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Can't he just have a bit of yours?

157 replies

NaughtyLittlePassport · 29/05/2019 14:32

No MIL, my ravenous 3 year old (because you don't believe in snacking) can't just have a bit of my lunch. I'm very grateful that you've looked after him this morning, and then made a ham salad sandwich for us but the portion is far too small for either of us! I did offer to bring lunch with me, but no, instead you're huffing around the kitchen making another (weeny) sandwich for DS. He'll finish that then inevitably hoover up what's left of mine.
We're getting chips on the way home!
Aaaargh Angry

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MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 29/05/2019 16:18

Chips are hardly a healthy lunch for a child!

kitkat6 · 29/05/2019 16:19

I love vogel bread!!

Vogel sandwich to share = unreasonable
Vogel sandwich if invited to lunch = unreasonable (assuming nothing else)
Vogel sandwich if you turn up unannounced = reasonable
Vogel sandwich for a three year old who has had a snack = reasonable
1/2 vogel sandwich for a three year old who has had a huge snack = reasonable
1/2 vogel sandwich for a grown adult who has been invited to eat lunch = WTAF!!

HundredMilesAnHour · 29/05/2019 16:23

Vogel is small slices, you need at least 2 sandwiches (4 slices) of it per person. Or 2 slices with a large omelette/ huge portion of chips.

Wtf? Only if you're very greedy or doing manual labour 12 hours a day.

I love Vogel bread. We always have it. And 2 slices is fine. 4 slices would be over-eating/greedy.

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Sunshineonleith12 · 29/05/2019 16:26

As my dad gets older, the portion sizes definitely get smaller! One crumpet for lunch. Or one carrot between 4 as part of the roast! He just can't manage much food anymore and presumes I'm the same. I wouldn't embarrass him though and also dont want to eat him out of house and home.

frogsoup · 29/05/2019 16:32

Rebecca I've also had three 3yos. Did you miss the bit where I say they are all skinny as rakes? Or are you seriously advocating restricting the calorific intake of a skinny 3yo to match some arbitrary portion size you have in your head, as opposed to letting them eat healthy food to appetite in a way that clearly works in keeping them a healthy weight?! I find this genuinely baffling. Your 3yos may have had bird-like appetites. Mine didn't. My letting my kids listen to their appetites is not the cause of the obesity crisis, what a screwed up thing to suggest!

Bluntness100 · 29/05/2019 16:34

Vogel is small slices, you need at least 2 sandwiches (4 slices) of it per person. Or 2 slices with a large omelette/ huge portion of chips

For lunch???

bakewelltarty · 29/05/2019 16:35

Just for clarity op said they had a sandwich each - 4 slices of bread. They didn't share one sandwich

Singlenotsingle · 29/05/2019 16:39

My 3yo dgd has a normal sandwich for lunch, two slices of bread with ham and mayo, or dairylea, plus a piece of fruit, yoghourt and maybe even crisps.

Pinkvoid · 29/05/2019 16:40

My exH thinks mashed carrots (so not actual mash but just mashed carrots), two Yorkshire puddings and some cabbage is an adequate dinner for our DC aged 6, 8 and 9. I have no idea why he thinks this but I always have to cook them another dinner when they return home.

I think some people have skewed ideas of what is an acceptable amount of food for children. Maybe they forget just how much energy they typically burn? No idea.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 29/05/2019 16:41

For a post-menopausal woman a two slice sandwich of Vogel bread (which is denser and more nutritious that the aerated white sliced variety) would be about right. She's just made the mistake of giving you what would be a suitable portion for her.

DontCallMeShitley · 29/05/2019 16:43

HundredMilesAnHour

Greedy? I never got fat because I didn't sit around all day in an office, and I didn't over-eat, maybe due to being a qualified nutritionist.

Balanced diet, I know how it works and I need 4 slices of bread, although most of it these days is sliced like doorsteps, polystyrene doorsteps, not real bread.

I think that 4 slices of a small loaf is fine for one meal, it doesn't mean you have to eat 3 gigantic meals a day, or be greedy.

Cranks, on the other hand is so dense that 2 slices really would be enough. Vogel is not as dense as it used to be.

Metabolism makes a difference too.

amusedbush · 29/05/2019 16:46

Penis portions chardonnay? Hahaha

Penis portions is when men are given more food than women simply for being male, even if they don't have an active job.

ImportantWater · 29/05/2019 16:46

I don’t understand how other people don’t understand the concept of a tiny sandwich. In OP’s case it was Vogel bread, but if you are using an uncut loaf you definitely get tiny sandwiches and then large sandwiches. I had a very tiny sandwich yesterday - but bulked it up with other stuff.

ImportantWater · 29/05/2019 16:47

I mean an uncut loaf you then cut yourself of course.

whingeygingy · 29/05/2019 16:49

Bird like appetite?Vogel is German for bird!😆

Jux · 29/05/2019 16:50

My MIL did the same. Every bloody week until she didn't bother (she lasted about 3 weeks).

What is itwith old ladies and gc food?! MIL would give dd a digestive biscuit for lunch. If dd asked for more then MIL'd share another one. One and a half biscuits for a 3 year old who'd spent 3 hours running about?

Silly old bag then publically announced that she hoped I'd "allow" her to seee more of dd in the coming year. She'd just stopped bothering! We waited for her for 3 hours the first week, then a couple of hours the next and only an hour the 3rd week. There was nothing wrong, we saw her at other times, I tried to dcover if she was having dd that week, but then I just stopped bothering too.

Meanwhile, everyone on her side of the family think I'm the bitch wouldn't allow the poor thing to see her only gc.

lotusbell · 29/05/2019 16:52

But you said you child will hoover up what is left of yours, why would there be any left if it's so small in the first place?

CannoninD · 29/05/2019 16:58

Hmm, I get you OP.

I’m a ‘tiny’ portions offender, my appetite (despite being under 30, fit and healthy) ... is similar to my friends 5 Yo in volume - dunno why 🙄

But I’m aware of this and therefore vastly over cater (by my standards) for any company. I’ve got a funny rep with friends and family for being a ‘feeder’ 😂 but I struggle to guess how much is appropriate so send to do a lot of ‘buffer style’ bits and tell people they won’t offend me if they don’t finish it!

magicBrenda · 29/05/2019 17:00

NaughtyLittlePassport oh I can raise you with my MIL....

MiL was doing Christmas lunch at an old folks home. I called in to see her as she was clearing up. She passed a lady that was helping her a bowl (think cereal bowl) with a little Xmas lunch in it. Honestly I thought it was just left overs. Lady starts eating Xmas lunch in bowl and mil sits beside her and starts calling her greedy because they were supposed to share! Shock

Lady helper was mortified.

Mil has eating eating issues.

redspider1 · 29/05/2019 17:05

Very rude of you. If I am invited for lunch I don't complain about the portion. I would always feed my child first and go without if necessary as I can wait.If I''m still hungry I'd eat more at home. It's only lunch, not your last supper!

NoSauce · 29/05/2019 17:07

If you know someone gives small portions it shouldn’t be a surprise. You either take your own food or ask for more.

BrendasUmbrella · 29/05/2019 17:11

The next time my grandmother puts more food on my brothers' plates I know I'm going to think "penis portions". Less food - the uterus tax.

redspider1 · 29/05/2019 17:12

So you turn up starving because you didn't eat breakfast and it's her fault? Learn to feed yourself before condemning others. If you really cared about your DS being so hungry why didn't you give him your sandwich? I would have.

INeedAFlerken · 29/05/2019 17:17

I wouldn't be grateful if someone had sole care of my child and didn't feed them adequately.

This.

It is necessary to point out to family members like this that people actually do need adequate food portions to function. Especially active, growing toddlers ... when they've been denied snacks since breakfast to boot!

Penis portions. Says it all about your MIL. SHe would have served up a proper lunch no doubt had her son been picking up the grandchild. Been there ... know I have to be vocal about food portions at inlaws.

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