Would you judge this parent?

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If a parent turned up at a school event, such as sports day, nativity etc, dressed in untidy/dirty work clothes. Pre school or early primary age children. Parent is self employed, tradesperson. Not filthy but obviously less clean and tidy than an office worker.

So glad people are RTFT!

If I come to school it is in a suit or office attire, because that is what I wear at work. My DH is retired from a profesional career and he now spends much of his time doing something that means he is in "work clothes", covered in paint/glue/wood chips etc, so sometimes he comes to school in those if he has not had time to change. People probably think he is a tradesman (and so what). I can't imagine anyone judges either of us (and I don't care if they do).

Blimey, does no one on here ever RTFT?

Lol @Nottalotta, your last comment showed just after I posted!
And no, I wouldn't judge.
As others said, I'd think they'd come straight from work, no big deal.

DD's dad is a scaffholder and often turns up to things, especially DD's very expensive ballet class, mostly attended by very well off private school kids, in his work gear. Honestly, after 2 years of him either not wanting to see her or being very flakey I'm just over the moon he now spends every spare minute he has seeing her and doesn't want to spend time going home first to change. Rushes straight there to see her as soon as he clocks out. He's a great dad, don't give a stuff what he wears he can turn up in a clown costume for all I care so no, would I heck judge a hard working parent for wearing their work clothes

Happy to see them in whatever they’re wearing. Not a problem.

Not everyone has time to go home get changed etc.

Coming to parents evening with a vague whiff of beer - possibly a different manner.

Why would you ask this question? Are you hoping for permission to judge someone who works with their hands and also wants to see their child's assembly? Or are you the tradesperson parent and have you felt judged at your child's school?

I don't think anyone would care, but if the parent doesn't feel comfortable showing up then it's kind of up to them, isn't it? You could say - 'turn up as you are, we'd love ot see you there', but beyond that, it's their choice.

You are describing my husband! He adores our girls & always take time out of his busy work day to go to school things because he knows I can’t

I think she means someone doing a proper dirty manual job, not sitting in a chair and at a desk all day.

Wouldn't judge in the slightest

@AmeriAnn it might be an idea to rtft. Thanks for your input.

DH often attends school events in his grubby hi vis. I couldn't care less what others think.

I can't bear parents who turn up in suits and then spend the entire time on their phones. Anything else is fine by me.

I can't bear parents who turn up in suits and then spend the entire time on their phones. Anything else is fine by me.

I'm with you there 👍

I can't bear parents who turn up in suits and then spend the entire time on their phones.

I haven't seen the 2 being related

@S1naidSucks thank you! I've just been and re read my original post and actually, can't see that it's judgy at all. Because, well I'm not the one judging. But you know that having rtft......

No I wouldn’t judge at all.

I will admit to judging parents (mostly women) who clearly ‘dress up’ to do the school run or attend school events as they seem to be totally wrapped up in their own appearance & just not care about anything else. Every morning I pass a woman walking her DC to school, her clothes and sense of style is ridiculously outrageous (to my way of thinking), she dyes her hair a different colour every day, her clothes are fashion extreme she just seems to be ‘look at meeeeee’, at least it gives me a laugh every morning.

Ha ha, just seen the thread ‘help me choose a new dress for school sports day’ , so clearly some people do care what they look like at school events.

I would judge him as a lovely and interested dad who is supporting his child.

just seen the thread ‘help me choose a new dress for school sports day’

I haven't seen the thread, but you know, if it's a SAHM with a new baby that hasn't been out for weeks apart from being a zombie for the school run, and want to feel good for once, good for her.

Absolutely not, happens all the time at my sons school. Who gives a shit what they're wearing, they are there for their child. I would hate my kids to go to a school where this would be judged!

I bet you are okay with the unemployed who are sucking off the tax-payers teat showing up in their shit-show finery and great big rectangle eyebrows!

Working people are the salt of the earth. Fucking snob

Oh the fucking irony.