If you’re married but didn’t change your name what title do you have?

[Owlbabie5]

Miss, Ms or Mrs?

Ms since I was about 14. But it's rare that anyone uses it out loud - titles are mainly used for forms or by strangers so who cares how it sounds in those fleeting moments. To my ears, Mrs sounds old fashioned and frumpy - but each to their own.

Ms before and after marriage. I did not change my name. There seems to be a persistent myth that Ms indicates that you are divorced. I confuse people further by still referring to my husband as my partner on occasions

Ms however I don't hyperventilate if I get mis-titled as Mrs

I use Miss or Ms interchangeably. Some forms e.g. car insurance will only let me choose Mrs if I have ticked the box saying I am married! So any. Nothing happens if you put different ones each time.

I use Dr, but on forms where there is no option for Dr I just use Ms.

I stick to Miss. I remember my mother telling me that Ms was how divorced ladies were titled. I don't mind Ms but I would rather not use any of them.

Miss- didn't want to change anything about my name. Confuses people when I say I am married, but it is simple enough. I have never had a problem filling in a form- must be luck of the draw.

i just liked DH surname better than my own!

Amazing how often that happens. Only to women, of course.

I was married in 1982 and I have always used Ms. My DD1 is Ms my surname and DD2 is Ms DH's surname. I think I began using Ms in the mid seventies.

Amazing how often that happens. Only to women, of course.

Yup. Just as women's awful surnames are really their fathers', but their husbands' names are their own, as well as much nicer.

I am Ms.

My 13 year old daughter is Ms. She has my name so the immature argument of 'well, you can either have your husband's name or your father's name' won't apply to her.

I like my husband's name better than mine too. No way am I changing to it though. Couldn't care less if people assume I'm divorced because I use Ms either.

I remember one of my mum's friends starting to use Ms in the 1980s and being impressed with it (she was and still is married).

BookBookBook My surname might be my father's but I felt the change had to start somewhere. My married DD1 has not changed her name to husband's and if DD2 marries, she intends to keep her name too.

Miss to Mrs. I don’t see the big deal at all; I like being a Mrs.

I did take husband’s name though.

I really dislike Ms; I know it’s wrong, but it screams bitter divorcee to me. Where I work I type letters to clients all the time and the only people who inform us they use “Ms” have always turned out to be rude and obnoxious.

I really dislike Ms; I know it’s wrong, but it screams bitter divorcee to me. Where I work I type letters to clients all the time and the only people who inform us they use “Ms” have always turned out to be rude and obnoxious.

Well, as you are clearly aware that this is your own prejudice speaking as this thread has shown, 'Ms' has no correlation to marital status now, if it ever had maybe work on your own stereotyping?

My surname might be my father's but I felt the change had to start somewhere.

Of course, @sue51. The point I was making is that people always bob up on 'did you change your name when you married?' threads and say 'Haha! It's your father's name, anyway!' with an air of great cleverness -- whereas both men and women in the UK are still likely to have been given their father's surname at birth, but only on women is this seen as meaning it's 'not really their name'.

I've always been Ms but people are strange about it in the UK.

I grew up in Ireland, in my (catholic, convent) secondary school all the teachers were Ms- we were told it was none of our business if they were married! Every form or bank account I've ever had has been Ms, nothing changed on marriage.

When I lived in the UK though, I found every third utility or bank account was Miss, even though I can say with certainty I have never ticked the Miss box. A few I tried to change and they were quite arsey about it. I've also heard people say they couldn't pronounce it which I find strange.

But yes- Mrs my surname is my grandma, Miss my surname is a little girl. I'm married, and I'm me, and I'm Ms.

Ms, the same title I’ve been using since I was about 12. I registered my baby daughter online at the GPs using the title Ms, but they switched it to Miss

I've also heard people say they couldn't pronounce it which I find strange.

Yes, because those people never experience any difficulty with the very pronounceable 'Mrs'. I agree that there's a strange attitude towards Ms in the UK, actually, and, depressingly, when I've encountered it, it seems to come from other women, who seem to have inherited prejudices from their mothers' generation.

Ms

@MoreSlidingDoors

Nope, it didn't occur to him. At all. Why would/should it?

It may be a stuffy old tradition but its one I'm happy to adhere to. He never expected me to take his, I just automatically did. And hey, I even said 'obey' in my vows. I'll give you time to pick yourself off the floor I'm sure.

I can't help but think sometimes society looks for things to feel affronted by.

I find this quite fascinating! It seems the majority of women on this thread use Ms and a huge chunk also kept their maiden name. I only know one Ms in real life and I don't know one person who has kept their maiden name after getting married

I started using Ms when I was 13, and have never stopped.

One friend kept her name, but did change honorative to Mrs as she used Miss previously

I've always used Ms.

Nope, it didn't occur to him. At all. Why would/should it?

Equality?

It may be a stuffy old tradition but its one I'm happy to adhere to.

Stuffy? It’s a bloody horrible tradition stemming from a time when women we’re considered to be subservient to men (they weren’t even legal entities FFS).

He never expected me to take his, I just automatically did.

That’s really sad.

And hey, I even said 'obey' in my vows. I'll give you time to pick yourself off the floor I'm sure.

I feel slightly sick at that, but given your earlier comments I’m not that surprised.

I can't help but think sometimes society looks for things to feel affronted by.

Yes. Women, know your place. It’s a man’s world. You aren’t here to think or be considered a valid human in your own right. Every decision you think you make has actually been made for you by men. Hurrah.

I was Miss myname until I got married, now I'm Ms myname.