrs myname or Mrs His name. Doesn't bother me at all what I'm called in that sense, however I'm never Dr hisname. Most people as a result don't know my husband's Surname so address him as Mr myname. He doesn't care either

“Again the obey element it's taken too literal. Out vicar explained it in an incredibly emotive way.”

Well he would, wouldn’t HE. The word has a very clear an unambiguous meaning.

Did the vicar explain why this less than literally meant word ‘obey’ shouldn’t also be promised by a husband?

I couldn’t imagine entering into a partnership where we each made a different vow.

Yes, well, vicars make a living by trying to make nonsense palatable, so no surprises there.

Ms, but I've always been Ms.

Kids have my surname also, with their father's surname as one of their middle names. We both thought my surname was a better one!

@MoreSlidingDoors

Why wouldn't it I?!
I wanted to keep my name, but also wanted the title 'Mrs'. So that's what I did. Very happy with my decision.

Why would you want to announce your marital status to (generally) people you don’t know? It’s not even an option for your husband. Women are groomed to believe that they are only truly valued if they snag themselves a husband. Using Mrs is one way that is reinforced to the next generation.

Makes zero sense to me.

Aaah, I thought it was the keeping of the name that was your focus, @MoreSlidingDoors

The only circumstances in which I'd be happy to use Mrs would be if we adopted Mrs as a title for all adult women, similar to Madame in France so that it no longer gave an indication of marital status.