Would you judge this parent?

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If a parent turned up at a school event, such as sports day, nativity etc, dressed in untidy/dirty work clothes. Pre school or early primary age children. Parent is self employed, tradesperson. Not filthy but obviously less clean and tidy than an office worker.

Of course not.

This used to be my dh he would if he could nip home for sports days etc some .parents nights he was on call and he used to take his work van. If anybody judged that was on them.

I'd judge someone who could easily go to support their DC but chose not to, tbh.

The only time I have judged a fellow-parent on his appearance was at an information evening for a primary school where I was sitting directly behind a man with a spliff behind his ear and a neck tattoo that said ‘Bitch’ in Gothic script.

We chose to send DS elsewhere.

@Nottalotta I know you do but I didn't like your tone of judgement by stealth post, asking a reverse really. Over invested.

Wtf? Normal at our school. I'd be more likely to judge the person who bought a new dress especially (as per a recent thread on here) but schools differ and if the "dirty" parent is going to the same school event as the parent who feels they need to buy a new dress then I can understand why they might feel like that. Luckily not an issue at our school!

@FancyAPint I'm thinking that it's the OPs children's father and he's refusing to go for this reason and that's why she's invested

I wouldn’t give a shit about anyone’s appearance. However, if a person is so dirty that debris such as mud, sawdust, oil or whatever they have been working with is leaving bits of it on a chair where they sat then I’d say that’s very rude.

nah, I would be considering whether they were nice and polite and looked like someone I could add to my list of potential workmen/women

My partners trade. If anybody dares judge him I’ll probably savage them. He’s a good guy doing his best to be everywhere and just happens to have a mucky job. I’d be judging those that judged!

I am a pretty judgemental person, and I wouldn’t judge this.

@Shitsandgigglez Ah! that would be different!

God no, what a strange question!

No. The only parents I judge are the ones who park on the double yellows at drop off & pick up time. I judge the shit out of them it's always the same ones.

Not at all they made it to the event & they work bloody hard by the looks of it as well!

I would not judge? What would be judged & why?

Good honest manual work grime? Perfectly acceptable.

No. There supporting their child. Either on their way to or from work. Not everyone works in an office.

NO. Would I judge someone who was working but also found the time to support the child.

Seriously.....if you were judging then shame on you

Not at all... esp if self employed! My hubbys a builder and made one race at sports day. I was just glad he made it, seen a race and my lb seen him... you just don't know when your time is up and shame on you for judging

Not at all! But I would absolutley be judging the person who makes an issue of it....

Of course not, the parent made it to the event, maybe only had a short break between jobs.
I'd think anyone judging was a sad individual tbh.

No judging in those situations, abundantly clear that they've just come from a building site or plastering someone's house.

Parents who turn up in nightclothes are another matter.

IntoValhalla - at least nobody will have noticed your DH creep into the hall, seeing as how he was in camoflage gear and all!!!!

My husband went for father’s day lunch at our DS school today,straight from work in his grubby clothes.(no time to change)Would definitely not judge as it makes the child’s day.