Have moved from London and am crushed: how did you get over it?

[LadyFatboobs]

Hello there

Am having a vast pity party but today is week 6 in our new city and I’ve never missed London more.

We had to move back to my home city as fundamentally we didn’t want to move away from London to a small town in the Home Counties and could afford much more space and a garden up here for myself, DH and the 3 children.

I’m just absolutely desperately thinking WTF HAVE I DONE and now putting loads of lottery tickets on just to be able to afford to run back to London and buy a three bed as I don’t know that many folk here and I forgot how absolutely fucking mega depressing it can be (especially when it rains).

Have any of you felt such intense massive regret about moving and how did you manage to get over it?

I had two at Chelsea & Westminster and one at Kingston Hospital. Their passports say Royal Borough of Kingston upon Thames and Royal Borough of Kensington & Chelsea. All I can say is that the care received was royally superior at Kingston. And from what I gather still is 24 years on. That's all that matters about birth place.

Swoopinggulls I wasn't being snide, I was genuinely shocked. It was an option we had to consider due to work and we turned it down tbh.

That's their birth certs. Passports say Chelsea and Kingston.

Mine says Oldham.

I’ll get my coat.

Swoopinggulls I wasn't being snide, I was genuinely shocked. It was an option we had to consider due to work and we turned it down tbh.

Op said that she moved to Aberdeen because it's where she is originally from, so not that shocking surely.

And over 200,000 people live there, presumably some of them reasonably happily. It's so insulting, this attitude that living in the north of the UK is unthinkable.

I had my son in Kingston hospital. When we were applying for his Aussie passport they sent the application back as I had put on the application that he was born in London, but his birth certificate said Kingston! That’s the only time I cared about that!

21 years OP.

Kingston hospital
Galsworthy rd
Kingston upon Thames
Surrey
Kt2 7qb

For those confused about if their child were born in London or Kingston, here's the address for Kingston Hospital. Its in Surrey and not London.

Still can't people think anyone care what their passport says

I miss London. We go back fairly often, but usually to the West End and South Bank. I miss the East End so badly.

Re the passport, if you were ‘born’ somewhere and always lived there, then it is confusing for your passport to say something else. Guess it’s the same for babies born early when their parents are on holiday or something though. Or for anyone who lives very close to a border. I find it hard to believe that their aren’t others who feel the same way if they come from somewhere they are born and brought up and have a strong allegiance to.

Why would it be confusing? . Surely they just know that their passport says a certain thing because that’s where they were technically born? It’s hardly a difficult concept to grasp.

I can see why you're upset when you say Aberdeen.
I'd hate to live there.

Nice

OP are you in the city or outside. We live on Deeside, have a lovely Parkrun here ( on the organising committee so slightly biased!), you can come & visit us anytime to volunteer or walk around. Our little town has mum & baby bootcamp classes and plenty going on. It does take time to settle in and I hope things get better. The soggy weather won't be helping, all that granite goes pretty grey in the rain! But you know, if it never feels better and you can do it, head back down south. Nothing is set in stone, and if you've made a mistake then head back once you can find an appropriate place to live that works for you all. Good luck!

Their passports say Royal Borough of Kingston upon Thames and Royal Borough of Kensington & Chelsea.

No they don't 😂 passports just say "London" no passport states the actual borough. I've just looked at mine.

Linoleum - I have 3 children all born in the same hospital. I have filled the passport form in exactly the same way each time. Their passports all give a different place of birth - one says London, one says the borough and one says the district. It’s in that order as well, so the youngest is most specific. No idea why but it’s a true fact.

Odd, as I also have two children born in London, one very young. I put the borough and the name of the hospital, as I do on mine but it still came back with just "London" for all of us.

I've already said I had mixed up the birth certs with the passports. Actually linoleum it's Chelsea and Kingston upon Thames in the passports.

When would your passport be confusing? You give it in to passport control, they look at it and give it back to you. Do you sit on the plane having an identity crisis? Why do you need other people to know where you are from? Surely you would also know where your children were born? My DS2 was born in another London borough without a London postcode. It makes no difference whatsoever that his birth certificate says 'Enfield' It did make a bloody hell of a difference that he didn't contract a hospital borne infection and end up in intensive care for 2 weeks after being born in the North Mid like DS1!

noodlenosefraggle I’ve got images of people staring at their passports in bewilderment going ‘but... but... I thought I was a londoner’!

I have three children all born in Tooting in London. One of them has London on the passport and the other two say Tooting. I think Tooting is such a funny name and feel a bit sorry for the kids having that on their passports.