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Hand hold: DH missing after "accident"

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 19:20

I know it's not been long, but this is really out of character and not sure what to do next.

Rang my DH on his mobile to let him know what time I'd get in and he didn't answer - often happens so then call him on work line. His work said he'd called in on way back in after lunch saying he'd been in a car accident but was fine, and neither hide nor hair heard since. That's all I know - no indication of the severity of the accident or where he or my car (which he drives) have got to.

I've been trying him on his mobile countless times, called 101 to see if they've got him somewhere, also A&E - but no joy.

He's been off grid for about 5 hours now, when he'd normally have picked me up, got the Tesco and we'd be sitting starting our weekend. But not even a text to let me know he's not dead in a ditch, and I don't have that phone tracker either on this latest handset.

Starting to panic slightly - if anyone is around for a hand hold or some pointers as to how I can track him down that's would be much appreciated....

OP posts:
StrongTea · 07/06/2019 19:41

His phone could be damaged. Hope he turns up soon.

Aimily · 07/06/2019 19:41

Oh gosh op, you must be worried. Have you told the police you've not heard from him and he informed work of the accident but never went back?
Can you ask the police to do a trace on your registration and see if they can locate your car, hopefully he will be near by.

SeaToSki · 07/06/2019 19:41

Start tracking the car down, thats the next easiest thing to do while you are waiting. Do you have AA or roadside rescue? If you do, try calling them to see if they have responded to a car with your reg and if so, what they have done with it

Totaldogsbody · 07/06/2019 19:41

Have you tried calling the breakdown company you're with. They may be able to tell You if they've taken your husband and the car anywhere to be fixed.

Redglitter · 07/06/2019 19:41

OP said in her first post that they dont have tracking apps on their phones.

OP phone 101 again. If you report him missing he wont necessarily be treated as a missing person yet but it should mean the basic checks are done. As routine the hospital will be checked custody records and they can also find out if your car has been checked out by any officers today. If nothing else it might help rules things out or hopefully track.him down.

TwinklyMummaLuvsHerBubba89 · 07/06/2019 19:41

I wonder if it's a minor accident and he's managed to get the car to a repair shop which has a bad signal, he's sat bored in a waiting room somewhere.

StealthPolarBear · 07/06/2019 19:41

Usually starting a post on here guarantees the person you're worrying about walks through the door. Hope that is the case here.

SunshineCake · 07/06/2019 19:42

Are you sure he's not made up an accident? Just my gut feeling. Sorry. I hope he turns up very soon.

CormoranStrike · 07/06/2019 19:42

I would definitely report him as missing in these corcumstances

PlatypusPie · 07/06/2019 19:42

Cripes - I often roll my eyes at the ridiculous panicking and catastrophising I see on MN, but I too would be worried in this situation- it’s the half info and radio silence . Hope it all resolves soon, OP

namechangedforthis1980 · 07/06/2019 19:43

Hope he turns up soon. Have you got someone to sit with?

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 19:43

Going to VM.

He would be in trouble as he knows I don't like his driving at the best of times, and have always been paranoid he'd crash my car.

Certainly not too an extent to warrant this though...

OP posts:
princessjelly · 07/06/2019 19:43

Oh gosh - this must be very worrying but remember there might be a very simple explanation. Please ring police though. Has everything been ok recently - could be just want some time on his own?

Veterinari · 07/06/2019 19:43

Agree with reporting him missing
So did he not return to work all afternoon?
Could he be mildly concussed/confused?
Think you need to report him and the car missing so that the police can search for the vehicle

Rosielily · 07/06/2019 19:44

Does he have messenger? Wound show when he was last online. Has his work done anything to find him?

Drum2018 · 07/06/2019 19:44

Are any of his clothes missing, a suitcase/bag, his passport?

HollowTalk · 07/06/2019 19:45

That must be such a worry. I hope you hear from him soon.

MashedSpud · 07/06/2019 19:45

It’s odd how he contacted work but not the op. Hopefully it’s just something like he sneaked off to the pub and he’s had one too many.

Teachermaths · 07/06/2019 19:45

Gosh OP. Hope everything is OK.

Sugaronjam · 07/06/2019 19:45

I hope he turns up soon.

VenusClapTrap · 07/06/2019 19:46

My local hospital has no signal so it’s a nightmare to let family know what’s happening if you have to go to A&E. Could be a similar situation?

justasking111 · 07/06/2019 19:46

Hope he walks through the door soon OP

freshcottoncandles · 07/06/2019 19:47

Handhold Flowers

May sound silly given it’s a Friday evening but is there any chance he’s gone somewhere to try and get your car sorted so he can return with it in good condition and not tell you about the crash?

INeedAFlerken · 07/06/2019 19:47

I would report the car missing as well, especially if the police don't have a record/report re any accident today.

Sorry, OP. He doesn't sound very thoughtful.

amymel2016 · 07/06/2019 19:47

Are there any friends you could call who could drive around the local roads to see if they could spot him? Can you look at online banking to see if any cards have been used? Hope you’re ok OP xx

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