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Can't he just have a bit of yours?

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NaughtyLittlePassport · 29/05/2019 14:32

No MIL, my ravenous 3 year old (because you don't believe in snacking) can't just have a bit of my lunch. I'm very grateful that you've looked after him this morning, and then made a ham salad sandwich for us but the portion is far too small for either of us! I did offer to bring lunch with me, but no, instead you're huffing around the kitchen making another (weeny) sandwich for DS. He'll finish that then inevitably hoover up what's left of mine.
We're getting chips on the way home!
Aaaargh Angry

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Original poster
NaughtyLittlePassport · 30/05/2019 12:57

Nosauce
Snacks were provided. She didn't give him them.
Redspider
I'm lucky that that I'm not such a sap.

OP posts:
NoSauce · 30/05/2019 13:03

Why didn’t you give him the snacks when you eating your sandwich?

Original poster
NaughtyLittlePassport · 30/05/2019 13:39

Nosauce
Fruit and cheese, though nice, don't make a meal

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sqirrelfriends · 30/05/2019 14:06

I don't know why some people are being so hard on OP. She did nothing wrong, provided snacks and offered to bring lunch.

IMO, it's unreasonable to expect an adult and a growing child (that has been deprived snacks) to share a tiny sandwich.

NoSauce · 30/05/2019 14:20

But he’d already had two sandwiches hadn’t he? One for lunch then another one that MIL made huffing about in the kitchen?

Surely after that fruit and cheese would have been enough.

NoSauce · 30/05/2019 14:24

IMO, it's unreasonable to expect an adult and a growing child (that has been deprived snacks) to share a tiny sandwich

Deprived of snacks? Do you realise how crazy you sound? Children won’t come to harm if they don’t have a snack for once in their life! It’s no wonder so many children are overweight.

sqirrelfriends · 30/05/2019 14:34

Deprived of snacks? Do you realise how crazy you sound? Children won’t come to harm if they don’t have a snack for once in their life! It’s no wonder so many children are overweight.

Are you OP's Mil? Cheese and fruit is hardly the same as crisps and chocolate now is it? Do you realise how stupid you sound? If you're going to post, at least read the OP's comments. Never did she say her child had two sandwiches.

And yes, some children often do need snacks. They are growing and need nutrition to do so.

Original poster
NaughtyLittlePassport · 30/05/2019 14:41

No sauce RTFT

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NoSauce · 30/05/2019 14:43

I did offer to bring lunch with me, but no, instead you're huffing around the kitchen making another (weeny) sandwich for DS

and then made a ham salad sandwich for us but the portion is far too small for either of us!

I read that as MIL had made a sandwich for both of them and another one for DS when he was still hungry. The OP could have given him her snacks too, yes?

Original poster
NaughtyLittlePassport · 30/05/2019 15:04

NoSauce
She made one small sandwich for the 2 of us to share

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redspider1 · 30/05/2019 15:41

So which is it?
1-You gave your DS the sandwich
2- MIL made you another sandwich albeit grumpily
3-You had chips

Original poster
NaughtyLittlePassport · 30/05/2019 15:46

Oh FFS!
For the hard of understanding.
She made one small sandwich. Then asked if DS could just have some of mine, instead of making another (it's the actual bloody title!!!)
I pointed out that this wasn't enough food, she grumpily made another. We both had chips on the way home.
It's not even RTFT. It's RTFOP (Read The Fucking OP!)

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redspider1 · 30/05/2019 15:50

So what is the problem? Now you say she ASKED if it was enough for him to have some of yours. She made you both a sandwich AND you got chips on the way home.
Would argue that is a lot for a 3 year old for lunch!

NoSauce · 30/05/2019 15:50

I did offer to bring lunch with me, but no, instead you're huffing around the kitchen making another (weeny) sandwich for DS

What happened to that sandwich?

Original poster
NaughtyLittlePassport · 30/05/2019 15:52

I give up. Too many who are hard of thinking.

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dreichuplands · 30/05/2019 15:52

I'm going to take a wild guess and say at the end of lunch OP and dc had both had a tiny sandwich, were still hungry so stopped for chips on the way home.

NoSauce · 30/05/2019 15:55

The OP has made out that only one sandwich was offered, she asked for another which was made and they had chips on the way home.

peasando · 30/05/2019 15:55

"a three year old 'portion' of bread is (i think) half a slice max."

Eh what? My two year old would happily eat a whole sandwich (two slices of bread) plus a piece of fruit and maybe a yoghurt for lunch. If I only gave him half a slice of bread he would be ravenous and a stroppy nightmare! He's in the 50th centile for weight so as average as they come...

redspider1 · 30/05/2019 16:02

Surprised the sandwich albeit small was not enough for a 3 year old. Why did you not give him the fruit and cheese you normally give him as a snack instead of chips?

Jinglejanglefish · 30/05/2019 16:04

Cos chips are nice

redspider1 · 30/05/2019 16:05

So are a lot of things but OP was keen to point out her healthy snack provision.

NoSauce · 30/05/2019 16:12

He had a sandwich, could have had some fruit and cheese too. I don’t understand why the Op was annoyed.

I wonder if the MIL is judging the OP on the amount she and DS eats? Not her business if she is.

sqirrelfriends · 30/05/2019 16:17

Does it really matter if OP had chips after? The point was she was expected as an adult to share a small sandwich.

I swear some people are just looking to argue over any little thing.

Singlenotsingle · 30/05/2019 16:18

My dgs6 and dgd3 are coming for tea today (tea, not lunch). I've got cheese wraps. (They love cheese wraps - 2 each). Babybels, sausage rolls, crisps, little chocolate cakes and ice cream. I don't want them going away hungry.

Looneytune253 · 30/05/2019 16:19

One slice of Normal bread is the recommended portion size for a young child anyway to be fair