Can't he just have a bit of yours?

[NaughtyLittlePassport]

No MIL, my ravenous 3 year old (because you don't believe in snacking) can't just have a bit of my lunch. I'm very grateful that you've looked after him this morning, and then made a ham salad sandwich for us but the portion is far too small for either of us! I did offer to bring lunch with me, but no, instead you're huffing around the kitchen making another (weeny) sandwich for DS. He'll finish that then inevitably hoover up what's left of mine.
We're getting chips on the way home!
Aaaargh

I should be very clear before the childcare warriors appear.
MIL asked to have DS. I do not rely on her for childcare. I pay a nursery for that!

You don't sound very grateful.

I wouldn't be grateful if someone had sole care of my child and didn't feed them adequately.

@jollygiraffe
No I'm bloody not. Why would you invite someone for lunch and then serve up a tiny sandwich to be eaten between two. Ffs

There is nothing worse than being served tiny portions!!!!

Surely a sandwich is a sandwich though? 2 slices of bread, ham and salad? How small can it be??

I think you have to be firm and clear, "that still won't be enough food, do you have any x?"
Threads like this make me very grateful towards my MIL who has eating issues herself but is always happy to have others help themselves out of the fridge when in her house.

How was it tiny? Did she give you half a sandwich or something?

Good point, how can a sandwich portion be that small? Was it one slice of bread?

1 sandwich between two people.

That is annoying, but either treat it as a snack or bring some cakes or something to have after

Maybe it was a sandwich from those small 400g loaves?

Sandwiches massively vary in size. Depends whether a Warbies Thin, WW Danish or Warbies Toastie loaf was used. Regardless, I wouldn't expect people to share one, that's really odd x

Small bread maybe? Or sandwich thins

I remember going to a stingy aunt's house when I was 13 and being made to share a packet of crisps (normal sized!) with my 3 year old brother. I was starving!

People huffing at a growing child being hungry need to give their head a wobble!

Is she hinting at weight issues?

Honestly she’s looked after him for you all morning, I would of just shared the sandwich treated it like a quick snack and sorted something else out.

Some people on here do make life a drama, oh be firm and demand more food, she’s not fed the child adequately 🙄

Older people have a smaller appetite. I’d say in future send your ds with a packed lunch and a time to feed him.

Blimey do you always get this upset about food? It's like joey from friends shouting he doesn't share food, but this time even with his own toddler.

Just get something on the way home as you plan if it's not enough food for you.

Why did you offer to take lunch with you?

I agree with pps-treat it as a stop gap, leave & have lunch at home/on the way home.

It was small bread, Vogel I think it's called. Tasted ok. Agree with PP, packed lunch in future and a shorter visit. We have had lovely chips!

I think you have to be firm and clear, "that still won't be enough food, do you have any x?"

Fuck me. You must be a joy to invite for lunch.

Not offering an actual meal for a toddler is so rude! Getting cross when asked to feed the child is even ruder.

If you know she gives measly portions, I’d have sent him with snacks, and also bought rolls for lunch without even asking her.

These threads bug me. Just ask for another sandwich surely? How can you have a teeny sandwich also? Is that you just exaggerating?