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Hand hold: DH missing after "accident"

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 19:20

I know it's not been long, but this is really out of character and not sure what to do next.

Rang my DH on his mobile to let him know what time I'd get in and he didn't answer - often happens so then call him on work line. His work said he'd called in on way back in after lunch saying he'd been in a car accident but was fine, and neither hide nor hair heard since. That's all I know - no indication of the severity of the accident or where he or my car (which he drives) have got to.

I've been trying him on his mobile countless times, called 101 to see if they've got him somewhere, also A&E - but no joy.

He's been off grid for about 5 hours now, when he'd normally have picked me up, got the Tesco and we'd be sitting starting our weekend. But not even a text to let me know he's not dead in a ditch, and I don't have that phone tracker either on this latest handset.

Starting to panic slightly - if anyone is around for a hand hold or some pointers as to how I can track him down that's would be much appreciated....

OP posts:
twirlypoo · 07/06/2019 19:54

I really second what other people are saying - I think you need to call the police back now. Does he have Whatsapp or fb messenger sometimes shows when you were last active too.

woahtherehorsey · 07/06/2019 19:54

I hope you hear from him soon, I think his phone went dead whilst trying to sort out details and he can't remember your number (no one remembers numbers anymore) try not to worry xx

StealthPolarBear · 07/06/2019 19:54

Stupid question, are you sure he's not asleep in bed?

Lalalalalalalalaland · 07/06/2019 19:54

Hand hold. Hopefully he turns up soon

Desmondo2016 · 07/06/2019 19:54

Have you reported him missing yet? It's all very odd.

Is there nothing at all going on under the surface that may better explain this? Does he have a drink problem? Was he insured? Is your relationship sound?

You really need to report him as a concern for welfare.

twirlypoo · 07/06/2019 19:55

Sorry cross posts, so the times tie in. Could he of been drunk?

crazymil123 · 07/06/2019 19:55

I hope everything is ok, I know what you're feeling right now, the panic is horrendous! Stay strong x

Spotsandstars · 07/06/2019 19:55

I second contacting your breakdown provider. He's probably sat in a garage?

Desmondo2016 · 07/06/2019 19:55

@stealthpolarbear it's not silly, it's a great suggestion. As a police officer I've seen lots of random outcomes like that!

Kanga83 · 07/06/2019 19:55

Report the car as missing/stolen. That will then trigger ANPR sightings. If he has been arrested then they don't have to tell you, but will be able to tell you if your vehicle has been recovered. Is there any history of depression etc to warrant a report of a vulnerable missing person?

HasThisSoddingNameGoneToo · 07/06/2019 19:56

Stupid question, are you sure he's not asleep in bed?

I thought this too!

user1498572889 · 07/06/2019 19:56

Hope there is a simple explanation.

orangeshoebox · 07/06/2019 19:57

maybe (hopefully) he is just in a minor injury, stuck in the queue waiting to be seen for a dislocated finger.

another thought: football worldcup starts today? would he watch that in a pub?

I agree with pp, if he's not back within the next hour report him missing.

PG2018 · 07/06/2019 19:57

Hope you get some good news soon Thanks

Shelvesoutofbooks · 07/06/2019 19:57

Do you have a spare bedroom he could've gone and had a nap in ? and just hasn't woken up yet 🤷🏼‍♀️

TheInvestigator · 07/06/2019 19:59

Do you have access to his internet banking? You could look and see if there are any pending transactions from today to see if he's shopped anywhere?

Do you know the route he'd normally have been on when he had the "accident"? You could drive it and see if you spot his car abandoned?

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Stickywhitelovepiss · 07/06/2019 19:59

Maybe trying to get the car repaired and not telling me...? But he'd know I was freaking out at this point.

On hold to 101 again now and will report as missing so they can do car and hospital checks at least.

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FromEden · 07/06/2019 20:00

Could he have been arrested as a result of the accident? Like if he was really speeding or drink driving or something? You say you worry about his driving so could be a possibility. Although I'm sure the police would have had a record of that when you called

Most of the time on here , "missing" husbands turn up drunk after spending all day/night in the pub though

HiItsClemFandango · 07/06/2019 20:00

What time does he usually come home from work?

Did he nip into work after lunch to tell them he'd been in an accident and then left again?

XXVaginaAndAUterus · 07/06/2019 20:00

Hand hold from me. I can't imagine how worried you must be!

00100001 · 07/06/2019 20:00

Ring his mates
His mum, sister etc

Redglitter · 07/06/2019 20:00

Stupid question, are you sure he's not asleep in bed

Not at all stupid. That actually happened to a friend of mine. Had a row with his wife & stormed out. Several hours later she had various friends out looking for him. He was found sound asleep in bed. Hed come back while she was watching TV. Had gone up.to bed without speaking to her & fallen asleep. I think hed about 4 hours sleep under his belt before he was spotted

Rosielily · 07/06/2019 20:01

So 6 hours ago was 2pm. How does that fit in with his lunch time, phoning work etc?

ChippyMinton · 07/06/2019 20:01

If you have a garage, could the car be parked in it?

NameChangedNoImagination · 07/06/2019 20:01

I agree on checking bank transactions.